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In a message dated 8/24/05 1:27:42 AM, Sanguinegirl83@... writes:


> Nix that-I talk about. He (6 year old)
> listens and says he understands, but never asks questions-even to ask
> something
> like, "Really? That happens?"
>

Maybe tell stories or find movies with situations between kids and discuss it
that way (not all of a sudden this month, but just casually as life goes on).

And instead of presenting just two choices (what he did and what you
recommend) maybe recommend a couple or three things and just leave it at that. He
might go another many months without trying out your ideas, but they'll still be
in his head as things he can think about.

If Howard Garder is right, some kids are way better at interpersonal
awareness and reading other people and predicting such outcomes than others.
Different kids will need different kinds of coaching; some might need none at all.

Sandra


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From: SandraDodd@...

> Nix that-I talk about. He (6 year old)
> listens and says he understands, but never asks questions-even to ask
> something like, "Really? That happens?"


Maybe tell stories or find movies with situations between kids and
discuss it
that way (not all of a sudden this month, but just casually as life
goes on).

And instead of presenting just two choices (what he did and what you
recommend) maybe recommend a couple or three things and just leave it
at that.
He might go another many months without trying out your ideas, but
they'll still be
in his head as things he can think about.

If Howard Garder is right, some kids are way better at interpersonal
awareness and reading other people and predicting such outcomes than
others.
Different kids will need different kinds of coaching; some might need
none at
all.
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And talking about it BEFORE it happens---like on the way to the
party---just give him a heads-up about what might/could happen and
different strategies for handling them.

~Kelly


Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
October 6-9, 2005
http://liveandlearnconference.org

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In a message dated 8/24/05 10:59:27 AM, kbcdlovejo@... writes:

>
> And talking about it BEFORE it happens---like on the way to the
> party---just give him a heads-up about what might/could happen and
> different strategies for handling them.
>
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Last night my nephew called. Holly took the call. He was calling to say
he and his friend were going to drive home (100 miles) instead of coming to our
house to sleep, after Ozzfest. Holly was polite, asked a couple of
questions, and then said "Okay. Bye."

After she hung up I suggested that maybe next time someone said he was going
to drive a hundred miles in the dark she might say "Drive carefully" or "be
safe." I said "What you said was really nice, though."

Just one little coaching moment.



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