Thomas and Nanci Kuykendall

>But... but... I'm not always thinking. Sometimes I'm just reacting.
>Sometimes it's a gut-level "this feels right" type of thing. If I had to
>analyze what I do enough to explain it to someone else it would drive me
>nuts. I do what I do and that's cool.

If someone *asks* you for your ideas or
>advice, why does it bother you if they accept or
>reject or totally ignore your advice? They might *appear* to ignore me at
the time, but they'll often come
>around a day or two later
It is hard to impossible to >do anything unthinkingly. But I don't see any
reason to be constantly
>analyzing, agonizing, poking, prodding, checking, rechecking, and
>critically examining what we do. For some people, it's probably a
>necessity. For others, it's a damned nuisance.
>In thoughtful good fun,
>Helen


Helen, the more I hear, the more I like. I often look at the world and
those around me in an analytical way. But then I let these thoughts
percolate for a while, and I do not feel the need to constantly qualify
them to anyone, even myself. The mind works in mysterious ways, and when
they are ready to come to fruition, they do. I don't "force" myself to
examine and dissect my views and beliefs or lifestyle more than I feel
compelled to, any more than I feel a need to "force" my children to learn.

I guess Sandra's attitude seemed to me to be 'Prove you are an Unschooler
and prove you mean it.' Which put me on the defensive, as I don't like not
being taken at my word, or being asked to prove I am 'worthy.' Not that
she was talking to me specifically, and she might not even have been
communicating that but that us what I heard. I don't like argument and
contention for it's own sake. I can debate with the best of them when I
feel there is a need and I feel strongly about the issue, but I don't pick
fights with unwilling partners, nor do I seek debate. In coming here I
seek to learn, grow and get/give support. In that capacity I think Snadra
has some wonderfully educational things to say and I do enjoy learing about
the views and ideas of others. I just don't want participation to mean
that I have to walk through the gauntlet every time I communicate here,
know what I mean?

Learning, Growing, Believing, Loving, Knowing, Being.

Nanci K. in Idaho

Helen

At 11:35 AM -0600 6/18/99, Thomas and Nanci Kuykendall wrote:
> In coming here I
>seek to learn, grow and get/give support. In that capacity I think Snadra
>has some wonderfully educational things to say and I do enjoy learing about
>the views and ideas of others. I just don't want participation to mean
>that I have to walk through the gauntlet every time I communicate here,
>know what I mean?

I sure do, Nanci. I've been enjoying the sharing on this list. I hope it's
meeting people's needs as a list addressing unschooling issues.

I've been meaning to ask: Did anyone receive the message from Lisa this
morning about the "News from AHA-Networking" and the Statement about the
recent Gentle Spirit Magazine lawsuit? My copy came through blank and I've
been assuming it was just a glitch in my software, but since there have
been no questions or comments on this critically important case I'm
beginning to wonder if it was a misfire.

Just in case, I'll forward the message we sent to the AHA lists this
morning, with apologies to everyone who's seeing this on many multiple
lists as it spreads through the homeschooling community. <s>

Helen
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http://unschooling.com
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<< Did anyone receive the message from Lisa this
morning about the "News from AHA-Networking" and the Statement about the
recent Gentle Spirit Magazine lawsuit? >>

I received both.