Michelle Harper

Hi All,  I'm picking up on this country thread...I want soo much to move farther away from the city...we were a ways away, until this area became the development capital.  All 5 acre plots being sold out for large 224,000$ particle board houses & condos..with No land...what a profit, but what a loss for the community..soon there will be no wild places for the kiddies in the area to explore in, and they will all be playing in the street, instead.  I wish to have  a little farm, out in the country where we can have a little peace & quiet....grow our garden, and care for our animals.  3 dogs, 2 cats 2 birds, 2 fish, and a wonderful goat..oh yah....and 3 silkworms...one about to emmerge from his cocoon.  I dislike the hustle & bustle, and want my son to learn a quality of life, aside from integrating into a fast moving society.......my motto is find your self, your skills, your dreams& passions...then offer them to the world.......not be given a skill ..be given the self you are expected to be, and then have no choice but to integrate with what you've been given.....without your deepest hopes & dreams, and the natural skills you've been born with , and learned to fulfill them......life has little meaning, in my opinion.  The world is such a backwards place.....be like everyone else.....seems the goal.....despite their best efforts to say you are all unique..but fullfilling those unique personality fluxes........is not their job....and alot of things fall under, well that's not my job......if we could all just do the job that comes naturally to us using the skills we are best at....we would all find the perfect place.  It's a shame all this brainwashing, stripping of spirit, and seperation of family, manipulation.  I hear this lady last night on Oprah...they were covering the topic of letting go of your children when they go off to college...how important it was to let go, so you could be your own individual person, how healthy it was for you to do so....how your relationship SHOULD change so they can go off into the world, and you should do some volunteer work to cope with it.....Now I'm not saying some of what she said wasn't true.....but the part of reinventing yourslef...find something else to do...you've moved beyond being a Mother get a new carreer stuff, was insulting.  Being a Mother is something you never really stop doing, once it is a part of who you are.  And the natural transition from Mother used to be to GRandMother.....I heard no mention of this....just a start all over again attitude.....ofcourse ineviteably kids grow up, and often find doing there own thing is somewhere other than , where you are at, but not all the time, and that doesn't change the strength or end the need for a MOther.  I know this.....the norm of this society to seperate from their families so readily, is absurd to me..there is nothing more warming than the home of close family..and it is NOT natural to seperate to such degrees, in my opinion.  I think it had alot to do with the Tough Love era....where you abandon the one that causes you stress.....this is now accepteable.  (just when they need you most)  I haven't had my Mother since I was 15..when I was married for the first time...it was if this is your choice get out, and stay out....and that's the way it was.....my relationship with my parents because of extreme distance, and long periods of non communication.....has all but shriveled away.....I have tried to express my desire to rekindle some type of relationship, but them being in Florida, and me being in Washington...conveniently keeps us apart.  We speak once about every six months..how's the weather stuff.......and send gifts on holidays..but who told these people that once someone leaves their home...they no longer need the relationship , care & love of a , and communication with their Mother & Father.  I do alot of things differently than they did...for many reasons....I still respect & Love them deeply......the world seems so Backwards to me....priorities are jumbled......often we feel we are the only ones who see it.   But you know what ...that's ok..we'll teach our children to see it, and do what we feel is healthiest, happiest, and mose fulfilling for us, and not give a damn what the rest of the world thinks.  The best way to teach someone is by action, and dedication, and from leanring from your mistakes..or in some cases the mistakes of others.
 
Michelle, Dana & Zain Harper
The Great NorthWest Washington
Legendary Tree & Landscape