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Djedi:

What a wonderful idea, the healing circle! I think I may do some little
ceremony with my son, after our adoption is complete (my hubby is adopting my
son-the evil ex signed over his parental rights when I started going after
money). What a wonderfully sensitive mom you must be! Want to adopt a 36
yo? :)

The healing cirlce would be especially great since my son has decided to
explore wiccans. He is a wonderfully inquisitive boy, I really love
following his lead!

Amy




In a message dated 07/31/2000 4:16:03 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
hearthen@... writes:

> New Years Eve, we had a healing circle that included a "funeral" ceremony
for
> the
> father that JL never had, and a snuffing of his father's candle. This part
> was
> JL's inclusion, and it turned out to be crucial to the ceremony. In fact
it
> had
> to be (rather gleefully) snuffed three times before it was really "done".
> After
> that the intensity went out of his feelings about his father, and they
> gradually
> just faded away. Now, at 14, he has no particular feelings toward his
father
> (not
> conscious ones anyway), and there has been almost no contact for years (a
30
> second birthday phone call 2 or 3 years ago).
>
> A legally simple situation; his demand for joint custody was laughable. I
> hope
> all goes well in the situation you are thinking of.
>

Cathie _

>The healing cirlce would be especially great since my son has decided to
>explore wiccans. He is a wonderfully inquisitive boy, I really love
>following his lead!
>
>Amy
>

Wow! My dd got interested in Wicca last year-I knew nothing about it, but we
took a class together, checked out some websites, got a whole lot of new
books, learned a whole lot, and then decided we are pagan, but not wiccan.
Homeschool takes some different turns, doesn't it? I totally love the way we
learn from our kids.

How old is your son?

Cathie
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Laura M

djedi,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have a 12 yo stepson who we
will be homeschooling in the fall. I am wondering how his "mother" will
react when we inform her of our family's decision. We have joint
residential custody, but she has never been involved in his education
before. It should be interesting. I've been wondering what the legal
ramifications could be if she gives us a hard time. How much say does
someone have if they have joint non-residential custody? Anyone know?
Laura


>From: djedi <hearthen@...>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: custody issue
>Date: Thu, 27 Jul 2000 12:59:59 -0500
>
> >
>
>Hi Amy,
>Seems like a long time ago now - about 9 years! - that my son's father,
>Ted,
>decided to file for divorce. We'd been living separately for over 4 years;
>my son
>was 5. The two had seen each other for a total of about - oh, I'd say 8 to
>12
>hours in those four years. Ted wanted joint custody because he "wasn't
>sure"
>about "this homeschooling thing". He lived 300 miles away, and didn't want
>to
>take over the parenting or anything, he just wanted to be able to make
>decisions
>about how "his son" should live! He'd pay for the divorce and everything, I
>didn't have to worry about that. He'd take care of it all as soon as he got
>back
>from his trip to Hawaii. (Nice of him!) Well, as you can imagine, the next
>day I
>went out and got myself a lawyer and filed for divorce on my terms. His
>case was
>a lost cause from the start, and though the lawyers tried to screw us
>around and
>make it take a lot longer than it should have, and I ended up with a lot
>less in
>child support than I think I should have, I have sole custody of my son,
>and
>we've been homeschooling ever since.
>
>Ted never was able to handle the responsiblilty of fatherhood, and the 6 or
>7
>years of his life before my son finally divorced his dad were filled with
>lies
>and broken promises on Ted's part, and heartbreak, anger, hatred, guilt,
>fear and
>nightmares for my son. Finally, I don't remember if JL was 6 or 7, at
>midnight on
>New Years Eve, we had a healing circle that included a "funeral" ceremony
>for the
>father that JL never had, and a snuffing of his father's candle. This part
>was
>JL's inclusion, and it turned out to be crucial to the ceremony. In fact it
>had
>to be (rather gleefully) snuffed three times before it was really "done".
>After
>that the intensity went out of his feelings about his father, and they
>gradually
>just faded away. Now, at 14, he has no particular feelings toward his
>father (not
>conscious ones anyway), and there has been almost no contact for years (a
>30
>second birthday phone call 2 or 3 years ago).
>
>A legally simple situation; his demand for joint custody was laughable. I
>hope
>all goes well in the situation you are thinking of.
>
>djedi
>
> >
>
> > ________________________________________________________________________
> >
> > Message: 14
> > Date: Sat, 29 Jul 2000 23:46:01 EDT
> > From: AmyKCA@...
> > Subject: Re: New to the list
> >
> > Hi! I am new to the list, my name is Amy, and I am the proud mom of one
>son.
> > My ds is 7 1/2 yo, and we are unschoolers. I also run an award winning
> > In-Home Daycare for children, lead a 4-H group, and have started a local
> > homeschooling support group. Of course, I could not do all of this
>without
> > the support of my wonderful hubby, he is the best. My son is an
>Active/Alert
> > child, which is sort of a combination of traits from ADD, ADHD, and ODD.
> > These children are very bright, but will defy you to the ends of the
>earth.
> > Essentially their main problem is that they have hyper-sensitive sensory
> > perceptions, and therefore feel overwhelmed most of the time. This in
>turn
> > creates a fearful child, who tries to control this fear by controlling
> > his/her environment (clear as mud?) Anyway, I really look forward to
> > exchanging ideas and stories with all of you.
> >
> > I do have one request: If any of you have been involved in a custody
>issue
> > with an ex-spouse (that involved homeschooling), and if you don't mind
> > sharing your story with other homeschoolers, would you please email me
> > privately? Thanks so much.
> >
> > Best wishes,
> > Amy Aponte
>

