Father's who want control
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In a message dated 8/4/2000 3:38:37 AM US Mountain Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< He said he is ok with unschooling as long as I understand that he will be
quizzing the kids from time to time. >>
Hi all:
I've been silent for a while, but when something annoys me I have to say
something. What I love (sarcastic tone) about these "husbands/fathers/men of
children" is that it seems to me they are at work most of the time and don't
actually participate in the daily dealing with kids who are unschooled. It's
like they are the teachers and the wives have to prove to them what the kids
are learning or she won't be able to go on with it.
I have found in all things that the less someone knows about a subject, such
as unschooling, the Libertarian Party, England, astrologer.... you pick the
subject, the more opinions they have about why it won't work or if you would
do.... then it would be like school...
I just think that living outside of the box as I do with this unschooling
situation is very misunderstood by others. My husband is not one of those
"I'll quiz them to see if they are up to the level I think they should be at,
even though I'm not around them most of the day" husband and when we were
looking at sending Zak to Preschool. He said something like "I want to make
sure it's blah, blah, blah and blah, blah, blah (you fill in the blanks)" My
response was "that's nice dear"... I completely ignored him because I knew he
wouldn't be the one doing the research and reading the books etc. If they
are that interested in what's going on then they will be the ones to stay
home and see on a daily basis what they are learning, without coming home and
"quizzing" them.
Hopefully those of you who are married to these "types" won't get defensive
about their behaviour but if you do, maybe that's something to look at....
Dawn F
[email protected] writes:
<< He said he is ok with unschooling as long as I understand that he will be
quizzing the kids from time to time. >>
Hi all:
I've been silent for a while, but when something annoys me I have to say
something. What I love (sarcastic tone) about these "husbands/fathers/men of
children" is that it seems to me they are at work most of the time and don't
actually participate in the daily dealing with kids who are unschooled. It's
like they are the teachers and the wives have to prove to them what the kids
are learning or she won't be able to go on with it.
I have found in all things that the less someone knows about a subject, such
as unschooling, the Libertarian Party, England, astrologer.... you pick the
subject, the more opinions they have about why it won't work or if you would
do.... then it would be like school...
I just think that living outside of the box as I do with this unschooling
situation is very misunderstood by others. My husband is not one of those
"I'll quiz them to see if they are up to the level I think they should be at,
even though I'm not around them most of the day" husband and when we were
looking at sending Zak to Preschool. He said something like "I want to make
sure it's blah, blah, blah and blah, blah, blah (you fill in the blanks)" My
response was "that's nice dear"... I completely ignored him because I knew he
wouldn't be the one doing the research and reading the books etc. If they
are that interested in what's going on then they will be the ones to stay
home and see on a daily basis what they are learning, without coming home and
"quizzing" them.
Hopefully those of you who are married to these "types" won't get defensive
about their behaviour but if you do, maybe that's something to look at....
Dawn F
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<< As long as everyone decides to drop the subject here, I am willing to do
the same. I do, however feel that I deserve an apology, whether it be public
or private. >>
Meschell:
Talk about control!!!!! Wow.... so I'm not allowed to respond to anything or
say anything about a particular subject unless I first get your approval?
Now that's a novel idea in my life (LOL)... That's not how life works
Meschell... If you don't like something then it's up to you to take a look at
what buttons that pushes in your life and how you need to deal with those
feelings, not try and stop other people from having their own belief systems.
Or is that the Christian thing to do. I'd hate to think that you are
representing the Christian religion in telling people (presumably including
me) to stop talking about something. I'm in America and one of the reasons
to be here is freedom of speech and not to be quashed by someone's religious
beliefs. I could have stayed in England and been told what to believe (LOL)
Some of the above is said with annoyance... Annoyance that anyone would try
and stop me from saying my piece... Some of it is said with incredulity that
anyone would believe they have the right to do so... And some of it is said
with laughter and the absurdity of the situation....
As always I shall continue to give my opinion when I want to. (said with
conviction)
Dawn F
the same. I do, however feel that I deserve an apology, whether it be public
or private. >>
Meschell:
Talk about control!!!!! Wow.... so I'm not allowed to respond to anything or
say anything about a particular subject unless I first get your approval?
Now that's a novel idea in my life (LOL)... That's not how life works
Meschell... If you don't like something then it's up to you to take a look at
what buttons that pushes in your life and how you need to deal with those
feelings, not try and stop other people from having their own belief systems.
Or is that the Christian thing to do. I'd hate to think that you are
representing the Christian religion in telling people (presumably including
me) to stop talking about something. I'm in America and one of the reasons
to be here is freedom of speech and not to be quashed by someone's religious
beliefs. I could have stayed in England and been told what to believe (LOL)
Some of the above is said with annoyance... Annoyance that anyone would try
and stop me from saying my piece... Some of it is said with incredulity that
anyone would believe they have the right to do so... And some of it is said
with laughter and the absurdity of the situation....
As always I shall continue to give my opinion when I want to. (said with
conviction)
Dawn F