re:dangers strangers
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Hi,
When dealing with the idea of safe/unsafe strangers or people in general, I remind my kids that they know instinctively about the person if they listen to their inner voice. We all feel safe around most people and a little off around others.
And on an aside, I love unschooling because I am with my little ones when they are out exploring the world and interacting. It's not as if my 6 year old is out all day with a bunch of strangers. She is with me and may want to talk to the guy at the park and I am right there too. Safe, talking to interesting people, learning and growing.
When Riley was 3 he loved everyone he met. Once I could not find him in the playgroud, it's a big wooden maze place with 2 opening and I had 2 other little one's I was following around and he just got out of site. When I did locate him, he was sitting on the hill with a family right in the middle of their picnic, chatting away, asking if they lived in Davis, telling them our phone number, where we lived, the color of our house. I calmly walked over, introduced myself, and we stayed a few more minutes until Riley was finished meeting new people.
He still gravitates towards interesting groups, watches from the egde and slowly interacts. I have noticed that kids who are home and out in the world are able to interact with all types of people because they have been allowed too.
Mary
When dealing with the idea of safe/unsafe strangers or people in general, I remind my kids that they know instinctively about the person if they listen to their inner voice. We all feel safe around most people and a little off around others.
And on an aside, I love unschooling because I am with my little ones when they are out exploring the world and interacting. It's not as if my 6 year old is out all day with a bunch of strangers. She is with me and may want to talk to the guy at the park and I am right there too. Safe, talking to interesting people, learning and growing.
When Riley was 3 he loved everyone he met. Once I could not find him in the playgroud, it's a big wooden maze place with 2 opening and I had 2 other little one's I was following around and he just got out of site. When I did locate him, he was sitting on the hill with a family right in the middle of their picnic, chatting away, asking if they lived in Davis, telling them our phone number, where we lived, the color of our house. I calmly walked over, introduced myself, and we stayed a few more minutes until Riley was finished meeting new people.
He still gravitates towards interesting groups, watches from the egde and slowly interacts. I have noticed that kids who are home and out in the world are able to interact with all types of people because they have been allowed too.
Mary
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In a message dated 9/30/05 10:01:24 AM, mfhickman@... writes:
and some don't feel safe or off in the same degree others do.
I don't know instinctively how or where to kick a ball, and I'm not good at
throwing things long distances. I know instinctively how to harmonize
several kinds of traditional music, different styles.
Just because some kids are better at reading strangers than others doesn't
mean an across-the-board rule will help, but when parents are aware that a
particular child is maybe too trusting or too paranoid, he could be coached himself
where he is, and maybe some tricks or escape plans could be discussed.
-=-I have noticed that kids who are home and out in the world are able to
interact with all types of people because they have been allowed too.-=-
Yes!!
Kids in school live in a setting in which you only talk to adults in
prescribed ways, you don't talk to people much older or younger than you are, you
don't talk to cliques you don't like, or there might be some you insult in passing
without regard to their actual individual humanity. That doesn't happen
with unschooling, as far as I've ever seen.
Sandra
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> -=-I remind my kids that they know instinctively about the person if theyIf Howard Gardner's right, some people know more instinctively than others,
> listen to their inner voice. We all feel safe around most people and a little
> off around others.-=-
>
and some don't feel safe or off in the same degree others do.
I don't know instinctively how or where to kick a ball, and I'm not good at
throwing things long distances. I know instinctively how to harmonize
several kinds of traditional music, different styles.
Just because some kids are better at reading strangers than others doesn't
mean an across-the-board rule will help, but when parents are aware that a
particular child is maybe too trusting or too paranoid, he could be coached himself
where he is, and maybe some tricks or escape plans could be discussed.
-=-I have noticed that kids who are home and out in the world are able to
interact with all types of people because they have been allowed too.-=-
Yes!!
Kids in school live in a setting in which you only talk to adults in
prescribed ways, you don't talk to people much older or younger than you are, you
don't talk to cliques you don't like, or there might be some you insult in passing
without regard to their actual individual humanity. That doesn't happen
with unschooling, as far as I've ever seen.
Sandra
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In a message dated 9/30/2005 12:50:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
instinctively had their instincts questioned or quashed or muted because of
those repeated warnings and the way they were raised? Or is that more of a
"nature" kind of thing? Just curious-is Mr. Gardner an author?
Peace,
Sang
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> If Howard Gardner's right, some people know more instinctively than others,I've not heard of Howard Gardner, but am wondering if those that don't know
>
> and some don't feel safe or off in the same degree others do.
>
instinctively had their instincts questioned or quashed or muted because of
those repeated warnings and the way they were raised? Or is that more of a
"nature" kind of thing? Just curious-is Mr. Gardner an author?
Peace,
Sang
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In a message dated 10/2/05 12:11:44 AM, Sanguinegirl83@... writes:
Look up Gardner and Multiple Intelligence Theory
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> -=-I've not heard of Howard Gardner, but am wondering if those that don'tGoogle.com !
> know
> instinctively had their instincts questioned or quashed or muted because of
> those repeated warnings and the way they were raised? Or is that more of a
> "nature" kind of thing? Just curious-is Mr. Gardner an author?-=-
>
Look up Gardner and Multiple Intelligence Theory
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