how to do it all?
Megan MacCleary
Hi, i'm new here, and i'm feeling very overwhlemed right now. There are so many things going on in each of our lives. And for me all of them are important. I'm not sure how to make time for all of it. My kids education and well being come first. I never want to change the fact we homeschool/unschool. However I have some major medical things I need to be focusing on as well as a deteriating marriage. That isn't to mention all the activities and other things. How do you all make time for all of it????
Megan
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In a message dated 6/17/2005 8:56:01 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
mkmegan2@... writes:
However I have some major medical things I need to be focusing on as well as
a deteriating marriage. That isn't to mention all the activities and other
things. How do you all make time for all of it????
I would get the kids some new, exciting, distracting video games and DVDs
and focus energy on the marriage. Kelly Lovejoy went to a retreat/counselling
thing that's put on by the Catholic church (she's not Catholic at all) and is
positive it saved her marriage--not just that, but their marriage seems to
be especially happy and solid. What emergency counselling can stabilize,
unschooling can solidify.
Medical and kid-life are unlikely to get better if marriage falls.
Sandra
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mkmegan2@... writes:
However I have some major medical things I need to be focusing on as well as
a deteriating marriage. That isn't to mention all the activities and other
things. How do you all make time for all of it????
I would get the kids some new, exciting, distracting video games and DVDs
and focus energy on the marriage. Kelly Lovejoy went to a retreat/counselling
thing that's put on by the Catholic church (she's not Catholic at all) and is
positive it saved her marriage--not just that, but their marriage seems to
be especially happy and solid. What emergency counselling can stabilize,
unschooling can solidify.
Medical and kid-life are unlikely to get better if marriage falls.
Sandra
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-----Original Message-----
From: SandraDodd@...
I would get the kids some new, exciting, distracting video games and DVDs
and focus energy on the marriage. Kelly Lovejoy went to a retreat/counselling
thing that's put on by the Catholic church (she's not Catholic at all) and is
positive it saved her marriage--not just that, but their marriage seems to
be especially happy and solid. What emergency counselling can stabilize,
unschooling can solidify.
-=-=-=-
Retrouvaille.
www.retrouvaille.org
Really did save my marriage. Weekend retreat. TOUGH!
Look into it. It's free (well, they ask for a donation at the end---you give
what you can/want to/feel it's worth) and they cover the hotel and meals for
the weekend.
It's Catholic-based, but not "preachy" at all. And they accept any faith---and
even the faithless (me).
It took a lot of healing---and didn't happen over the one weekend, but it was
worth it for us!
~Kelly
Kelly LovejoyConference CoordinatorLive and Learn Unschooling ConferenceOctober 6-9, 2005http://liveandlearnconference.org
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From: SandraDodd@...
I would get the kids some new, exciting, distracting video games and DVDs
and focus energy on the marriage. Kelly Lovejoy went to a retreat/counselling
thing that's put on by the Catholic church (she's not Catholic at all) and is
positive it saved her marriage--not just that, but their marriage seems to
be especially happy and solid. What emergency counselling can stabilize,
unschooling can solidify.
-=-=-=-
Retrouvaille.
www.retrouvaille.org
Really did save my marriage. Weekend retreat. TOUGH!
Look into it. It's free (well, they ask for a donation at the end---you give
what you can/want to/feel it's worth) and they cover the hotel and meals for
the weekend.
It's Catholic-based, but not "preachy" at all. And they accept any faith---and
even the faithless (me).
It took a lot of healing---and didn't happen over the one weekend, but it was
worth it for us!
~Kelly
Kelly LovejoyConference CoordinatorLive and Learn Unschooling ConferenceOctober 6-9, 2005http://liveandlearnconference.org
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Elizabeth Hill
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Retrouvaille.
www.retrouvaille.org
Really did save my marriage. Weekend retreat. TOUGH! **
There was a very thorough and personal thread on this topic on the old unschooling.com message boards. I don't know if anybody saved it.
(I remember posting about a dead period in my marriage, myself.)
Betsy
Retrouvaille.
www.retrouvaille.org
Really did save my marriage. Weekend retreat. TOUGH! **
There was a very thorough and personal thread on this topic on the old unschooling.com message boards. I don't know if anybody saved it.
(I remember posting about a dead period in my marriage, myself.)
Betsy
Joyce Fetteroll
On Jun 18, 2005, at 10:25 AM, Elizabeth Hill wrote:
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
Helen said the plan was to upload site and the message boards before
taking them down but apparently they didn't so it only goes back to Oct
2004. :-/
Joyce
> There was a very thorough and personal thread on this topic on the oldThe message boards are archived at:
> unschooling.com message boards. I don't know if anybody saved it.
