susan wilson

my son did the same thing. he would say 'don't look at me' in a very
sing songy voice - very cute. i think curiosity must be satisfied or
they will continue having the desire. maybe you can find a safe way
for him to explore what it is that is facinating him. i know there
are some things which just can't be shared but i try to keep this to a
minimum because i want my son to understand that the world is his to
explore and i want him to always be curious. i feel this is important
because both curiosity and the ability to be satisfied are things i
believe is sorely lacking in our adult society. if children can
experience deep levels of satisfaction ( particularly at early ages)
imo they are more cooperative because they feel understood and then
they can extend a greater understanding to those around them.

-susan
austin,tx


> The topic of honesty and discipline got me thinking of my ds
(2)--there have
> been a few times when he wanted to do something and he knew it
wasn't
> allowed, so he would tell me, "Go inside, mommy."
>
> I thought it was so sweet and innocent to tell me that so openly. So
I just
> told him, "You're still not supposed to do (whatever) even when I'm
not
> here." And reiterate why I didn't want him to do it. He sort of
pondered
> that
> and seemed to think it made sense.
>
> But he still wanted to do it.
>
> :-) Diane

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In a message dated 7/6/00 11:37:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
fxfireob@... writes:

<< if children can
experience deep levels of satisfaction ( particularly at early ages)
imo they are more cooperative because they feel understood and then
they can extend a greater understanding to those around them.
>>

yes, well put, susan... that makes huge amounts of sense... if they are
empathized with, they learn to empathize through modeling... you would think
too that unconditional or unselfish love would work the same way... when
shown it as a child, should teach the child to show it in return... and yet
it always amazes me when i meet people that were so abused as children but
are able as adults to be wonderful unselfish, unconditionally loving parents