Teaching children to stay safe
Dennis/Laurie Brown
I was going to stay out of
this...but...
The scenario below is EXACTLY the situation I
found myself in when I was 11 or 12. I was not able to get myself out of
the situation and was shot in the chest with a highly pumped pellet gun.
Luckily for me (and the boy with the gun) the gun was not a larger caliber and
the pellet lodged against my rib and I ultimately recovered okay.
There really was no way for me to anticipate
that my friend's little brother was going to decide to show off with his
gun. He didn't even know it was loaded and was showing off. I also
did not know there parents were not home. I had just arrived for a
pre-arranged after school play time, had found out no parents were home and was
putting on my coat to leave when her brother came into the room. He was
between me and the door. There was no talking him out of pulling the
trigger because he didn't know the gun was loaded and was 'playing' with
me. (His and his parents' level of irresponsibility is not the topic of my
post.)
My point is that responsible parents do their
best to train their children to react well in whatever circumstances they find
themselves. The scenario described is not at all far fetched.
This was not a gang neighborhood and my family was about conservative/(poorer)
middle class as they come. This was also 30 years ago when juvenile crime
and gangs and drug use was not nearly as common as it is today. I'm sure
the risks have not lessened any in 30 years.
Kudos to all parents who are doing their part
to protect their children by role playing and teaching them to be safe,
for helping them find answers that work for them. And, especially for
helping their children learn when mistakes have happened.
Eiraul
----- Original Message -----From: SandraDodd@...Sent: February 08, 2001 5:41 PMSubject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] There are lies and there are lies, was guns
In a message dated 2/8/01 6:26:23 PM, czuniga145@... writes:
<< What if the kid replied, "No, you're not," while pointing the gun at my
daughter, and standing between her and the door? >>
Does she know kids like that? Do you?
It sounds very much like a scene from a movie, and not even a very
imaginative movie. Sorry.
If you expect other people to act like dramatic movie characters, then I
guess you should have your own dramatic movie lines prepared.
So far I've disarmed (pun intended) more people with the truth than with any
thought-out dialog.
Perhaps it's a personality thing which my kids inherited. When they want to
leave a situation, they just leave, and the people they've walked away from
are usually well aware of why.
Sandra