Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] adoption and hs
Olivia
I can understand that it would be easy and natural to love an adopted
child. However, I am not sure my 7 yo boy would agree (unless we adopted
another 7yo boy who liked everything he liked!) Then again, I guess that
would be no different than if he had a sibling by birth with all the
rivalry that goes on there. Beyond that, my concerns are related to the
attitude of adoption authorities to homeschooling; is it a plus or minus in
their eyes? How does one find a compatible agency? My age is a factor here
too, since I am almost too old for an infant adoption (almost 41) unless I
go to an international adoption (which is not necessarily a problem). Then
there is the cost! I wonder how many children still wait for a home because
the cost of adoption is fairly high.
Well, I'm just thinking out loud here. :-)
Thanks for your response!
Olivia
child. However, I am not sure my 7 yo boy would agree (unless we adopted
another 7yo boy who liked everything he liked!) Then again, I guess that
would be no different than if he had a sibling by birth with all the
rivalry that goes on there. Beyond that, my concerns are related to the
attitude of adoption authorities to homeschooling; is it a plus or minus in
their eyes? How does one find a compatible agency? My age is a factor here
too, since I am almost too old for an infant adoption (almost 41) unless I
go to an international adoption (which is not necessarily a problem). Then
there is the cost! I wonder how many children still wait for a home because
the cost of adoption is fairly high.
Well, I'm just thinking out loud here. :-)
Thanks for your response!
Olivia
> Date: Tue, 17 Oct 2000 08:46:49 -0000
> From: tonitoni@...
>Subject: Olivia
>
>My eldest son was adopted. I didnt home school him. I hadnt heard
>of h/s then. He was 6months old when came to into my life. I loved
>him from the first time i set eyes on him. I gave birth to 4
>children after Tommy. I love them all equaly.
>Once you adopt a child. That child is yours just as if you had given
>birth - so I cant see h/s being any different to h/s your own child.
>Sorry...I am presuming the laws are the same in USA.
>marianne
Valerie
Beyond that, my concerns are related to the
attitude of adoption authorities to homeschooling; is it a plus or minus in
their eyes? How does one find a compatible agency? My age is a factor here
too, since I am almost too old for an infant adoption (almost 41) unless I
go to an international adoption (which is not necessarily a problem). Then
there is the cost! I wonder how many children still wait for a home because
the cost of adoption is fairly high.
Olivia
Hi Olivia. Age and marital status (and coming up with the adoption fee) is
much more important to adoption agencies and and powers that be than
homeschooling. You're right that you'd probably have an easier time with an
international adoption. It's really the current laws that keep children in
perpetual foster care that keeps them unadopted, rather than the cost. And
gone are the days when there were so many healthy newborn babies
relinquished that the doctors and agencies would call a-parents and beg them
to take another. Now it's difficult to get a healthy newborn, especially if
you want him/her to resemble you.
Around here there's always some free seminars and meetings about
international adoptions (along with follow up support groups) My neighbor
adopted a 6 mo old from India, now a very handsome 10 year old. They still
get together with other families who adopted from India every year for a
cultural exchange and catching up.
I hope I don't sound too hopeless about domestic adoptions. In general, you
can adopt, but the wait might be too much. Also, there's still the
possiblity that the birthparents could change their mind about relinquishing
after you have the baby home...international adoptions are less "chancy"
that way.
---Valerie
attitude of adoption authorities to homeschooling; is it a plus or minus in
their eyes? How does one find a compatible agency? My age is a factor here
too, since I am almost too old for an infant adoption (almost 41) unless I
go to an international adoption (which is not necessarily a problem). Then
there is the cost! I wonder how many children still wait for a home because
the cost of adoption is fairly high.
Olivia
Hi Olivia. Age and marital status (and coming up with the adoption fee) is
much more important to adoption agencies and and powers that be than
homeschooling. You're right that you'd probably have an easier time with an
international adoption. It's really the current laws that keep children in
perpetual foster care that keeps them unadopted, rather than the cost. And
gone are the days when there were so many healthy newborn babies
relinquished that the doctors and agencies would call a-parents and beg them
to take another. Now it's difficult to get a healthy newborn, especially if
you want him/her to resemble you.
Around here there's always some free seminars and meetings about
international adoptions (along with follow up support groups) My neighbor
adopted a 6 mo old from India, now a very handsome 10 year old. They still
get together with other families who adopted from India every year for a
cultural exchange and catching up.
I hope I don't sound too hopeless about domestic adoptions. In general, you
can adopt, but the wait might be too much. Also, there's still the
possiblity that the birthparents could change their mind about relinquishing
after you have the baby home...international adoptions are less "chancy"
that way.
---Valerie
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It is tooo bad there is so much red tape in our country.....I am sure there
are tons of children that need great homes but are tied up in the legal
system, lost .....
I would love to adopt children in need of a good home, but the cost will cut
us out, I am afraid. (Not that we can afford another child right now, not
matter how God decided it bring them into our lives.)
Anyway, best of luck to you all. Keep us up to date on what you find out.....
Julie
are tons of children that need great homes but are tied up in the legal
system, lost .....
