ideas for letting go of control
Sears Family
Hello again,
As I ponder what may work for me as I shed my controls over my children's food choices, these ideas have come to mind.
-printed out inspiring e-mails and articles and put them in a binder in the kitchen so I can reach for it in a weak moment
-created 2 affirmations for myself
1. I trust our innate desire to learn.
2. I trust our innate ability to nourish our bodies.
If anyone can remember their "letting go of the control of food choices of their children" phase enough to remember what tips helped them reach the other side and would like to share them here, I would be so grateful to read more of these, and perhaps print them out for my binder!
Michele
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As I ponder what may work for me as I shed my controls over my children's food choices, these ideas have come to mind.
-printed out inspiring e-mails and articles and put them in a binder in the kitchen so I can reach for it in a weak moment
-created 2 affirmations for myself
1. I trust our innate desire to learn.
2. I trust our innate ability to nourish our bodies.
If anyone can remember their "letting go of the control of food choices of their children" phase enough to remember what tips helped them reach the other side and would like to share them here, I would be so grateful to read more of these, and perhaps print them out for my binder!
Michele
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In a message dated 3/26/2005 10:15:19 PM Mountain Standard Time,
brewstersears@... writes:
If anyone can remember their "letting go of the control of food choices of
their children" phase enough to remember what tips helped them reach the other
side and would like to share them here, I would be so grateful to read more
of these, and perhaps print them out for my binder!
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Mine was with babies, but it helped me to remember my friend "Snail"(Lisa)
who lived on mostly donuts and cheap breakfast pastries for three years or so
after she moved out of her (crazy) parents' house, and I never remember her
being sick or lacking energy in all that time. I never saw her eat fruit,
vegetables or meat. Bread and cheese a time or two, and cake. She was in the
SCA, and we'd go camping for days or a week, and she would turn down offers
of fresh-cooked food or cooler sandwich food in favor of the coffee cake or
sweetrolls she had brought (because they seemed more medieval to her than
donuts).
She married a physicist (which made her physics-geek parents happy) who was
also a cook, and she started eating WILD stuff, like fire-roasted goat, and
artichokes and mushrooms and chicken and broccoli.
I remembered seeing parents try to force babies to eat baby food, and I saw
too many other moms harranguing kids one way or another, and see that neither
the food nor the family nor the child was benefitting at all.
Meanwhile, my kids were calm and happy, not hungry (or if they were they
would reach for food or ask to nurse or get food) and not afraid of food, or
avoiding it, or sneaking it nor being ecstatic at seeing it. There wasn't a lot
of emotion tied up in food. It was as available as air or water, and so it
came to be like air or water, and they didn't abuse or reject or long for or
hoard it.
Sandra
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brewstersears@... writes:
If anyone can remember their "letting go of the control of food choices of
their children" phase enough to remember what tips helped them reach the other
side and would like to share them here, I would be so grateful to read more
of these, and perhaps print them out for my binder!
============
Mine was with babies, but it helped me to remember my friend "Snail"(Lisa)
who lived on mostly donuts and cheap breakfast pastries for three years or so
after she moved out of her (crazy) parents' house, and I never remember her
being sick or lacking energy in all that time. I never saw her eat fruit,
vegetables or meat. Bread and cheese a time or two, and cake. She was in the
SCA, and we'd go camping for days or a week, and she would turn down offers
of fresh-cooked food or cooler sandwich food in favor of the coffee cake or
sweetrolls she had brought (because they seemed more medieval to her than
donuts).
She married a physicist (which made her physics-geek parents happy) who was
also a cook, and she started eating WILD stuff, like fire-roasted goat, and
artichokes and mushrooms and chicken and broccoli.
I remembered seeing parents try to force babies to eat baby food, and I saw
too many other moms harranguing kids one way or another, and see that neither
the food nor the family nor the child was benefitting at all.
Meanwhile, my kids were calm and happy, not hungry (or if they were they
would reach for food or ask to nurse or get food) and not afraid of food, or
avoiding it, or sneaking it nor being ecstatic at seeing it. There wasn't a lot
of emotion tied up in food. It was as available as air or water, and so it
came to be like air or water, and they didn't abuse or reject or long for or
hoard it.
Sandra
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Sheryl Mundy
Hi all, This is my first post to the group but I have lurked for a long time, the food control issue is what brings me out. I was raised in a family where I had to sit at the table with a timer if I had not finished diner with the family. When the timer rang and I was still not done I was punished, and they wondered why I had and eating problem. My kids eat pretty much what they want when they want. And to top it off 3 of my 4 kids have turned vegan so I am learning the wonders of cooking vegan. I usually make 2 versions of meals, one with meat (for husband and youngest) and one without (I can go either way). All snacks and deserts are made vegan. I refuse to get upset by my kids food choices, I just don't think it's important enough. They usually make good choices and when they don't it's temporary.
Thanks for the interesting views,
Sheryl
"do not meddle with the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good
with ketchup." annon.
"Speaking the Truth in times of universal deceit is a revolutionary act." George Orwell
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Thanks for the interesting views,
Sheryl
"do not meddle with the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good
with ketchup." annon.
"Speaking the Truth in times of universal deceit is a revolutionary act." George Orwell
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