opp's opinion, family bed, etc.
Christine Masloske
I've been away from my computer for days now getting ready for my
son's 8th birthday party and our family coming over to celebrate.
Last night was the big shindig and today I'm still reeling from some
of the comments from family members. It did take me days to get
ready for company because our house is always an obvious testimony to
the fact the we have 3 children who are home most of the time and who
have the freedom to explore our world!!
The big question last night to my 8yo was, "What did you do in school
today?". I was a little surprised when he responded, "I took the day
off." That must have meant that he was busy helping Mom clean and
help get meals ready for the younger two. Or it may have meant that
he didn't know quite how to respond!? The funny part, to me, is that
I didn't hear anyone ask the ps children what THEY did in school that
day! I think that when people come here they expect to find a
classroom in one of our rooms. I think that they have a hard time
seeing our whole house as the "classroom", but each room reflects
exactly that. My s-i-l (with no children) told my son that she felt
bad for him that he didn't get to play games at school for his
birthday! Do ps children really have all day long to play and
celebrate their birthdays?
My husband's family doesn't ask me about homeschooling or
unschooling, and I know that they themselves really don't know
anything about either except that it's different or weird to them.
In our home, since the day my first was born, I've shared a bed with
my children. I could never imagine it any other way. There were
many times over the years that I've felt like they "should" be
sleeping in their own beds since that's the way everyone does it. My
6yo daughter does sleep in her own bed every night and has for years
(does not like sleeping in our bed at all, but occassionally likes me
to sleep in her bed). Whenever I "should" on myself, I normally
regret it because what my heart says and what "should" says are
normally polar opposites!
My mother-in-law took the opportunity last night to talk to my sons
to try to convince them that they should be sleeping in their own
beds, starting last night!! My 3yo told grandma that Jason the 8yo
was going to sleep in my bed forever and take it with him when he
moves out!!! I loved it, especially because that's exactly what
Jason says. We do have a baby due in March and Jason is talking a
lot about sleeping in his own bed. We'll have to see how that goes
when the baby comes home. With this fourth child, I see little point
in even bringing the crib out because I know that he'll sleep in my
bed at home, just like he'll sleep in my arms at the hospital, much
to the nurses' dismay!
I whole-heartedly support "shared sleep", if that's what's right for
your family and only you know that. Just like all of the other
different or weird decision we've made with raising our children!
A normal morning in our house would be my children doing their own
thing up until about lunchtime. I think that they felt that their
family is expecting them to be "schooling" all day so this morning
they got out magnets and we played, discussed and experimented. Then
out came the clock and I was asked for a "lesson" in time by my
daughter. By lunchtime, I was schooled-out and escaped to these
message boards to hear from so many like-minded people!
These are my 2 cents on some recent topics!
Chris
Mommy to Jason (8), Angela (6-1/2), Daniel (3-1/2) and baby due in
March!!
P.S. 2000 years doesn't really change things much, individuals will
always have their belief or disbelief in who Jesus is (or was, for
some). I agree with keeping this particular message board to
unschooling. Maybe there is a place out in egroups that is both
unschooling and religious, or maybe someone can start one for a place
to share ideas...another$.02
son's 8th birthday party and our family coming over to celebrate.
Last night was the big shindig and today I'm still reeling from some
of the comments from family members. It did take me days to get
ready for company because our house is always an obvious testimony to
the fact the we have 3 children who are home most of the time and who
have the freedom to explore our world!!
The big question last night to my 8yo was, "What did you do in school
today?". I was a little surprised when he responded, "I took the day
off." That must have meant that he was busy helping Mom clean and
help get meals ready for the younger two. Or it may have meant that
he didn't know quite how to respond!? The funny part, to me, is that
I didn't hear anyone ask the ps children what THEY did in school that
day! I think that when people come here they expect to find a
classroom in one of our rooms. I think that they have a hard time
seeing our whole house as the "classroom", but each room reflects
exactly that. My s-i-l (with no children) told my son that she felt
bad for him that he didn't get to play games at school for his
birthday! Do ps children really have all day long to play and
celebrate their birthdays?
My husband's family doesn't ask me about homeschooling or
unschooling, and I know that they themselves really don't know
anything about either except that it's different or weird to them.
In our home, since the day my first was born, I've shared a bed with
my children. I could never imagine it any other way. There were
many times over the years that I've felt like they "should" be
sleeping in their own beds since that's the way everyone does it. My
6yo daughter does sleep in her own bed every night and has for years
(does not like sleeping in our bed at all, but occassionally likes me
to sleep in her bed). Whenever I "should" on myself, I normally
regret it because what my heart says and what "should" says are
normally polar opposites!
