"limiting is the problem, not the solution"
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It surprises me not one bit that while looking for some saved posts on
Halloween candy, I found something PERFECT for this discussion about food. And it
doesn't surprise me that it was originally about TV. That's the way
philosophy and principles are, they flow into all the cracks and spaces.
From this list a couple of years ago:
Subj: Re: unlimited tv
Date: Thursday, February 6, 2003 11:43:59 AM
From: jnjstau@...
<<...I just can't feel ok about that....it makes me so angry....I am not
willing to subject my children...>>
If you go back through this post and count the number of posts that are
about the mom and how SHE feels vs. those about the kids and any problems
they appear to be having, it is difficult to believe that the tv issue is
about the the kids.
I used to be a tv controller, diet controller, behavior and thought
controller (at least I thought I was). I was trained as a child
psychologist....my poor kids <sigh>. I no longer go with that philosophy
and have witnessed with my own eyes that limiting is the problem, not the
solution.
You don't even have to have "smart kids" for them to effectively self-
regulate. Gee whiz, our dogs do it. We have two dogs that were raised in
a
suburban back yard. We now live on several acres, still anytime the gate is
left open, those dogs take off and are gone for hours. We have two dogs
that were raised on our front porch without any fencing. They never leave
our yard. If a dog can figure it out, I think a child has a pretty good
shot <grin>.
Julie
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Halloween candy, I found something PERFECT for this discussion about food. And it
doesn't surprise me that it was originally about TV. That's the way
philosophy and principles are, they flow into all the cracks and spaces.
From this list a couple of years ago:
Subj: Re: unlimited tv
Date: Thursday, February 6, 2003 11:43:59 AM
From: jnjstau@...
<<...I just can't feel ok about that....it makes me so angry....I am not
willing to subject my children...>>
If you go back through this post and count the number of posts that are
about the mom and how SHE feels vs. those about the kids and any problems
they appear to be having, it is difficult to believe that the tv issue is
about the the kids.
I used to be a tv controller, diet controller, behavior and thought
controller (at least I thought I was). I was trained as a child
psychologist....my poor kids <sigh>. I no longer go with that philosophy
and have witnessed with my own eyes that limiting is the problem, not the
solution.
You don't even have to have "smart kids" for them to effectively self-
regulate. Gee whiz, our dogs do it. We have two dogs that were raised in
a
suburban back yard. We now live on several acres, still anytime the gate is
left open, those dogs take off and are gone for hours. We have two dogs
that were raised on our front porch without any fencing. They never leave
our yard. If a dog can figure it out, I think a child has a pretty good
shot <grin>.
Julie
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