Passing question
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Our oldest (6 1/2) has had a bladder infection and I've been going in before
I go to bed (5-7am), waking him and giving him his treatment and a large drink
of water. Usually he wakes up really grumpy, but recently, with the change in
the weather, I've found a way that wakes him and he's not only cheerful, he's
giggling! I've almost always checked in on him before I go to bed, but don't
try to wake him unless he's stirring-and even then, sometimes, he doesn't wake
when I ask if he wants a drink of water. His treatment will be over in about
a week, but we have been enjoying each other so much on these early morning
visits! He usually doen't wake in the morning until 9 or 10am, but quite often
when we have these early morning "giggles", he doesn't get up until 11, 11:30,
almost noon (he had an activity, and was woken, so I'm not sure how long he
would have slept.) My question (long story, short question) is: if after the
treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily, of
course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid" reason-am I being
selfish? It is probably some of the BEST or most quality time we have together
since the baby came, and I find I'm REALLY enjoying it-realising how much I
miss him during the day, but I don't want to "take advantage" of him just to
satisfy my need. What do you think?
Peace,
Sang
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I go to bed (5-7am), waking him and giving him his treatment and a large drink
of water. Usually he wakes up really grumpy, but recently, with the change in
the weather, I've found a way that wakes him and he's not only cheerful, he's
giggling! I've almost always checked in on him before I go to bed, but don't
try to wake him unless he's stirring-and even then, sometimes, he doesn't wake
when I ask if he wants a drink of water. His treatment will be over in about
a week, but we have been enjoying each other so much on these early morning
visits! He usually doen't wake in the morning until 9 or 10am, but quite often
when we have these early morning "giggles", he doesn't get up until 11, 11:30,
almost noon (he had an activity, and was woken, so I'm not sure how long he
would have slept.) My question (long story, short question) is: if after the
treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily, of
course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid" reason-am I being
selfish? It is probably some of the BEST or most quality time we have together
since the baby came, and I find I'm REALLY enjoying it-realising how much I
miss him during the day, but I don't want to "take advantage" of him just to
satisfy my need. What do you think?
Peace,
Sang
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Lars Hedbor
Sang, unless I'm badly mistaken, your son probably treasures this time with
you as much as you do. Unless he says that he resents your disturbing his
sleep, I'd say keep it up! It could be the start of a wonderful daily
ritual that will form lifelong happy memories.
you as much as you do. Unless he says that he resents your disturbing his
sleep, I'd say keep it up! It could be the start of a wonderful daily
ritual that will form lifelong happy memories.
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> Sanguinegirl83@...
> Sent: Sunday, October 09, 2005 1:16 AM
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> Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Passing question
>
> Our oldest (6 1/2) has had a bladder infection and I've been going in
> before
> I go to bed (5-7am), waking him and giving him his treatment and a large
> drink
> of water. Usually he wakes up really grumpy, but recently, with the change
> in
> the weather, I've found a way that wakes him and he's not only cheerful,
> he's
> giggling! I've almost always checked in on him before I go to bed, but
> don't
> try to wake him unless he's stirring-and even then, sometimes, he doesn't
> wake
> when I ask if he wants a drink of water. His treatment will be over in
> about
> a week, but we have been enjoying each other so much on these early
> morning
> visits! He usually doen't wake in the morning until 9 or 10am, but quite
> often
> when we have these early morning "giggles", he doesn't get up until 11,
> 11:30,
> almost noon (he had an activity, and was woken, so I'm not sure how long
> he
> would have slept.) My question (long story, short question) is: if after
> the
> treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily, of
> course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid" reason-am
> I being
> selfish? It is probably some of the BEST or most quality time we have
> together
> since the baby came, and I find I'm REALLY enjoying it-realising how much
> I
> miss him during the day, but I don't want to "take advantage" of him just
> to
> satisfy my need. What do you think?
>
> Peace,
> Sang
>
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***if after the
treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily,
of
course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid"
reason-am I being
selfish? ***
You might just tell him you don't have to wake him anymore for treatment
but that you'll sneak in and kiss him. Maybe he'll tell you to wake him
anyway or maybe he'll be happy to keep sleeping knowing you'll still be
there with a kiss.
Deb L
treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily,
of
course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid"
reason-am I being
selfish? ***
You might just tell him you don't have to wake him anymore for treatment
but that you'll sneak in and kiss him. Maybe he'll tell you to wake him
anyway or maybe he'll be happy to keep sleeping knowing you'll still be
there with a kiss.
Deb L
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In a message dated 10/9/05 2:16:40 AM, Sanguinegirl83@... writes:
question (and I hope he's all better by now--urinary infections are yuck).
Instead of looking at your own part of it and wondering if you're selfish,
ask him! Does he LIKE being woken up? Maybe he really does.
Lots of times Holly will ask me to wake her up at a certain time every day,
and I will until/unless she cancels her standing order. If he doesn't want
to wake up then, he can let you know. He was going to wake up eventually one
way or another, so if he's happy to see your face first thing, COOL! If
you're not doing it against his will, how could it be taking advantage of him or
"just" satisfying your need?
Sandra
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> My question (long story, short question) is: if after theI missed this when I was off at the conference. Sorry. It was a cool
> treatment is over, and I continue to wake him (with him waking happily, of
> course), JUST to enjoy him for 5-10 minutes and no other "valid" reason-am I
> being
> selfish? It is probably some of the BEST or most quality time we have
> together
> since the baby came, and I find I'm REALLY enjoying it-realising how much I
> miss him during the day, but I don't want to "take advantage" of him just to
> satisfy my need. What do you think?
>
question (and I hope he's all better by now--urinary infections are yuck).
Instead of looking at your own part of it and wondering if you're selfish,
ask him! Does he LIKE being woken up? Maybe he really does.
Lots of times Holly will ask me to wake her up at a certain time every day,
and I will until/unless she cancels her standing order. If he doesn't want
to wake up then, he can let you know. He was going to wake up eventually one
way or another, so if he's happy to see your face first thing, COOL! If
you're not doing it against his will, how could it be taking advantage of him or
"just" satisfying your need?
Sandra
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In a message dated 10/20/2005 11:56:10 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
I don't know why I didn't think to ask him myself :~D I found out that he
really DOES like it, and wants me to continue! I guess early morning is a good
time for both of my boys to have some good, enjoyable, fun, snuggle time alone.
I don't mind at all that it pushes my bedtime back a half hour or so-it is
great to spend that kind of time with each of them! Thanks!
Peace,
Sang
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> I missed this when I was off at the conference. Sorry. It was a coolThanks, yes he is better-though it was a long struggle.
> question (and I hope he's all better by now--urinary infections are yuck).
>
> Instead of looking at your own part of it and wondering if you're selfish,
> ask him! Does he LIKE being woken up? Maybe he really does.
>
I don't know why I didn't think to ask him myself :~D I found out that he
really DOES like it, and wants me to continue! I guess early morning is a good
time for both of my boys to have some good, enjoyable, fun, snuggle time alone.
I don't mind at all that it pushes my bedtime back a half hour or so-it is
great to spend that kind of time with each of them! Thanks!
Peace,
Sang
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