Raven

I got my 16 yr old daughters most recent grades yesterday. Grades?
What am I saying, she has NO grades! A B in choir and Incomplete in
Japanese and N's for everything else. She wont dress down for gym,
she doesnt study for tests, she doesnt do homework. Her freshamn
year up till now has been a waste.

We cant enforce doing homework or studying when we dont know she has
it to do and it's not like the school is going to send home a letter
everyday saying what she needs to do.

I began thinking about un/homeschooling because my son was assaulted
after getting off the bus one day. Now it's un/homeschool her or
watch her fail at her education completely. I could send her off to
job corps. but she isnt ready to leave home yet and I refuse to
throw my child away. She is MY child and MY concern, not someone
elses.

The other two will continue going to school for now. Hubby still
hasnt decided if they should be home schooled or not. Younger
daughter is special needs and son is above average. He is concerned
they will not get what they need at home. I am inclined to agree
for now. We agreed to finish this school year and discuss it before
next school year.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to begin with her?

Deb

--- In [email protected], "Raven" <raven_luna2005@...>
wrote:
>
>16 yr old daughters
> Does anyone have any suggestions on how to begin with her?
>
VACATION. You all need a good big chunk of detoxing before anything
else - a good year's worth to start. Let her know that you'll help her
with whatever she wants to do but that you aren't going to tell her
what to do or require anything except that she take time off from
anything resembling school. Make it clear that you're there for her
not just dropping her or anything but that she is the one directing
her steps. Maybe a copy of Teenage Liberation Handbook for all of you
to read if that seems like a helpful resource. What you don't want to
do is apply at home what was already not working at school
(assignments, tests, required subjects, etc).

--Deb

Pamela Sorooshian

On Feb 5, 2006, at 8:52 PM, Raven wrote:

>
> Does anyone have any suggestions on how to begin with her?
>

Both of you should read "The Teenage Liberation Handbook" by Grace
Llewelyn. Libraries sometimes carry it. Get it as soon as you can and
read it immediately.

-pam

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