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In a message dated 7/22/05 9:43:18 AM, nellebelle@... writes:


> Sue happens to be a school teacher and a rather controlling parent.  Her
> kids go to school.  She is the one who told me that she feared Lisa was on the
> road to delinquency when she died her hair tips black with a red rinse over
> all. 
>

Keith's parents were here last week and it was a pretty good visit, but at
one point Marty left for an R-rated movie, saying if he couldn't get in he'd be
back. (He took a separate car so if he was turned back the older two boys
could still get in.)

Keith's mom told us he doesn't need to see an R rated movie. She said, "If
*I* were doing it, I wouldn't let him go, but I'm not doing it." Keith
looked over her shoulder at me with an amused look, like "your move" to me.

I said "Have you seen any problems with our kids?"

She said with a "knowing" tone: "Not YET."

I said "They've all been watching R rated movies their whole lives."

She muttered on something about Marty being right at that age, though (when
problems should start).

My kids are 13, 16 and 18 and have NOT had problems.
Still, she figures it's any day now. <g>

Sandra


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K Krejci

--- SandraDodd@... wrote:

> I said "They've all been watching R rated movies
> their whole lives."
>
> My kids are 13, 16 and 18 and have NOT had problems.
> Still, she figures it's any day now. <g>

I am reminded of an incident with my ex and his wife
over the boys watching 'Down Periscope' (PG-13
maybe?). They blew up all over me about the
'inappropriate language' etc, etc.

The boys were 8 and 10 at the time, I think. We
watched it all together and found it hysterically
funny. Early in the film and only one time, Kelsey
Grammer was outraged and used the word "fuck". This
is what the ex and his wife were spewing venom at me
over.

Last month, I asked my then-8, now almost 16yo what he
remembered about the film. His reply, "There was that
guy making whale sounds and the guy who farted. It
was FUNNY!!!"

Scarred? I don't really think so. At least, not by
that movie. The ex? That's another story...

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SandraDodd@... wrote:

>Keith's parents were here last week and it was a pretty good visit, but at
>one point Marty left for an R-rated movie, saying if he couldn't get in he'd be
>back. (He took a separate car so if he was turned back the older two boys
>could still get in.)
>
>
Wow! What kindness and consideration coming from your teenager :) I
know *I* sure would have loved to have a friend like him when I was that
age... in fact, it's an honor to know him now <vbg>

>Keith's mom told us he doesn't need to see an R rated movie. She said, "If
>*I* were doing it, I wouldn't let him go, but I'm not doing it." Keith
>looked over her shoulder at me with an amused look, like "your move" to me.
>
>
ooooh the snide things she left herself open to hear -- probably
expected to hear -- glad you surprised her by biting your tongue and
remaining civil :) [he doesn't *NEED* a pissy gramma, he doesn't
*NEED*.....]

>I said "Have you seen any problems with our kids?"
>
>She said with a "knowing" tone: "Not YET."
>
>I said "They've all been watching R rated movies their whole lives."
>
>
My kids, too. Guess I figured out pretty quickly that the attitude
scars far more than film can!
The people I babysit for have their movies separated for adults &
children; recently I went thru them with the mom, she was looking for my
advice to broaden her children's selection. Most of the movies now left
in the 'adult cabinet' are movies my kids wouldn't ask to see anyway or
would walk out of if they saw them playing. The adults have seen all
the movies they own, they *know* if their kids would enjoy them or not,
the separation ceremony seems more of a marker for being a "good mommy"
with her. Hayden and I once watched the "Atomic Bomb Movie" (Hannah was
not interested) with the dad; I was shocked he had never watched this
movie with his own kids, he'd never considered it until he saw Hayden's
enthusiasm for watching and talking and aaaaawwwwwing. We've since
watched a couple of other A-bomb movies and really enjoyed discussing
the topic from many different perspectives (another great reason to
return to NM-the atomic museum)

>She muttered on something about Marty being right at that age, though (when
>problems should start).
>
>
Like refusing to have dinner with your sniping grandmother?? <vbg>

>My kids are 13, 16 and 18 and have NOT had problems.
>Still, she figures it's any day now. <g>
>
>
She has to! She did a stellar job and still ended up with problems ....
what? you think you're doing a better job than she did with her son??
hee hee hee Why didn't he marry someone just like her? <g>

:) diana


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In a message dated 7/22/05 11:51:32 AM, hahamommy@... writes:


> you think you're doing a better job than she did with her son?? 
> hee hee hee Why didn't he marry someone just like her?
>

Luckily for the whole world, there IS no one just like her.

Sandra


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Julie W

SandraDodd@... wrote:

>
>
> I said "Have you seen any problems with our kids?"
>
> She said with a "knowing" tone: "Not YET."
>
> I said "They've all been watching R rated movies their whole lives."
>
> She muttered on something about Marty being right at that age, though
> (when
> problems should start).
>
> My kids are 13, 16 and 18 and have NOT had problems.
> Still, she figures it's any day now. <g>
>
> Sandra
>
>
The problem is that "if" anything ever does happen. If they ever do have
problem, even the normal ones tons of adults get into, she'll blame it
on how you raised them.
"If only you had kept them away from those R rated movies."

I know that in our family the belief is that Josh's eccentricities and
reading "issues" all have to do with unschooling/homeschooling and
nothing to do with inborn personalities and just being himself. They
actually believe that if he went to school he would have been a totally
different person....they might be right, but what I imagine is he would
have been a totally miserable teen.

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Betsy Hill

**The problem is that "if" anything ever does happen. If they ever do have
problem, even the normal ones tons of adults get into, she'll blame it
on how you raised them.**

Well, she can say to Sandra "This is all YOUR FAULT!" , but Sandra
doesn't have to believe her.

Betsy H.

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In a message dated 7/22/05 5:07:28 PM, ecsamhill@... writes:


> Well, she can say to Sandra "This is all YOUR FAULT!" , but Sandra
> doesn't have to believe her.
>

And first the kids are going to have to do something to fault me for. <bwg>

Sandra


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