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
Helen said the plan was to upload site and the message boards before
taking them down but apparently they didn't so it only goes back to Oct
2004. :-/
Joyce
Sandrewmama
Wow! I spent hours on this site yesterday. Great fun connecting
dots. I ordered $50.50 worth to get my free shipping.
http://store.doverpublications.com/index.html
Click on the "Subject Directory" tab or just start meandering.
Chris
dots. I ordered $50.50 worth to get my free shipping.
http://store.doverpublications.com/index.html
Click on the "Subject Directory" tab or just start meandering.
Chris
Elizabeth Hill
**
The message boards are archived at:
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
OK, so anyone who can actually spell (retrouvaille....??) (check Kelly's original post) can probably search those archives and find this discussion. I think the conversation last winter, but I could be wrong.
Betsy
The message boards are archived at:
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
OK, so anyone who can actually spell (retrouvaille....??) (check Kelly's original post) can probably search those archives and find this discussion. I think the conversation last winter, but I could be wrong.
Betsy
AlysonRR
Helen also said she was going to refer people to unschooling.info and
have a link to the site on unschooling.com, but she hasn't. A week or
two after the shut-down I emailed her asking if there would be a link
and she said there would be, but that in the meanwhile she was sending
people who asked about the message boards an email. She pasted in a
copy of the letter which basically was a "we decided to go with a new
format, feel free to join our email group" and linked to
hem-unschooling. No mention at all of unschooling.info. I emailed her
again and suggested that if people were emailing about the message board
location so soon after they were shut down, didn't she think they might
be looking for the familiar posters at unschooling.com who had moved to
unschooling.info? I repeated my request that she post a link to
unschooling.info and other unschooling e-groups on the unschooling.com
domain. I didn't get a reply to that one.
Alyson, who didn't renew HEM but is loving "Live Free, Learn Free" and
"Life Learning" magazines
The message boards are archived at:
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
<http://web.archive.org/web/*/http:/www.unschooling.com/>
Helen said the plan was to upload site and the message boards before
taking them down but apparently they didn't so it only goes back to Oct
2004. :-/
Joyce
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have a link to the site on unschooling.com, but she hasn't. A week or
two after the shut-down I emailed her asking if there would be a link
and she said there would be, but that in the meanwhile she was sending
people who asked about the message boards an email. She pasted in a
copy of the letter which basically was a "we decided to go with a new
format, feel free to join our email group" and linked to
hem-unschooling. No mention at all of unschooling.info. I emailed her
again and suggested that if people were emailing about the message board
location so soon after they were shut down, didn't she think they might
be looking for the familiar posters at unschooling.com who had moved to
unschooling.info? I repeated my request that she post a link to
unschooling.info and other unschooling e-groups on the unschooling.com
domain. I didn't get a reply to that one.
Alyson, who didn't renew HEM but is loving "Live Free, Learn Free" and
"Life Learning" magazines
The message boards are archived at:
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://www.unschooling.com/
<http://web.archive.org/web/*/http:/www.unschooling.com/>
Helen said the plan was to upload site and the message boards before
taking them down but apparently they didn't so it only goes back to Oct
2004. :-/
Joyce
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I love Dover. I was just playing some Telemann piano stuff this morning
from a Dover book I bought for 45 cents in a thrift store in Iowa ten years ago.
<g>
Their music books and coloring books are my favorites, and the reprinted a
lot of folklore books from the late 18--, early 1900s.
Sandra
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from a Dover book I bought for 45 cents in a thrift store in Iowa ten years ago.
<g>
Their music books and coloring books are my favorites, and the reprinted a
lot of folklore books from the late 18--, early 1900s.
Sandra
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kstjonn
If you like Dover, check out this link:
http://www.doverpublications.com/present12/
You can sign up and are then emailed a link each week to print-outs.
I print them out and put them into a folder so whenever Sophia (age 6)
wants, she can pick through them and find something she thinks is
interesting.
http://www.doverpublications.com/present12/
You can sign up and are then emailed a link each week to print-outs.
I print them out and put them into a folder so whenever Sophia (age 6)
wants, she can pick through them and find something she thinks is
interesting.
diana jenner
Megan MacCleary wrote:
I see you've already received some amazing advice and I hope some of it
speaks to your heart.
I'm jumping in as a mom who also had to raise kids in the midst of major
medical issues. Involving the kids in your REAL life is the very best
thing you can do for them. My kids became brain tumor experts by ages 4
& 2, from our trips to Mayo Clinic, weekly visits to the oncologist and
just good honest discussions; it *is* an environment where kids can
flourish. When Mitch got sick, we put away our *homeschool* workbooks
and began to focus on the /people/ in our home, on our relationships
with one another, not the paperwork -- unschooling -- and we've not
looked back since.
