Angela S.

<<I'm not talking sexual contact between family members or even if you come
from a family were you never saw mom and dad kiss.

Didn't get snuggles past babyhood. Never held hands for anything but sefety
and an adults need to hurry you along. Because those things have been
discussed. I was thinking more about those who do snuggle, tussle, tickle,
and tease. With all that physical contact in relaxation and play are we
teaching our children how to touch others?

Alowing them a greater comfort zone and mastery of basic touch skills.
(Like one of my kids learned today if you lean your pointy chin on a womans
breast she may find it painfull, as a breast isn't a fatty mass but full of
sensitive mammery glands.) Hmmm. going to have to think about 'mastering
basic touch' a bit more.>>



I find this topic very interesting. I too think there must be a sexual
intelligence.



Back to the topic of touch though. I have two children. My oldest (11) is
a lot like her dad in many ways. My youngest (9) is more like me. (from
looks to personality with both of them) I enjoy touch/snuggles more than my
dh. My dh doesn't seem to need as much touch as I do and my older dd is
like that too. She likes to be close and even still sits on my lap often,
but she doesn't ask for back rubs and snuggles and kisses like my younger dd
does. Snuggling with my younger dd really makes her shine. It is obvious
when she needs a dose of love in that way. The connection that my older dd
needs when she is down is more of a listening ear rather than touch so much.
Of course, they both need a listening ear and they both need touch, but it's
very obvious that there is a difference in their needs.



That need/lack of need for touch between my dh and I does play a role in our
sexual relationship too. Not sure I want to go into that here though. :)



Angela

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Cally Brown

Yes, I think it does depend on something within the child as well as the
way they are treated.

>Back to the topic of touch though. I have two children. My oldest (11) is
>a lot like her dad in many ways. My youngest (9) is more like me.
>
I have two that will come to me for hugs - one especially, though it has
lessened since he fell in love (he's 22) but even so, I always get a hug
when he gets home or leaves, and many more besides. My youngest isn't
very huggy - but he does sit closer to me on a regular basis than anyone
else.

Cally