bored
nrskay
We have been deprogramming since April when we switched from home at
school to unschooling. My dd is 11yo. Over the weekend she did a 2
page report (single spaced) on cats anatomy and behavior. She's
interested in becoming a vet. She started this on Saturday night
and without any prompting by us.
But today she came to me before dinner and kept saying I'm bored
over and over again. Because it was close to dinner I asked if she
wanted to make something, she did, and she made dinner for the two
of us. Dad is at the firehouse today.
I guess I don't know what to do when this boredom stuff starts up.
I made suggestions but she looks at me and says no, no, no to
everything I mentioned. I remembered in one of my books about a mom
who's son was bored for about a week or so then he finally figured
out what he wanted to pursue.
Do I let her have space or suggest things. It's times like this
that I begin to question myself about unschooling, even though I
know that as a family we are on the right journey together.
Kay
school to unschooling. My dd is 11yo. Over the weekend she did a 2
page report (single spaced) on cats anatomy and behavior. She's
interested in becoming a vet. She started this on Saturday night
and without any prompting by us.
But today she came to me before dinner and kept saying I'm bored
over and over again. Because it was close to dinner I asked if she
wanted to make something, she did, and she made dinner for the two
of us. Dad is at the firehouse today.
I guess I don't know what to do when this boredom stuff starts up.
I made suggestions but she looks at me and says no, no, no to
everything I mentioned. I remembered in one of my books about a mom
who's son was bored for about a week or so then he finally figured
out what he wanted to pursue.
Do I let her have space or suggest things. It's times like this
that I begin to question myself about unschooling, even though I
know that as a family we are on the right journey together.
Kay
Ren Allen
"Do I let her have space or suggest things. "
Both. I have found that my kids don't usually run with my
suggestions, but making suggestions gets them thinking, so it's
still a good thing.:) After I run through about ten things, they'll
usually go "I know what I want to do" and run off.
It might be a sign that she's ready to go and do more, it might just
be the age. All of my children so far have gone through a sort of
restless phase right around 12 years old or so. Trevor had another
one around the beginning of this year. Part of it is just trying to
figure out what excites them, what they love.
Maybe gather up brochures and event listings of local stuff that
looks fun, get a couple new magazine subsriptions, go to a movie,
try a new restaurant, keep lots of options available that she can
look through when she needs inspiration.
I like "idea" lists...gives us a place to go for fun ideas when we
need them. You can keep adding to it over the months, as you find
new things.
Ren
Both. I have found that my kids don't usually run with my
suggestions, but making suggestions gets them thinking, so it's
still a good thing.:) After I run through about ten things, they'll
usually go "I know what I want to do" and run off.
It might be a sign that she's ready to go and do more, it might just
be the age. All of my children so far have gone through a sort of
restless phase right around 12 years old or so. Trevor had another
one around the beginning of this year. Part of it is just trying to
figure out what excites them, what they love.
Maybe gather up brochures and event listings of local stuff that
looks fun, get a couple new magazine subsriptions, go to a movie,
try a new restaurant, keep lots of options available that she can
look through when she needs inspiration.
I like "idea" lists...gives us a place to go for fun ideas when we
need them. You can keep adding to it over the months, as you find
new things.
Ren
Deb
--- In [email protected], "nrskay" <k_bird@c...> wrote:
you. My DS is 7 and on those rare times he says he's bored usually
what he wants is not suggestions of stuff -he- can do but rather
stuff -we- can do together. Especially at that pre-teen time she might
be needing some big doses of close mom-time
--Deb
>Another possibility is that she is wanting some connecting time with
> But today she came to me before dinner and kept saying I'm bored
> over and over again. Because it was close to dinner I asked if she
> wanted to make something, she did, and she made dinner for the two
> of us. Dad is at the firehouse today.
>
you. My DS is 7 and on those rare times he says he's bored usually
what he wants is not suggestions of stuff -he- can do but rather
stuff -we- can do together. Especially at that pre-teen time she might
be needing some big doses of close mom-time
--Deb
nrskay
Deb - that is so funny that you said that - "mom & me time." After I
did the dishes she came and we started making bubbles with the dish
soap. We were trying to see who could make the biggest one. Then she
wanted to see if the dog could see the bubbles. It was a great mom
and me moment. Now, she's back on the computer and designing a new
Neopet fairie. I think I'll send her a challenge.
Happy with our new life,
Kay
did the dishes she came and we started making bubbles with the dish
soap. We were trying to see who could make the biggest one. Then she
wanted to see if the dog could see the bubbles. It was a great mom
and me moment. Now, she's back on the computer and designing a new
Neopet fairie. I think I'll send her a challenge.
Happy with our new life,
Kay
Deb
--- In [email protected], "nrskay" <k_bird@c...> wrote:
Our dog loves chasing bubbles and 'biting'/popping them when we have
the bubble wands out.
--Deb
>And...? Did the dog see the bubbles?
> Then she
> wanted to see if the dog could see the bubbles.
Our dog loves chasing bubbles and 'biting'/popping them when we have
the bubble wands out.
--Deb
nrskay
Oh yea, the dog was trying to get the bubbles. It was great fun.
Kay
Kay