Focusing on your children's well-being means the marriage issues *MUST*
be dealt with in an adult fashion and quickly... Don't think for a
minute that your children are not learning from your relationship and
the role you each play in it. Now is when you decide what it is you
want them to bring out of your family and into their own.
Living without a husband for 4.5 years now, has given me amazing
perspective on how important that other adult-with-vested-interest in
the home is to the family. Mitch and I decided early in our marriage
that when the children came, THEY would be the focus, especially when
they were babies -- we would have plenty of time to be married long
after the kids were grown. Even though it didn't work out that way, and
we knew it wouldn't, we kept our commitment to them -- we let go of a
lot of immature pissiness in the name of raising kids and
living/modeling a happy marriage.
On socializing, I'd recommend looking up your local hs group and
attending parkday (we go every Tue) to check everyone out -- you should
show up a few times before you judge it, as not everyone shows up every
week. Sounds like you could use a sunny afternoon at the park,
yourself! I've even resorted to hanging up fliers at health food stores
& libraries looking for like-minded parents.
Now that summer is here, our local park & rec department has activities
almost daily, from theatre in the park to game days to puppet shows at
the library. A family pass to our public pools is worth every single
penny, we swim at least 4x week and always talk to someone new while
we're there! Check out the free/cheap activities first, no chance for
resentment when they hate them ;)
HTH ~ diana :)
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>Hi, i'm new here, and i'm feeling very overwhlemed right now. There are so many things going on in each of our lives. And for me all of them are important. I'm not sure how to make time for all of it. My kids education and well being come first. I never want to change the fact we homeschool/unschool. However I have some major medical things I need to be focusing on as well as a deteriating marriage. That isn't to mention all the activities and other things. How do you all make time for all of it????Hi Megan and welcome!
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>As far as priorities. Part of why we homeschool/unschool is so I can put my children first before other priorities. I want their education at the top of the list! For the past twqo months I have felt like they have taken the back burner in our family, and I don't feel this is fair. So i agree marriage needs to be near the top; but we are adults and they are kids. My girls are 7 n 8. They have seen and been through alot. They are currently very needy socially! I'm trying to find different things that will fit in our budget to help with that. I have soem ideas, but many things are very expensive. They miss our closest friends in IN very much. We see them about 1ce a year, but its not the same. They are searching for new friendships, and i'm having a hard time focusing on more then one thing right now. So for them they need to be my focus, atleast until things start to pan out for them. -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
>
>
I see you've already received some amazing advice and I hope some of it
speaks to your heart.
I'm jumping in as a mom who also had to raise kids in the midst of major
medical issues. Involving the kids in your REAL life is the very best
thing you can do for them. My kids became brain tumor experts by ages 4
& 2, from our trips to Mayo Clinic, weekly visits to the oncologist and
just good honest discussions; it *is* an environment where kids can
flourish. When Mitch got sick, we put away our *homeschool* workbooks
and began to focus on the /people/ in our home, on our relationships
with one another, not the paperwork -- unschooling -- and we've not
looked back since.
Focusing on your children's well-being means the marriage issues *MUST*
be dealt with in an adult fashion and quickly... Don't think for a
minute that your children are not learning from your relationship and
the role you each play in it. Now is when you decide what it is you
want them to bring out of your family and into their own.
Living without a husband for 4.5 years now, has given me amazing
perspective on how important that other adult-with-vested-interest in
the home is to the family. Mitch and I decided early in our marriage
that when the children came, THEY would be the focus, especially when
they were babies -- we would have plenty of time to be married long
after the kids were grown. Even though it didn't work out that way, and
we knew it wouldn't, we kept our commitment to them -- we let go of a
lot of immature pissiness in the name of raising kids and
living/modeling a happy marriage.
On socializing, I'd recommend looking up your local hs group and
attending parkday (we go every Tue) to check everyone out -- you should
show up a few times before you judge it, as not everyone shows up every
week. Sounds like you could use a sunny afternoon at the park,
yourself! I've even resorted to hanging up fliers at health food stores
& libraries looking for like-minded parents.
Now that summer is here, our local park & rec department has activities
almost daily, from theatre in the park to game days to puppet shows at
the library. A family pass to our public pools is worth every single
penny, we swim at least 4x week and always talk to someone new while
we're there! Check out the free/cheap activities first, no chance for
resentment when they hate them ;)
HTH ~ diana :)
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