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In a message dated 10/6/2004 3:31:13 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
ecotopian@... writes:
is it still restricting if i can only allow them a thing or
two beyond our normal meals?
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What people are trying to say is to try to move away from arbitrary rules.
The direction is what's important.

When a family is really getting unschooling in a 3-D, whole-life way, things
start to become easier, I think.

Sandra


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Seth W Bartels

>When a family is really getting unschooling in a 3-D, whole->life way,
things
>start to become easier, I think.

>Sandra

oh goody! i look forward to the day when all of this worrying seems
ridiculous and everything else is second nature. :)

here's another interesting one...just after i spewed all of my worries
here at length about letting go of food restrictions, we got a paper in
the mail stating that our food stamp allowance has gone up tremendously
since my husband's pay went down and he's going back to school (guess
we're being rewarded for that?) anyhow, it's finally at a livable level
for our family. yippee! this is just what i needed to have happen!
after dh came home, i drove straightaway to the store and bought up a
whole load of happy yummy goodies. knowing i can always have some more
of *whatever* makes me much more at ease about saying *yes*. i was
always so worried about not being able to provide completely for my
kids...now this is a non-issue and i must say, i feel so much lighter for
it. :)

funny how things happen like that sometimes...i'm smiling again!

lisa

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Nisha

I hope so. It can be a really hard thing to actually really get. I've
always leaned towards unschooling, as far as education. It's the
other stuff that seems harder for me to really wrap my head around.
Nisha




--- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a... wrote:
> When a family is really getting unschooling in a 3-D, whole-life
way, things start to become easier, I think.
>
> Sandra

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In a message dated 10/7/04 7:26:27 AM, nishamartin@... writes:

<<

I hope so. It can be a really hard thing to actually really get. I've

always leaned towards unschooling, as far as education. It's the

other stuff that seems harder for me to really wrap my head around. >>

The education is the real unschooling part.

The other is something some people find helpful. If it doesn't appeal to you
or it doesn't make sense to you, let it go and do what you're doing.

Sandra

Fetteroll

on 10/6/04 10:55 PM, Nisha at nishamartin@... wrote:

> I hope so. It can be a really hard thing to actually really get. I've
> always leaned towards unschooling, as far as education. It's the
> other stuff that seems harder for me to really wrap my head around.

It's not necessary for unschooling though. It's for parents who get the
trusting their kids to learn what they need part of unschooling and then
start questioning why they're telling their kids they need to be in bed by 9
or to turn off the TV after an hour or you have to brush your teeth.

Wanting to treat kids with respect is the first step. Then your focus shifts
from the object to helping them get what they want. Kids don't want to be
unhappy or grumpy! If they're getting grumpy from watching TV for 8 hours
straight then the goal becomes helping them figure out ways not to be grumpy
rather than figuring out ways to impose a "no more than 2 hours of TV"
solution. If that makes sense.

Joyce