advice for 2parents working?, intro
[email protected]
Hi, I'm Amanda. My family consists of Justin age 5 1/2, Madison age 3, DH,
and pets- dog, cats, chickens. We live in an off-the-grid home in rural New
York State.
My son is attending private school this year (when I'd been planning for the
last 2 years to unschool) after my husband and I both found employment at
about the same time. We moved to the country a little over a year ago and I
accepted a teaching job (I teach high school special education- that's another
long story, but is a big part of why we want to homeschool) because my DH was
unable to find work in this very rural area. So shortly after I went back
to work (was SAHM for 4 years), DH accepts position. So we think, yippie, I
can go back to staying home and we can unschool... then, his company anounces
that they will be closing within a few years but layoffs will begin anytime
now. So, it looks like I will continue working afterall. We decided to send
our son to school for K since we were both working this year. Next year, if
DH still has position, we would like him to continue working as long as he
can to pay off the land that we purchased when we moved here.
We will be able to live (barely) off my salary after that, but aren't
worried about that as prior to now, we'd been living off one salary for years
anyway.
Ok, so that's my background info. next year, I'd like my son to not go back
to school. My mom lives nearby and watches my 3 year old. She says she
will watch my son too, but is very concerned about his schooling. I'm talking
to her about unschooling, but she doesn't quite get it. At this point, I'm
kind of now teling her that I can "teach" him in the evenings, weekends, and
summers, and could she just watch him and play with him during the day while
we're working? Like she does with my daughter who has a ball at grandma's with
the baking and the dress up , and the library trips, you know.
My son has been complaining this year already that he doesn'thave enough
time to play because he's in school, and why can't they have longer recess (at
least his school actually has recess), etc. He's excited about the stuff he's
been learning at school, but would prefer not to go. We have a housefull of
fun stuff to do, books to read, woods to play in, animals to care for, etc.
I'm wondering if anyone else has homeschooled with 2 parents working?
My son would love it home with grandma as her place has tons of stuff to do.
He told me last night that if he didn't have to go to school he could sew
with grandma (she makes quilts and great costumes), do airplane models with
grandpa, play legos, and sleep in! Plus paint, draw, write, and listen to
grandma read books.
I guess that even though I had been plainning on homeschooling all along, we
got off track this year with working and sending him to K. It's not that I've
lost the courage to keep him home next year, I had just always thought I'd
be the one home with him having all the unschooling fun!
Also, where we live there is not a homeschooling group. There are a few
very rigid Christian school at homers, and about 1 1/2 away is a more relaxed
group, but a long drive for a playdate.
ANY THOUGHTS?
Thanks so much,
AMANDA
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
and pets- dog, cats, chickens. We live in an off-the-grid home in rural New
York State.
My son is attending private school this year (when I'd been planning for the
last 2 years to unschool) after my husband and I both found employment at
about the same time. We moved to the country a little over a year ago and I
accepted a teaching job (I teach high school special education- that's another
long story, but is a big part of why we want to homeschool) because my DH was
unable to find work in this very rural area. So shortly after I went back
to work (was SAHM for 4 years), DH accepts position. So we think, yippie, I
can go back to staying home and we can unschool... then, his company anounces
that they will be closing within a few years but layoffs will begin anytime
now. So, it looks like I will continue working afterall. We decided to send
our son to school for K since we were both working this year. Next year, if
DH still has position, we would like him to continue working as long as he
can to pay off the land that we purchased when we moved here.
We will be able to live (barely) off my salary after that, but aren't
worried about that as prior to now, we'd been living off one salary for years
anyway.
Ok, so that's my background info. next year, I'd like my son to not go back
to school. My mom lives nearby and watches my 3 year old. She says she
will watch my son too, but is very concerned about his schooling. I'm talking
to her about unschooling, but she doesn't quite get it. At this point, I'm
kind of now teling her that I can "teach" him in the evenings, weekends, and
summers, and could she just watch him and play with him during the day while
we're working? Like she does with my daughter who has a ball at grandma's with
the baking and the dress up , and the library trips, you know.
My son has been complaining this year already that he doesn'thave enough
time to play because he's in school, and why can't they have longer recess (at
least his school actually has recess), etc. He's excited about the stuff he's
been learning at school, but would prefer not to go. We have a housefull of
fun stuff to do, books to read, woods to play in, animals to care for, etc.
I'm wondering if anyone else has homeschooled with 2 parents working?
My son would love it home with grandma as her place has tons of stuff to do.
He told me last night that if he didn't have to go to school he could sew
with grandma (she makes quilts and great costumes), do airplane models with
grandpa, play legos, and sleep in! Plus paint, draw, write, and listen to
grandma read books.
I guess that even though I had been plainning on homeschooling all along, we
got off track this year with working and sending him to K. It's not that I've
lost the courage to keep him home next year, I had just always thought I'd
be the one home with him having all the unschooling fun!
Also, where we live there is not a homeschooling group. There are a few
very rigid Christian school at homers, and about 1 1/2 away is a more relaxed
group, but a long drive for a playdate.
ANY THOUGHTS?
Thanks so much,
AMANDA
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Pamela Sorooshian
Grandma's house sounds wonderful. I'd go for that, for sure. And -
telling her not to worry about his "education," that you'll handle
that in the evenings and on weekends is very reasonable.
As far as homeschool groups - you don't need one. Keep in touch with
any kids in school - make play dates. Maybe, IF your son seems to
desire more social interactions, join in on an activity that he'd
enjoy - Campfire Boys and Girls is a good one, if you have that near
you. But, your kids are little, don't rush and don't feel like they
NEED a group.
