susan wilson

> He is exceptionally stubborn, spirited and hyperactive. HE screams
and
> kicks for all he's worth when he needs a diaper changed or it's time
to get
> ready for bed. All our calm but firm insistence is for naught. It
seems
> to make no difference to him.
>
> On the other hand, my younger child, Alex (just 15 months younger
than
> Thomas) is a piece of cake compared to his brother. He is easy
going,
> gentle, easy to reason with, etc.

i have a friend whose dd's are this way. as young children one was
really difficult, aggressive to the point of scratching her younger
sister to draw blood. the other was an angel (voice and all:) but
when they became teenagers they did a complete reversal. now the
'angel' is a handful while the 'devil' is not a problem.

>The other half of the time, I have to
> send Thomas to his room to be alone, as he is just not fit company
for
> other human beings. He plays quietly in there and often emerges in
a better
> humor. Sometimes he refuses to come out again, preferring to play by
> himself after being over-stimulated and over-emotional.
>
> Nanci K.

while i was reading your description i was thinking that he sounded
over-stimulated and that he needed to be taken to a quieter situation
- perhaps to a bedroom alone w/ you. i'm not big on separating (i.e.
time-outs) but it is hard not send a child into another room alone
when one has many children.

-susan
austin, tx

Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall

>i have a friend whose dd's are this way. as young children one was
>really difficult, aggressive to the point of scratching her younger
>sister to draw blood. the other was an angel (voice and all:) but
>when they became teenagers they did a complete reversal. now the
>'angel' is a handful while the 'devil' is not a problem.

Hmmmmmm......frightening thought....

>while i was reading your description i was thinking that he sounded
>over-stimulated and that he needed to be taken to a quieter situation
>- perhaps to a bedroom alone w/ you. i'm not big on separating (i.e.
>time-outs) but it is hard not send a child into another room alone
>when one has many children.
>
>-susan

Yes and doubly hard when this is my oldest and I can't very well leave the baby to his own devices while brother calms down. Also his over-stimulation often happens when it is just he and I, or his brother and him, or the three of us. No tv, no radio on, no telephone ringing, a quiet street/neighborhood, and maybe 1 neighbor child to play with, occassionally. He is Soooooooo sensative. He needs to be alone, IMHO, because he was already with us and that was too much apparently. I hate to imagine what would happen if I was going to send him to school. Good thing I decided to homeschool before he was ever concieved.

Nanci K.


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Tracy Oldfield

Perhaps, then, Nanci, he chose you because you'd chosen to
homeschool, and knew his spirit needed more space than school
allows. If you believe you choose your life...

Just a stray thought...
Tracy

On 7 Jul 2000, at 22:30, Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall wrote:
I hate to imagine what would happen if I was going to
send him to school. Good thing I decided to homeschool
before he was ever concieved.

Nanci K.