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In a message dated 10/15/00 5:35:27 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< We are unschooling an only child, 3.5 years, and I look forward to his
independence as it seems your son has at 6 >>

Shannon, glad to meet another USr (unschooler) of a three year old, in a
one-child family. Ben's birthday was August 30. Do you have children much
much older, is your 3.5 year old the one child you have? I have friends who
don't much like the term "only", and I agree, much in the same way some of my
adoptive mother friends object to adopt-a-highway campaigns.

cath in montreal
hoping for more kids, just because i love being pregnant and want a home
birth this time!!!

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In a message dated 10/15/00 5:35:27 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< But there
are other personal, emotional issues that go into the decision to add to
one's family that need to be considered. It is difficult to weigh all the
options sometimes. >>

Olivia, thank you for sharing. I am new to the list and appreciate getting
to know everyone. I agree with your comment above that the option-weighing
process with regard to future children is challenging. I / we have to weigh
the desire for sharing a pregnancy-birth-new sibling experience with each
other and our son, with the fact that fertility treatments are very expensive
and emotionally exhausting. For some, adding children is a surprise or a
no-brainer (comes without a thought), and I am in serious envy!! Anyway, I
wish you well in your decision making and peace of mind with the way things
are going.

cath

Valerie

For some, adding children is a surprise or a
no-brainer (comes without a thought), and I am in serious envy!!

cath

As I remember it, there was very little thinking required. I know there was
champagne involved, though. Maybe that's what causes it.

--Valerie

Tracy Oldfield

Sometimes it's a surprise to one even though the
other's thought very much about it :-)

Tracy

For some, adding children is a surprise or a
no-brainer (comes without a thought), and I am in
serious envy!!

cath

Cindy L.

>
> Shannon, glad to meet another USr (unschooler) of a three year old, in a
> one-child family. Ben's birthday was August 30. Do you have children
much
> much older, is your 3.5 year old the one child you have? I have friends
who
> don't much like the term "only", and I agree, much in the same way some of
my
> adoptive mother friends object to adopt-a-highway campaigns.
>
> cath in montreal
> hoping for more kids, just because i love being pregnant and want a home
> birth this time!!!


Hello to all,

I also have an 'only' son, he is 3.10 y/o. We don't plan on additional
children for several reasons, but I still have occasional guilt pangs.
There are times I would so love for Graham to have a sibling, but for the
most part I've got all I can handle with just one child. I have taken a lot
of criticism from the extended family about the only child situation, and
they don't even know about our homeschooling plans- LOL! Fortunately my
immediate family is so completely thrilled to have Graham around that they
never seem to feel a need for something more. (Not that other children
would be unwelcome.) It is nice to find other parents who unschool an
'only', it does seem a little frightening at times, and it's so helpful to
have the support!

Cindy L.