taraannwho

Robyn Coburn wrote:

"If you are giving lots of approval to the schoolish
appearing games, you may be devaluing their other choices. One result
could
be to make the children feel wrong or vaguely guilty about their "trivial"
interests; another could be to create secrets between parent and child."

I am new to this group. I started homeschooling a little over a year
ago and started out unschooling. I occassionaly "lose faith" as they
say, so much so that I bought a Calvert curriculum this year. But I
am happy to say that my kids let me know pretty fast that they prefer
unschooling. (Thank goodness for E-bay!) Anyway, the words above
really hit home with me as I have totally created this situation with
my son. My son feels totally guilty about the games and cartoons he
loves. He goes to his father's house on weekends and they really
enjoy these activities together. Sometimes my son will not tell me
about a game he has played or movie he has seen that he thinks I might
not like. Then he will have a total break-down of guilt. Any ideas
on how to mend my evil ways? He's 7 years old. He's a great kid and
he has a great father. I really never meant to create this
atmosphere. Will time help the situation if I just stop acting that
way or should I make ammends somehow?

Penn Acres

At last-an easy one :-)
Run out-ASAP-rent or buy videos-preferably buy-check with dad if nec to see what his favorites are-
make-buy treats-sit down with son-marathon snuggle with son/cartoons/ -no interuptions-tickle and laugh-apologize for not quite understanding-
Repeat often-buy game cube or playstation for xmas-
Enjoy.
grace
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From: taraannwho I am new to this group. I started homeschooling a little over a year

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Linda

--- taraannwho <taracullen@...> wrote:
>>>Will time help the situation if I just stop acting
that way or should I make ammends somehow? <<<

If you never said anything about it, how would he know
that you were no longer judging him? And an apology
would certainly be appopriate and would go a long way
toward mending this part of your relationship!

Linda



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Rachael VerNooy

On Wednesday, December 8, 2004, at 07:02 PM, Linda wrote:

> If you never said anything about it, how would he know
> that you were no longer judging him? And an apology
> would certainly be appopriate and would go a long way
> toward mending this part of your relationship!

Yes, and you could also explain why you have had a prejudice against tv
and video games in the past (your childhood, societal pressure...) and
tell him that you're working on changing this because now you believe
these things do have value.

Rachael

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>>>>>>>>> Sometimes my son will not tell me
about a game he has played or movie he has seen that he thinks I might
not like. Then he will have a total break-down of guilt. Any ideas
on how to mend my evil ways? <<<<<


Buy him Donkey Konga for Christmas? With two sets of drums? One for each of you? <g>

Play long. It's fun! <g>

~Kelly