My mother-in-law took the opportunity last night to talk to my sons
to try to convince them that they should be sleeping in their own
beds, starting last night!! My 3yo told grandma that Jason the 8yo
was going to sleep in my bed forever and take it with him when he
moves out!!! I loved it, especially because that's exactly what
Jason says. We do have a baby due in March and Jason is talking a
lot about sleeping in his own bed. We'll have to see how that goes
when the baby comes home. With this fourth child, I see little point
in even bringing the crib out because I know that he'll sleep in my
bed at home, just like he'll sleep in my arms at the hospital, much
to the nurses' dismay!
I whole-heartedly support "shared sleep", if that's what's right for
your family and only you know that. Just like all of the other
different or weird decision we've made with raising our children!
A normal morning in our house would be my children doing their own
thing up until about lunchtime. I think that they felt that their
family is expecting them to be "schooling" all day so this morning
they got out magnets and we played, discussed and experimented. Then
out came the clock and I was asked for a "lesson" in time by my
daughter. By lunchtime, I was schooled-out and escaped to these
message boards to hear from so many like-minded people!
These are my 2 cents on some recent topics!
Chris
Mommy to Jason (8), Angela (6-1/2), Daniel (3-1/2) and baby due in
March!!
P.S. 2000 years doesn't really change things much, individuals will
always have their belief or disbelief in who Jesus is (or was, for
some). I agree with keeping this particular message board to
unschooling. Maybe there is a place out in egroups that is both
unschooling and religious, or maybe someone can start one for a place
to share ideas...another$.02
[email protected]
In a message dated 1/24/01 11:43:36 AM Pacific Standard Time,
cmas100@... writes:
<< It did take me days to get
ready for company because our house is always an obvious testimony to
the fact the we have 3 children who are home most of the time and who
have the freedom to explore our world!! >>
I love the way you put this. It makes me feel better about my house:>)
cmas100@... writes:
<< It did take me days to get
ready for company because our house is always an obvious testimony to
the fact the we have 3 children who are home most of the time and who
have the freedom to explore our world!! >>
I love the way you put this. It makes me feel better about my house:>)
[email protected]
Chris,
Thanks for your e-mail! We are having company this Sunday for the Superbowl
and I am worrying about all the comments that may or may not be made to my 8
yo son. One set of neighbors doesn't even know yet that he is homeschooled.
We just started in November, and between all the holidays and sicknesses that
ran through the house, we haven't gotten together with them since before that!
Oh and then there is my house to worry about! It looks like three kids
(8,5,3) run it! Oh well, if they don't like my dirty floors - too bad! We
will have about 10 kids in the house for Sunday - I certainly am not going to
kill myself cleaning before!
Ahhh life. The things we moms worry about. Your e-mail helped me get ready
for the onslaught of stupid questions myself and my son will have to deal
with.... Thank for you two cents...it was a gold mine to me!
Dawn
Thanks for your e-mail! We are having company this Sunday for the Superbowl
and I am worrying about all the comments that may or may not be made to my 8
yo son. One set of neighbors doesn't even know yet that he is homeschooled.
We just started in November, and between all the holidays and sicknesses that
ran through the house, we haven't gotten together with them since before that!
Oh and then there is my house to worry about! It looks like three kids
(8,5,3) run it! Oh well, if they don't like my dirty floors - too bad! We
will have about 10 kids in the house for Sunday - I certainly am not going to
kill myself cleaning before!
Ahhh life. The things we moms worry about. Your e-mail helped me get ready
for the onslaught of stupid questions myself and my son will have to deal
with.... Thank for you two cents...it was a gold mine to me!
Dawn
Christine Masloske
--- In [email protected], Zahmiller@a... wrote:
for our company...
My mil, her mother and one of my sister-in-laws are truly obsessive
compulsive cleaners. The day-to-day reality of my home would choke
them!! When it came to the kids rooms, they really did the best that
they could, but picture perfect would be a far cry from the truth.
They, of course, don't want me to go in there in clean it for them;
I'd ruin everything in their minds! So, when my husband was having a
last-minute conniption (sp?) about their rooms and the fact that I
had locked OUR bedroom up and off limits, I was sooo mad!! What does
he or anyone else expect? A part of me envies the people who are
organized and are always "company ready"; the other part loves the
fact that I enjoy my children and many other things in our lives, but
don't enjoy being tied down to a schedule, and I didn't hire on to be
a housekeeper.
So, thank you for your response; it's comforting to know I'm not the
only one...
Chris
> Chris,kids
>
>
> Oh and then there is my house to worry about! It looks like three
> (8,5,3) run it! Oh well, if they don't like my dirty floors - toobad! We
> will have about 10 kids in the house for Sunday - I certainly amnot going to
> kill myself cleaning before!get ready
>
> Ahhh life. The things we moms worry about. Your e-mail helped me
> for the onslaught of stupid questions myself and my son will haveto deal
> with.... Thank for you two cents...it was a gold mine to me!Now I'll share some little secrets about the reality of getting ready
>
> Dawn
for our company...
