MY nephew
Sally Brooks
The discussion of another poster's SIL and her reaction to an
invitation to her 7yo's bday party reminded me of an incident in my
own house yesterday.
My 6yo always schooled, heavily day cared and preschooled nephew was
visiting us with his dad yesterday. They rode down on their 4
wheelers. While dad stayed outside and visited with my dh, nephew
came in to play. He knows where all the cool stuff is in the house,
so came in asking to play computer. I honestly answered him saying I
didn't know what my own daughters had loaded onto the computer in
question (meaning I didn't think his favorite Hot Wheels game of ours
was loaded on and unfortunately I was in the middle of dinner and
babysitting my grandbaby, so felt a bit too busy to stop everything
and load the game for him in the event). I suggested, however,
another of his favorite things to do at our house, play Nintendo.
The look he gave me made me ask him if he was in trouble and grounded
from the video games. He said no. I went over and turned on the
system and he was happy. When asking his dad about it later, his
dad's only comment was "He's always getting in trouble for
something." A few short years ago, he was a bright inquisitive
energetic kid. Now he's a trouble maker? It is sad to see this
going on before your very eyes.
Sally
invitation to her 7yo's bday party reminded me of an incident in my
own house yesterday.
My 6yo always schooled, heavily day cared and preschooled nephew was
visiting us with his dad yesterday. They rode down on their 4
wheelers. While dad stayed outside and visited with my dh, nephew
came in to play. He knows where all the cool stuff is in the house,
so came in asking to play computer. I honestly answered him saying I
didn't know what my own daughters had loaded onto the computer in
question (meaning I didn't think his favorite Hot Wheels game of ours
was loaded on and unfortunately I was in the middle of dinner and
babysitting my grandbaby, so felt a bit too busy to stop everything
and load the game for him in the event). I suggested, however,
another of his favorite things to do at our house, play Nintendo.
The look he gave me made me ask him if he was in trouble and grounded
from the video games. He said no. I went over and turned on the
system and he was happy. When asking his dad about it later, his
dad's only comment was "He's always getting in trouble for
something." A few short years ago, he was a bright inquisitive
energetic kid. Now he's a trouble maker? It is sad to see this
going on before your very eyes.
Sally
mchl_cnkln
I feel horrible for your nephew.
It makes me think of my cousins 7yo daughter, she "has" to put her
young daughter on the bus every morning kicking and screaming.
The girl has to see a therapist because she had actually started
pulling her hair out from all the stress.
The therapist told my cousin if it was his daughter he would
homeschool her.
I thought i had her convinced.
Unfortunatly her mother, my aunt has her convinced she is way to
flaky and she would do more harm than good , and couldn't possibly
homeschool her own daughter.
I have another family member whose kids come when he whistles, yes
like very well trained dogs. They immediatly stop what they are doing
and run to him.
I have a sil who won't let her kids stay at my house cause my kids
won't stay at her house. My 10yo stayed once when he was about 8 and
when he wanted a 2nd fried egg she said not until you finish your
whites(he hates whites just likes the yellow dippy part) He said he
would never go back without me or his dad with him. The older one
just doesn't like to sleep over anywhere.
I also have a sil who brags about her young girls 4 and 6 who are not
permitted to come to her bedroom. She's proud they know the rules so
well she once woke up and the youngest was laying right outside her
door in the hallway. Even though she had a horrible dream she followed
the rules. What a good girl !!!!
And I am the family weirdo, the one thats going to screw up my
kids.The one that shouldn't have kids. Oh yes the sicko that lets her
10yo sleep in her bed The 12 yo usually sleeps in the recliner in my
bedroom.
Ever feel like the only person that actually sees children as people?
Real live human beings?
Oh how I long for a secluded cabin in the woods.
Well at least summer is ending, which means fewer family picnics
parties etc. It really stresses me out to see all those kids getting
treated like dirt. With a family like mine is it any wonder I don't
let my 2 too far out of my sight at these events.
Sorry to ramble
Michele
It makes me think of my cousins 7yo daughter, she "has" to put her
young daughter on the bus every morning kicking and screaming.
The girl has to see a therapist because she had actually started
pulling her hair out from all the stress.
The therapist told my cousin if it was his daughter he would
homeschool her.
I thought i had her convinced.
Unfortunatly her mother, my aunt has her convinced she is way to
flaky and she would do more harm than good , and couldn't possibly
homeschool her own daughter.
I have another family member whose kids come when he whistles, yes
like very well trained dogs. They immediatly stop what they are doing
and run to him.
