depression, pregnancy, school-or-un
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I came across this looking for something this morning and it ties in to a
couple of recent discussions. I don't know where it originally was, but pobably
at unschooling.com (for having my whole name):
By Sandra Lynn Dodd (Sandradodd) on Friday, January 18, 2002 - 12:24 pm:
[quoting someone, doesn't matter who, I don't remember]
-=-My fear (well one of them) is the example of a
close friend of mine. She unschooled all four of
her kids although the oldest girl did go to p.s.
starting in 8th grade through 12. But, out of all
four of her kids, three are depressed, no job, or
a low paying job, and the 20 yr old is pregnant by
a deadbeat who is on drugs, sleeping around with a
17 year old, already fathered another child
previously, etc, etc. -=-
Maybe that's better, still, than if they had gone
to school! (I'm serious. It sounds stupid, but
some kids at school get dead, or in trouble with
the law, and school is certainly no charm against
pregnancy, and by 20 school wouldn't have been a
factor. Fourteen year olds get pregnant from kids
they meet at school.
-=-My friend was/is the most layed back mom
around. Never (I mean never) hit her kids,
attachment parenting, extended breastfeeding,
family bed, very few rules . . . and they are
depressed kids. So, that's my fear. -=-
So that lists what she didn't do (hit, make a
bunch of rules) but what DID she do to make their
lives richer and full of ideas and exposure to
everything in the whole wide world? Maybe the
mom's depressed too. Maybe it's genetic. I don't
know, but if you want unschooling to work just
because you stick the curriculum under the couch,
it won't! Get the world swirling around you
(first) and your children (second) so there are
sounds, sights, smells, tastes and textures for
them to process and build their internal model of
the universe from. GET MOVING, mentally and
physically.
Sandra
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Here it seemed someone was blaming unschooling for depressing, and for
pregnancy (but in a 20 year old!) When kids are in school, is school often blamed
for depression or pregnancy? I don't think so. Parents are blamed. LACK
of attention to school is blamed.
I think that's interesting and worth a look.
Sandra
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couple of recent discussions. I don't know where it originally was, but pobably
at unschooling.com (for having my whole name):
By Sandra Lynn Dodd (Sandradodd) on Friday, January 18, 2002 - 12:24 pm:
[quoting someone, doesn't matter who, I don't remember]
-=-My fear (well one of them) is the example of a
close friend of mine. She unschooled all four of
her kids although the oldest girl did go to p.s.
starting in 8th grade through 12. But, out of all
four of her kids, three are depressed, no job, or
a low paying job, and the 20 yr old is pregnant by
a deadbeat who is on drugs, sleeping around with a
17 year old, already fathered another child
previously, etc, etc. -=-
Maybe that's better, still, than if they had gone
to school! (I'm serious. It sounds stupid, but
some kids at school get dead, or in trouble with
the law, and school is certainly no charm against
pregnancy, and by 20 school wouldn't have been a
factor. Fourteen year olds get pregnant from kids
they meet at school.
-=-My friend was/is the most layed back mom
around. Never (I mean never) hit her kids,
attachment parenting, extended breastfeeding,
family bed, very few rules . . . and they are
depressed kids. So, that's my fear. -=-
So that lists what she didn't do (hit, make a
bunch of rules) but what DID she do to make their
lives richer and full of ideas and exposure to
everything in the whole wide world? Maybe the
mom's depressed too. Maybe it's genetic. I don't
know, but if you want unschooling to work just
because you stick the curriculum under the couch,
it won't! Get the world swirling around you
(first) and your children (second) so there are
sounds, sights, smells, tastes and textures for
them to process and build their internal model of
the universe from. GET MOVING, mentally and
physically.
Sandra
====================================
Here it seemed someone was blaming unschooling for depressing, and for
pregnancy (but in a 20 year old!) When kids are in school, is school often blamed
for depression or pregnancy? I don't think so. Parents are blamed. LACK
of attention to school is blamed.
I think that's interesting and worth a look.
Sandra
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