My mil, her mother and one of my sister-in-laws are truly obsessive
compulsive cleaners. The day-to-day reality of my home would choke
them!! When it came to the kids rooms, they really did the best that
they could, but picture perfect would be a far cry from the truth.
They, of course, don't want me to go in there in clean it for them;
I'd ruin everything in their minds! So, when my husband was having a
last-minute conniption (sp?) about their rooms and the fact that I
had locked OUR bedroom up and off limits, I was sooo mad!! What does
he or anyone else expect? A part of me envies the people who are
organized and are always "company ready"; the other part loves the
fact that I enjoy my children and many other things in our lives, but
don't enjoy being tied down to a schedule, and I didn't hire on to be
a housekeeper.
So, thank you for your response; it's comforting to know I'm not the
only one...
Chris
Bonnie Painter
You most definitely are not the only one. I have taken to really looking at
other people's houses when I am there, instead of seeing what I assume to be
a perfectly clean house, because I assume that my house is the only one
that's not. And you know something, their houses aren't perfectly clean
either! It's funny how I never noticed it before because I was too busy
thinking about how much my house was "not" that clean to even notice that
their's wasn't either.
We're with you on this one Chris.
Bonnie
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other people's houses when I am there, instead of seeing what I assume to be
a perfectly clean house, because I assume that my house is the only one
that's not. And you know something, their houses aren't perfectly clean
either! It's funny how I never noticed it before because I was too busy
thinking about how much my house was "not" that clean to even notice that
their's wasn't either.
We're with you on this one Chris.
Bonnie
>_________________________________________________________________
>So, thank you for your response; it's comforting to know I'm not the
>only one...
>
>Chris
>
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Simpson
Definitely not the only one! I have crash cleaning all the time when someone
calls to say they are comming!
if they don't call, then oh well, they get to see real life!!!
Tanya
calls to say they are comming!
if they don't call, then oh well, they get to see real life!!!
Tanya
>
>
> --- In [email protected], Zahmiller@a... wrote:
> > Chris,
> >
> >
> > Oh and then there is my house to worry about! It looks like three
> kids
> > (8,5,3) run it! Oh well, if they don't like my dirty floors - too
> bad! We
> > will have about 10 kids in the house for Sunday - I certainly am
> not going to
> > kill myself cleaning before!
> >
> > Ahhh life. The things we moms worry about. Your e-mail helped me
> get ready
> > for the onslaught of stupid questions myself and my son will have
> to deal
> > with.... Thank for you two cents...it was a gold mine to me!
> >
> > Dawn
>
> Now I'll share some little secrets about the reality of getting ready
> for our company...
>
> My mil, her mother and one of my sister-in-laws are truly obsessive
> compulsive cleaners. The day-to-day reality of my home would choke
> them!! When it came to the kids rooms, they really did the best that
> they could, but picture perfect would be a far cry from the truth.
> They, of course, don't want me to go in there in clean it for them;
> I'd ruin everything in their minds! So, when my husband was having a
> last-minute conniption (sp?) about their rooms and the fact that I
> had locked OUR bedroom up and off limits, I was sooo mad!! What does
> he or anyone else expect? A part of me envies the people who are
> organized and are always "company ready"; the other part loves the
> fact that I enjoy my children and many other things in our lives, but
> don't enjoy being tied down to a schedule, and I didn't hire on to be
> a housekeeper.
>
> So, thank you for your response; it's comforting to know I'm not the
> only one...
>
> Chris
>
>
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mary krzyzanowski
I'll never forget being at my sil's house (she has 2 dc) and my grandmother
commenting that the house looked more like a museum than a home. There were
no signs of children (toys, projects,etc.) anywhere. I'd much rather be in
my child-friendly home anyday.
Mary
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commenting that the house looked more like a museum than a home. There were
no signs of children (toys, projects,etc.) anywhere. I'd much rather be in
my child-friendly home anyday.
Mary
>From: "Bonnie Painter" <bonniepainter@...>_________________________________________________________________
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: opp's opinion, family bed, etc.
>Date: Thu, 25 Jan 2001 01:11:40
>
>You most definitely are not the only one. I have taken to really looking
>at
>other people's houses when I am there, instead of seeing what I assume to
>be
>a perfectly clean house, because I assume that my house is the only one
>that's not. And you know something, their houses aren't perfectly clean
>either! It's funny how I never noticed it before because I was too busy
>thinking about how much my house was "not" that clean to even notice that
>their's wasn't either.
>
>We're with you on this one Chris.
>
>Bonnie
>
>
> >
> >So, thank you for your response; it's comforting to know I'm not the
> >only one...
> >
> >Chris
> >
>
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