Vicariously-things I learned
sabrrbas
I do not think I have ever posted I have a 2 yr old and plan to unschool. I am so thankful to all the groups I am on I have learned so much in the past 2 yrs.
I have learned about myself the most. I guess I am looking for a why?
why do parents live through their children?? low self worth and esteem?
They take an activity that a child likes or is gifted in and force push eat sleep breath that activity until the child HATES it!
When I was small I used to LOVE to sing by my self --My mother figured her fathers gift of voice passed on to me-she always wanted to be a singer-- so I HAD to have lessons I didn't WANT lessons.
well soon after I got lessons and all I heard was oh it is your money maker---"you have learning disabilities and dyslexia so it will be difficult for you later on"
by 13 singing opera (rolling the eyes)I am still scared of public performance.
lessons contests shows like those poor kids in those beauty pageants!!
here is where i got a major attitude how I dealt with my stress and hate of singing--I put on a FAKE ego that I was the BEST and I became a ruthless competitor. I announced I wanted to quit at 15 -they came at me with the $$$ AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??
after yrs of this I had NO desire to go to college. I hated every second of school why would I go on. ya well I HAD to go to an arts school for singing because "that is your bread and butter" Message to me was your too stupid to work in the real world so you have to sing for your supper.
Got there after one semester and I was 18 I quit I have never sung again I still cannot even sing in the car to myself after 17 yrs.
some parents are just as guilty as public schools when it comes to being dream killers---my son his gifts& talents what ever they may be are his and for him. sorry for the vent.-Q-
I have learned about myself the most. I guess I am looking for a why?
why do parents live through their children?? low self worth and esteem?
They take an activity that a child likes or is gifted in and force push eat sleep breath that activity until the child HATES it!
When I was small I used to LOVE to sing by my self --My mother figured her fathers gift of voice passed on to me-she always wanted to be a singer-- so I HAD to have lessons I didn't WANT lessons.
well soon after I got lessons and all I heard was oh it is your money maker---"you have learning disabilities and dyslexia so it will be difficult for you later on"
by 13 singing opera (rolling the eyes)I am still scared of public performance.
lessons contests shows like those poor kids in those beauty pageants!!
here is where i got a major attitude how I dealt with my stress and hate of singing--I put on a FAKE ego that I was the BEST and I became a ruthless competitor. I announced I wanted to quit at 15 -they came at me with the $$$ AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??
after yrs of this I had NO desire to go to college. I hated every second of school why would I go on. ya well I HAD to go to an arts school for singing because "that is your bread and butter" Message to me was your too stupid to work in the real world so you have to sing for your supper.
Got there after one semester and I was 18 I quit I have never sung again I still cannot even sing in the car to myself after 17 yrs.
some parents are just as guilty as public schools when it comes to being dream killers---my son his gifts& talents what ever they may be are his and for him. sorry for the vent.-Q-
Sandra Dodd
-= I announced I wanted to quit at 15 -they came at me with the $$$
AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??-=-
I'm guessing you won't, following those traumatic incidents. <g>
Sandra
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AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??-=-
I'm guessing you won't, following those traumatic incidents. <g>
Sandra
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Cally
Hear hear!! So true. So important to treasure our children's gifts and allow them the peace to enjoy them without requirements. At a young age I was told to either audition for Julliard or stop playing piano. I quit. I hated performing. Every recital was so anxiety producing! Fortunately I made my own rules for guitar and singing. I allow my children to decide what instruments they want to learn.
Carole in CT
One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.
Maya Angelou
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From: sabrrbas <sabrrbas@...>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 6:10:33 PM
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Vicariously-things I learned
I do not think I have ever posted I have a 2 yr old and plan to unschool. I am so thankful to all the groups I am on I have learned so much in the past 2 yrs.
I have learned about myself the most. I guess I am looking for a why?
why do parents live through their children?? low self worth and esteem?
They take an activity that a child likes or is gifted in and force push eat sleep breath that activity until the child HATES it!