I have a sil who won't let her kids stay at my house cause my kids
won't stay at her house. My 10yo stayed once when he was about 8 and
when he wanted a 2nd fried egg she said not until you finish your
whites(he hates whites just likes the yellow dippy part) He said he
would never go back without me or his dad with him. The older one
just doesn't like to sleep over anywhere.
I also have a sil who brags about her young girls 4 and 6 who are not
permitted to come to her bedroom. She's proud they know the rules so
well she once woke up and the youngest was laying right outside her
door in the hallway. Even though she had a horrible dream she followed
the rules. What a good girl !!!!
And I am the family weirdo, the one thats going to screw up my
kids.The one that shouldn't have kids. Oh yes the sicko that lets her
10yo sleep in her bed The 12 yo usually sleeps in the recliner in my
bedroom.
Ever feel like the only person that actually sees children as people?
Real live human beings?
Oh how I long for a secluded cabin in the woods.
Well at least summer is ending, which means fewer family picnics
parties etc. It really stresses me out to see all those kids getting
treated like dirt. With a family like mine is it any wonder I don't
let my 2 too far out of my sight at these events.
Sorry to ramble
Michele
Kathy Stamp
"The 12 yo usually sleeps in the recliner in my
bedroom."
Have you considered getting an extra mattress for the floor of your room?
Just thinking it could get pretty uncomfortable sleeping in a chair all
night.
We have neighbors that constantly want to know if our just turned 3 year old
is sleeping in her own room yet. Nope she's quite happy in her little
toddler bed attached to our bed. Our 8 month old co-sleeps so she moved to
the toddler bed a while ago. But we can cover her up when she needs it, or
give a snuggle or cuddle before she even fully awakes if she's having a bad
dream.
Kathy
bedroom."
Have you considered getting an extra mattress for the floor of your room?
Just thinking it could get pretty uncomfortable sleeping in a chair all
night.
We have neighbors that constantly want to know if our just turned 3 year old
is sleeping in her own room yet. Nope she's quite happy in her little
toddler bed attached to our bed. Our 8 month old co-sleeps so she moved to
the toddler bed a while ago. But we can cover her up when she needs it, or
give a snuggle or cuddle before she even fully awakes if she's having a bad
dream.
Kathy
----- Original Message -----
From: "mchl_cnkln" <mchl_cnkln@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, September 19, 2005 8:15 AM
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Re: MY nephew
>I feel horrible for your nephew.
>
> It makes me think of my cousins 7yo daughter, she "has" to put her
> young daughter on the bus every morning kicking and screaming.
>
> The girl has to see a therapist because she had actually started
> pulling her hair out from all the stress.
> The therapist told my cousin if it was his daughter he would
> homeschool her.
> I thought i had her convinced.
> Unfortunatly her mother, my aunt has her convinced she is way to
> flaky and she would do more harm than good , and couldn't possibly
> homeschool her own daughter.
>
> I have another family member whose kids come when he whistles, yes
> like very well trained dogs. They immediatly stop what they are doing
> and run to him.
>
> I have a sil who won't let her kids stay at my house cause my kids
> won't stay at her house. My 10yo stayed once when he was about 8 and
> when he wanted a 2nd fried egg she said not until you finish your
> whites(he hates whites just likes the yellow dippy part) He said he
> would never go back without me or his dad with him. The older one
> just doesn't like to sleep over anywhere.
>
> I also have a sil who brags about her young girls 4 and 6 who are not
> permitted to come to her bedroom. She's proud they know the rules so
> well she once woke up and the youngest was laying right outside her
> door in the hallway. Even though she had a horrible dream she followed
> the rules. What a good girl !!!!
>
> And I am the family weirdo, the one thats going to screw up my
> kids.The one that shouldn't have kids. Oh yes the sicko that lets her
> 10yo sleep in her bed The 12 yo usually sleeps in the recliner in my
> bedroom.
>
> Ever feel like the only person that actually sees children as people?
>
> Real live human beings?
>
>
> Oh how I long for a secluded cabin in the woods.
>
> Well at least summer is ending, which means fewer family picnics
> parties etc. It really stresses me out to see all those kids getting
> treated like dirt. With a family like mine is it any wonder I don't
> let my 2 too far out of my sight at these events.
>
> Sorry to ramble
>
> Michele
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Cally Brown
> We have neighbors that constantly want to know if our just turned 3My answer would have been 'yes' as our room WAS their room until such
> year old
> is sleeping in her own room yet.
stage as they wanted to sleep in the room where their clothes toys etc
and a 'spare' bed were. Well, for the 3 younger ones - number one had to
suffer a more 'normal' (haha) upbringing.
Cally
who sometimes longs for the good old days - my babies never sleep with
me now - a good thing in a way as they are all bigger than me - 15, 18,
22, 24, and one is 6'3"! But I so miss those night times.