-pam
telling her not to worry about his "education," that you'll handle
that in the evenings and on weekends is very reasonable.
As far as homeschool groups - you don't need one. Keep in touch with
any kids in school - make play dates. Maybe, IF your son seems to
desire more social interactions, join in on an activity that he'd
enjoy - Campfire Boys and Girls is a good one, if you have that near
you. But, your kids are little, don't rush and don't feel like they
NEED a group.
-pam
On Jan 22, 2006, at 9:06 AM, bokusfam@... wrote:
>
> Also, where we live there is not a homeschooling group. There are
> a few
> very rigid Christian school at homers, and about 1 1/2 away is a
> more relaxed
> group, but a long drive for a playdate.
>
> ANY THOUGHTS?
> Thanks so much,
> AMANDA
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Sylvia Toyama
My son would love it home with grandma as her place has tons of stuff to do. He told me last night that if he didn't have to go to school he could sew with grandma (she makes quilts and great costumes), do airplane models with grandpa, play legos, and sleep in! Plus paint, draw, write, and listen to grandma read books.
******
So, why wait? How about pulling him from Kindergarten now and letting him hang out with g'ma & g'pa and his little sister tomorrow? If he's already not happy there, and they could have him, seems to me there's no reason to wait for May.
Sylvia
---------------------------------
Yahoo! Autos. Looking for a sweet ride? Get pricing, reviews, & more on new and used cars.
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
******
So, why wait? How about pulling him from Kindergarten now and letting him hang out with g'ma & g'pa and his little sister tomorrow? If he's already not happy there, and they could have him, seems to me there's no reason to wait for May.
Sylvia
---------------------------------
Yahoo! Autos. Looking for a sweet ride? Get pricing, reviews, & more on new and used cars.
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
[email protected]
>>next year, I'd like my son to not go back to school. My mom lives nearby and watches my 3 year old. She says she will watch my son too, but is very concerned about his schooling. I'm talking to her about unschooling, but she doesn't quite get it. At this point, I'm kind of now teling her that I can "teach" him in the evenings, weekends, and summers, and could she just watch him and play with him during the day while we're working? Like she does with my daughter who has a ball at grandma's with the baking and the dress up , and the library trips, you know.>>Hi Amanda. Why not bring your son home now since he's not so happy at school? Let him go to Grandma's and have a blast. If it helps to tell her that the "teaching" happens at night then go ahead. You will know that the learning happens all the time. Grandma's sounds like a pretty cool place to hang out to me!
--
~Mary, unschooling mom to Conor (16) and Casey (11)
"Just today I'm going to be utterly present for my children, I'm going to be in their world (not just doing my own thing while they do theirs), I'm going to really hear them, I'm going to prepare myself to be present starting right now."
~Ren Allen
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
S Drag-teine
Just make sure to check your home schooling laws before you do that to make
sure you are in compliance.
Shannon
~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~
I'm glad we switched!
We are now safer and healthier, using toxic-free products and saving money,
too.
Call (212) 990-6214 for a 10 minute prerecorded presentation or contact me
directly.
-----Original Message-----
From: [email protected]
[mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of zenmomma@...
Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2006 4:39 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] advice for 2parents working?, intro
concerned about his schooling. I'm talking to her about unschooling, but
she doesn't quite get it. At this point, I'm kind of now teling her that I
can "teach" him in the evenings, weekends, and summers, and could she just
watch him and play with him during the day while we're working? Like she
does with my daughter who has a ball at grandma's with the baking and the
dress up , and the library trips, you know.>>
Hi Amanda. Why not bring your son home now since he's not so happy at
school? Let him go to Grandma's and have a blast. If it helps to tell her
that the "teaching" happens at night then go ahead. You will know that the
learning happens all the time. Grandma's sounds like a pretty cool place to
hang out to me!
--
~Mary, unschooling mom to Conor (16) and Casey (11)
"Just today I'm going to be utterly present for my children, I'm going to be
in their world (not just doing my own thing while they do theirs), I'm going
to really hear them, I'm going to prepare myself to be present starting
right now."
~Ren Allen
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Yahoo! Groups Links
sure you are in compliance.
Shannon
~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~.~>|<~
I'm glad we switched!
We are now safer and healthier, using toxic-free products and saving money,
too.
Call (212) 990-6214 for a 10 minute prerecorded presentation or contact me
directly.
-----Original Message-----
From: [email protected]
[mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of zenmomma@...
Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2006 4:39 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] advice for 2parents working?, intro
>>next year, I'd like my son to not go back to school. My mom lives nearbyand watches my 3 year old. She says she will watch my son too, but is very
concerned about his schooling. I'm talking to her about unschooling, but
she doesn't quite get it. At this point, I'm kind of now teling her that I
can "teach" him in the evenings, weekends, and summers, and could she just
watch him and play with him during the day while we're working? Like she
does with my daughter who has a ball at grandma's with the baking and the
dress up , and the library trips, you know.>>
Hi Amanda. Why not bring your son home now since he's not so happy at
school? Let him go to Grandma's and have a blast. If it helps to tell her
that the "teaching" happens at night then go ahead. You will know that the
learning happens all the time. Grandma's sounds like a pretty cool place to
hang out to me!
--
~Mary, unschooling mom to Conor (16) and Casey (11)
"Just today I'm going to be utterly present for my children, I'm going to be
in their world (not just doing my own thing while they do theirs), I'm going
to really hear them, I'm going to prepare myself to be present starting
right now."
~Ren Allen
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Yahoo! Groups Links