Fwd: frustrated child
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I don't know if this will help you but I wanted to reply to this question
because
I had this same expirience with my son (although I wasn't unschooling him at
the time - he was in a Waldorf school). First, I just wanted to say that
every year
gets better! He's now nine and his meltdowns are much less intense or very
fleeting.
Last night I asked him if he could explain what was going on for him. He said
basically exactly what you suspected, that what he pictured in his mind was
not
at all what he ended up with. Sometimes when we, or his teacher tried to help
it would upset him even more because he said it wasn't his work or his idea
and didn't count. My son was slow to learn to read, reversed letters and
numbers
(still does - but better), and had trouble remembering where to place letters.
For him, I wonder if this had something to do with why what was in his head
wasn't what came out on paper even in his drawings. I really don't know how
much
is his temperment and how much is visual caused frustration. Anyways, I
really just wanted to say, have hope because it gets easier. Also, he's too
young
to even know if he shows any dyslexic/dysgraphic tendencies but if he does in
the future , there is a writing program I just started. It's called
Handwriting Without Tears and you could use it as a reference when he's ready
(www.hwtears.com).
Hope it helps,
Dana
because
I had this same expirience with my son (although I wasn't unschooling him at
the time - he was in a Waldorf school). First, I just wanted to say that
every year
gets better! He's now nine and his meltdowns are much less intense or very
fleeting.
Last night I asked him if he could explain what was going on for him. He said
basically exactly what you suspected, that what he pictured in his mind was
not
at all what he ended up with. Sometimes when we, or his teacher tried to help
it would upset him even more because he said it wasn't his work or his idea
and didn't count. My son was slow to learn to read, reversed letters and
numbers
(still does - but better), and had trouble remembering where to place letters.
For him, I wonder if this had something to do with why what was in his head
wasn't what came out on paper even in his drawings. I really don't know how
much
is his temperment and how much is visual caused frustration. Anyways, I
really just wanted to say, have hope because it gets easier. Also, he's too
young
to even know if he shows any dyslexic/dysgraphic tendencies but if he does in
the future , there is a writing program I just started. It's called
Handwriting Without Tears and you could use it as a reference when he's ready
(www.hwtears.com).
Hope it helps,
Dana
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Dana,
Good to know there is hope! I think was is even more frustrating for me is
that he seems to "get" so many things, that I wonder why he struggles with
writing sometimes. I am almost convinced that there is a different picture
in his head than what comes out on the paper. He writes backwards almost
always and I thought maybe it had something to do with being left handed.
Some of my relatives are suggesting that maybe he is dyslexic, but I thought
it was too early to tell.
Like I said in my earlier post, it is not as if his meltdowns occur very
often, but once in a while it gets to both of us. Having some feedback on
the topic has been helpful. Thanks.
Sandy
Good to know there is hope! I think was is even more frustrating for me is
that he seems to "get" so many things, that I wonder why he struggles with
writing sometimes. I am almost convinced that there is a different picture
in his head than what comes out on the paper. He writes backwards almost
always and I thought maybe it had something to do with being left handed.
Some of my relatives are suggesting that maybe he is dyslexic, but I thought
it was too early to tell.
Like I said in my earlier post, it is not as if his meltdowns occur very
often, but once in a while it gets to both of us. Having some feedback on
the topic has been helpful. Thanks.
Sandy