RE: foster care
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I'm also from Maine and if NH is anything like here, I don't think it would
be possible to do anything but public school. We adopted three of our foster
children and put up with Head Start and public school until all three were
adopted. We did sneakily practice attachment parenting for the two who came
to us as infants, but had to get their pediatrician to write a note saying
that it was a medical neccessity for them to sleep in our room. (One had
severe asthma and the other has reactive attachment disorder.) We had a crib
in there for show, but they were only in it for naps from time to time. When
they got old enough to tell the social worker that they slept in our bed,
we'd say they'd had a bad nightmare or try to change the subject. It was
very difficult and not the way I would have preferred to raise infants, but
we did the best we could and got them adopted as soon as possible. They
prefer their own space now, but still crawl in with us once in a while,
sometimes bringing their cats and dog, which makes sleeping very
challenging, but warm and cozy. <g>
Lil
"It's the ones who've cracked that the light shines through." Jeffrey Lewis
be possible to do anything but public school. We adopted three of our foster
children and put up with Head Start and public school until all three were
adopted. We did sneakily practice attachment parenting for the two who came
to us as infants, but had to get their pediatrician to write a note saying
that it was a medical neccessity for them to sleep in our room. (One had
severe asthma and the other has reactive attachment disorder.) We had a crib
in there for show, but they were only in it for naps from time to time. When
they got old enough to tell the social worker that they slept in our bed,
we'd say they'd had a bad nightmare or try to change the subject. It was
very difficult and not the way I would have preferred to raise infants, but
we did the best we could and got them adopted as soon as possible. They
prefer their own space now, but still crawl in with us once in a while,
sometimes bringing their cats and dog, which makes sleeping very
challenging, but warm and cozy. <g>
Lil
"It's the ones who've cracked that the light shines through." Jeffrey Lewis
Ann
In Oklahoma they allowed us to homeschool our pre-adoptive children. Our birth children we either in their teens or grown, one was already out of the house. The adoptive children were 6 & 7. That amount of space was very helpful. They have no detachment disorder, nor any FAS nor were drug infected. The absence of these things make a huge difference. They are now 11 and 12. If you didn't know they had previously been in foster care, you would never guess. They are very happy, well-adjusted kids. It took time, was a LOT of hard work, harder than we expected. Even under what I would consider the best of circumstances. If you birth children are nearly grown and you have a heart for adoption through the foster care system, the rewards are great. My younger kiddos have been loads of fun. :0)
Ann
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