When I was small I used to LOVE to sing by my self --My mother figured her fathers gift of voice passed on to me-she always wanted to be a singer-- so I HAD to have lessons I didn't WANT lessons.
well soon after I got lessons and all I heard was oh it is your money maker---"you have learning disabilities and dyslexia so it will be difficult for you later on"
by 13 singing opera (rolling the eyes)I am still scared of public performance.
lessons contests shows like those poor kids in those beauty pageants!!
here is where i got a major attitude how I dealt with my stress and hate of singing--I put on a FAKE ego that I was the BEST and I became a ruthless competitor. I announced I wanted to quit at 15 -they came at me with the $$$ AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??
after yrs of this I had NO desire to go to college. I hated every second of school why would I go on. ya well I HAD to go to an arts school for singing because "that is your bread and butter" Message to me was your too stupid to work in the real world so you have to sing for your supper.
Got there after one semester and I was 18 I quit I have never sung again I still cannot even sing in the car to myself after 17 yrs.
some parents are just as guilty as public schools when it comes to being dream killers---my son his gifts& talents what ever they may be are his and for him. sorry for the vent.-Q-
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Carole in CT
One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.
Maya Angelou
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From: sabrrbas <sabrrbas@...>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 6:10:33 PM
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Vicariously-things I learned
I do not think I have ever posted I have a 2 yr old and plan to unschool. I am so thankful to all the groups I am on I have learned so much in the past 2 yrs.
I have learned about myself the most. I guess I am looking for a why?
why do parents live through their children?? low self worth and esteem?
They take an activity that a child likes or is gifted in and force push eat sleep breath that activity until the child HATES it!
When I was small I used to LOVE to sing by my self --My mother figured her fathers gift of voice passed on to me-she always wanted to be a singer-- so I HAD to have lessons I didn't WANT lessons.
well soon after I got lessons and all I heard was oh it is your money maker---"you have learning disabilities and dyslexia so it will be difficult for you later on"
by 13 singing opera (rolling the eyes)I am still scared of public performance.
lessons contests shows like those poor kids in those beauty pageants!!
here is where i got a major attitude how I dealt with my stress and hate of singing--I put on a FAKE ego that I was the BEST and I became a ruthless competitor. I announced I wanted to quit at 15 -they came at me with the $$$ AMOUNT I would OWE THEM back for 3 yrs of lessons!!! who does this??
after yrs of this I had NO desire to go to college. I hated every second of school why would I go on. ya well I HAD to go to an arts school for singing because "that is your bread and butter" Message to me was your too stupid to work in the real world so you have to sing for your supper.
Got there after one semester and I was 18 I quit I have never sung again I still cannot even sing in the car to myself after 17 yrs.
some parents are just as guilty as public schools when it comes to being dream killers---my son his gifts& talents what ever they may be are his and for him. sorry for the vent.-Q-
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Sandra Dodd
-=At a young age I was told to either audition for Julliard or stop
playing piano. I quit. -=-
That's terrible.
This was posted on facebook. I'll include a direct link below.
Sara St Clair Lopez Tim Minchin (Australian comic musician and
brilliant pianist) says the best thing his parents ever did for him
was let him quit taking piano lessons.
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Tim Minchin Interview with ABC's Enough Rope 1/3
www.youtube.com
This is part 1/3 of the interview Tim Minchin had with ABC's Enough
Rope. Links to Part 2 will be included at the end of the video. Please
visit youtube.com/timminchin for the official channel.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQ4hbXUMyBU
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playing piano. I quit. -=-
That's terrible.
This was posted on facebook. I'll include a direct link below.
Sara St Clair Lopez Tim Minchin (Australian comic musician and
brilliant pianist) says the best thing his parents ever did for him
was let him quit taking piano lessons.
----------
Tim Minchin Interview with ABC's Enough Rope 1/3
www.youtube.com
This is part 1/3 of the interview Tim Minchin had with ABC's Enough
Rope. Links to Part 2 will be included at the end of the video. Please
visit youtube.com/timminchin for the official channel.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQ4hbXUMyBU
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