I would love to adopt children in need of a good home, but the cost will cut
us out, I am afraid. (Not that we can afford another child right now, not
matter how God decided it bring them into our lives.)
Anyway, best of luck to you all. Keep us up to date on what you find out.....
Julie
Olivia
Hi Valerie:
I am not discouraged; I think your post was very honest and realistic. I am
not so firm about having an infant. Actually, given our age and the age of
my son, I think bringing a slightly older child (toddler age) into our home
may be a better fit. (The one thing I would miss in not having an infant
would be the chance to nurse and carry a child again.) But you are right
about the red tape involved in domestic adoptions. It angers me that
children wait for a loving home because of legal limitations. I think I
will try to attend a seminar on international adoption. I need to find out
the exact cost and the length of the wait.
Olivia
I am not discouraged; I think your post was very honest and realistic. I am
not so firm about having an infant. Actually, given our age and the age of
my son, I think bringing a slightly older child (toddler age) into our home
may be a better fit. (The one thing I would miss in not having an infant
would be the chance to nurse and carry a child again.) But you are right
about the red tape involved in domestic adoptions. It angers me that
children wait for a loving home because of legal limitations. I think I
will try to attend a seminar on international adoption. I need to find out
the exact cost and the length of the wait.
Olivia
> Date: Tue, 17 Oct 2000 07:21:08 -0700
> From: "Valerie" <valeries@...>
>Subject: RE: adoption and hs
>
>Hi Olivia. Age and marital status (and coming up with the adoption fee) is
>much more important to adoption agencies and and powers that be than
>homeschooling. You're right that you'd probably have an easier time with an
>international adoption. It's really the current laws that keep children in
>perpetual foster care that keeps them unadopted, rather than the cost. And
>gone are the days when there were so many healthy newborn babies
>relinquished that the doctors and agencies would call a-parents and beg them
>to take another. Now it's difficult to get a healthy newborn, especially if
>you want him/her to resemble you.
>
>Around here there's always some free seminars and meetings about
>international adoptions (along with follow up support groups) My neighbor
>adopted a 6 mo old from India, now a very handsome 10 year old. They still
>get together with other families who adopted from India every year for a
>cultural exchange and catching up.
>
>I hope I don't sound too hopeless about domestic adoptions. In general, you
>can adopt, but the wait might be too much. Also, there's still the
>possiblity that the birthparents could change their mind about relinquishing
>after you have the baby home...international adoptions are less "chancy"
>that way.
>
>---Valerie
Olivia
Hi Julie:
I was poking around on the Internet again last night and I came across one
agency's fee for an adoption from China: it was over $10,000, with the
travel fees and all. How can one put a monetary value on a life? We can
afford the daily care of another child, but the up-front cost is so high.
Maybe I've been reading and thinking too much about simplifying our life,
but I hate how the pursuit of money rules our society! (I'm stomping on
that box I'm standing on now because I'm mad... I hope this thing isn't
made of cheap cardboard or I'll be falling through it! LOL)
Olivia
I was poking around on the Internet again last night and I came across one
agency's fee for an adoption from China: it was over $10,000, with the
travel fees and all. How can one put a monetary value on a life? We can
afford the daily care of another child, but the up-front cost is so high.
Maybe I've been reading and thinking too much about simplifying our life,
but I hate how the pursuit of money rules our society! (I'm stomping on
that box I'm standing on now because I'm mad... I hope this thing isn't
made of cheap cardboard or I'll be falling through it! LOL)
Olivia
> Date: Tue, 17 Oct 2000 12:06:06 EDT
> From: Jaam1224@...
>Subject: Re: adoption and hs
>
>It is tooo bad there is so much red tape in our country.....I am sure there
>are tons of children that need great homes but are tied up in the legal
>system, lost .....
>
>I would love to adopt children in need of a good home, but the cost will cut
>us out, I am afraid. (Not that we can afford another child right now, not
>matter how God decided it bring them into our lives.)
>
>Anyway, best of luck to you all. Keep us up to date on what you find out.....
>
>Julie
Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall
>I was poking around on the Internet again last night and I came across oneHey, 10,000 is LOW. I have seen domestic agencies with fees upwards of 30,000 for infants.
>agency's fee for an adoption from China: it was over $10,000, with the
>travel fees and all.
Nanci K.
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Olivia,
The images you are sending are just too funny : ) I thought the cost might be
that high. What a shame, that leaves tons of good parents out of the loop.
I mean really, who can just reach in their pocket and pull out $10,000 .
Julie
The images you are sending are just too funny : ) I thought the cost might be
that high. What a shame, that leaves tons of good parents out of the loop.
I mean really, who can just reach in their pocket and pull out $10,000 .
Julie
Olivia
> Date: Thu, 19 Oct 2000 14:16:14 -0700$30,000!! I guess I am naive about the price...and saddened too.
> From: "Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall" <tn-k4of5@...>
>Subject: RE:adoption and hs
>
>Hey, 10,000 is LOW. I have seen domestic agencies with fees upwards of
>30,000 for infants.
>
>Nanci K.
Olivia