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-=- I also would like to say I
think it's cool that you haven't gotten your feelings
all hurt by peole singling you out and said "well fine
then, I'm not going to say anything anymore".-=-

I used to get my feelings hurt when I was in my 20's. I would cry.
(It wasn't homeschooling, but other stuff of a similar philosophical nature.)

And I quit teaching because I was frustrated by the lazy bad attitudes of the
other teachers, and the dishonest caca of some of the parents, and the low
goals of the administration, and all that lack of vision and high ideals.

When I was in my 30's I'd get frustrated and try to figure out why other
people were more willing to be falsely nice than real, and why people at jobs
and in families were willing to bend their principles (if they even had any)
at the least hint of discussion (let alone argument). I learned a lot.

In my 40's, I figure some information is more important than comfort level,
and that I'm not personally responsible for everyone else's comfort level.
If I withhold crucial, life-changing information because it might disturb
someone's happy day, I might as well have a lobotomy and put my kids back in
school.

That's about the summary of the situation.

So some people who are not in their 40's or 50's and like to think that older
people don't know anything special even get offended when I discuss that
progression of understanding. I could just hush about it lest I might
disturb someone younger with the thought that they'd keep on learning every
day for many, many years (if they're lucky).

No I couldn't. <bwg>

Sandra

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In a message dated 02/14/2001 12:35:52 AM !!!First Boot!!!,
SandraDodd@... writes:


In my 40's, I figure some information is more important than comfort level,
and that I'm not personally responsible for everyone else's comfort level.  
If I withhold crucial, life-changing information because it might disturb
someone's happy day, I might as well have a lobotomy and put my kids back
in
school.  

That's about the summary of the situation.

So some people who are not in their 40's or 50's and like to think that
older
people don't know anything special even get offended when I discuss that
progression of understanding.   I could just hush about it lest I might
disturb someone younger with the thought that they'd keep on learning every
day for many, many years (if they're lucky).

No I couldn't. <bwg>

Sandra




Well, it is very interesting to hear about one woman's journey -- so far!

I am in my 40s and have so far ended up at a different place though.

Maybe where you get to depends on the journey -- or something like that!  :)

Glad you're enjoying discovering yourself along the way.

Nance

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In a message dated 2/13/01 6:07:52 PM, marbleface@... writes:

<< I am in my 40s and have so far ended up at a different place though. >>

It's probably a more mature version of the journey you've been on since your
20's, though. That was my point.

There are certain ways of being that are my personality and belief. When I
was young I was baffled by some things that are no longer baffling.

Sandra

Bobbie

hm. very nicely said and explained.

also, just to add, for rambling sake (one of my
favorite past times)
I thought I might want to be a teacher at one point
too. Then thought I couldn't handle that either cuz
the parents who really just didn't care about thier
kids would drive me insane. My sis was a teacher's aid
at a very *exclusive* (read: rich people, or people
who are broke just from paying the tuition) private
school in Phx and she said the same thing. Thier
parents pushed and pushed them to excel acedemically.
There were some that were involved and cared, but most
just dropped them off EARLY (6:30 AM) and picked them
up late (6:30PM) and never asked what was going on
with them....the part about that that would frustrate
me would be the same as working at a day care or
something like that...you are in charge of the primary
part of taking care of them all day...how they learn,
etc. But you have no rights and can do nothing else
for them once they leave your care. I would end up
ridiculously fighting for custody of 50 kids if it
were me. :)
-Bobbie
--- SandraDodd@... wrote:
> -=- I also would like to say I
> think it's cool that you haven't gotten your
> feelings
> all hurt by peole singling you out and said "well
> fine
> then, I'm not going to say anything anymore".-=-
>
> I used to get my feelings hurt when I was in my
> 20's. I would cry.
> (It wasn't homeschooling, but other stuff of a
> similar philosophical nature.)
>
> And I quit teaching because I was frustrated by the
> lazy bad attitudes of the
> other teachers, and the dishonest caca of some of
> the parents, and the low
> goals of the administration, and all that lack of
> vision and high ideals.
>
> When I was in my 30's I'd get frustrated and try to
> figure out why other
> people were more willing to be falsely nice than
> real, and why people at jobs
> and in families were willing to bend their
> principles (if they even had any)
> at the least hint of discussion (let alone
> argument). I learned a lot.
>
> In my 40's, I figure some information is more
> important than comfort level,
> and that I'm not personally responsible for everyone
> else's comfort level.
> If I withhold crucial, life-changing information
> because it might disturb
> someone's happy day, I might as well have a lobotomy
> and put my kids back in
> school.
>
> That's about the summary of the situation.
>
> So some people who are not in their 40's or 50's and
> like to think that older
> people don't know anything special even get offended
> when I discuss that
> progression of understanding. I could just hush
> about it lest I might
> disturb someone younger with the thought that they'd
> keep on learning every
> day for many, many years (if they're lucky).
>
> No I couldn't. <bwg>
>
> Sandra
>


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