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Cathi:

My son is 7 1/2, and ALL BOY! He has an active/alert personality (know
anyone who sells running shoes cheap:0) ?) He really loves to explore
anything and everything, like taking apart the fish tank! :0) Hope he does
not decide to take apart the cat, to see how she works! <G>

Best wishes,
Amy Aponte



In a message dated 07/31/2000 9:20:08 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
cathie_98@... writes:

> Wow! My dd got interested in Wicca last year-I knew nothing about it, but
we
> took a class together, checked out some websites, got a whole lot of new
> books, learned a whole lot, and then decided we are pagan, but not wiccan.
> Homeschool takes some different turns, doesn't it? I totally love the way
we
>
> learn from our kids.
>
> How old is your son?
>
> Cathie
> _________

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Laura:

Could you please let me know what happens? I am collecting info on legal
cases when they involve homeschooling. You can send it directly to me, and
also let me know if you can give permission to have your story, should you
become involved in a legal battle over the homeschooling, published on a
legal site for homeschoolers. We can use aliases if you prefer.

Thanks,
Amy Aponte




In a message dated 08/01/2000 5:58:30 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
lauramatec@... writes:

> Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have a 12 yo stepson who we
> will be homeschooling in the fall. I am wondering how his "mother" will
> react when we inform her of our family's decision. We have joint
> residential custody, but she has never been involved in his education
> before. It should be interesting. I've been wondering what the legal
> ramifications could be if she gives us a hard time. How much say does
> someone have if they have joint non-residential custody? Anyone know?
> Laura
>

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In a message dated 8/1/2000 12:07:15 PM Pacific Daylight Time, AmyKCA@...
writes:

> Hope he does
> not decide to take apart the cat, to see how she works!

Road kill autopsy can be interesting. <eg>

Eiraul (who should probably remain anonymous after that statement! LOL)

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he he he he he he he he he he !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will be laughing for a
week! Thanks I needed that ! :)

Amy





In a message dated 08/01/2000 1:25:39 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
braunville@... writes:

> Road kill autopsy can be interesting. <eg>
>
> Eiraul (who should probably remain anonymous after that statement! LOL)
>

Laura M

Amy,
I'll let you know how things go. Thanks for inquiring.
Laura


>From: AmyKCA@...
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: custody issue
>Date: Tue, 1 Aug 2000 14:48:39 EDT
>
>Laura:
>
>Could you please let me know what happens? I am collecting info on legal
>cases when they involve homeschooling. You can send it directly to me, and
>also let me know if you can give permission to have your story, should you
>become involved in a legal battle over the homeschooling, published on a
>legal site for homeschoolers. We can use aliases if you prefer.
>
>Thanks,
>Amy Aponte
>
>
>
>
>In a message dated 08/01/2000 5:58:30 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
>lauramatec@... writes:
>
> > Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have a 12 yo stepson who we
> > will be homeschooling in the fall. I am wondering how his "mother"
>will
> > react when we inform her of our family's decision. We have joint
> > residential custody, but she has never been involved in his education
> > before. It should be interesting. I've been wondering what the legal
> > ramifications could be if she gives us a hard time. How much say does
> > someone have if they have joint non-residential custody? Anyone know?
> > Laura
> >

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