Re: [unschoolingbasics] Digest Number 39
Millie Rosa
I hope this doesn't sound offensive.
It sounds like she's implying that her child needs to be pushed
further out away from her like her dog and go a separate way (maybe
not too much but something like that).
Well, yeah, that does sound offensive....
Hell, no, I am not implying that my child needs to be pushed further away from me like my dog! I was expressing what happened w my dog (shouldn't have, I guess) because it is an (irrational) fear I have that if we were to have another child that Will would somehow be less important.
I have never forced Will into anything, including social situations. He is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants. He has not had negative experiences with other children, just few experiences with other children, and I want him to be able to enjoy them. I do not put him down or encourage him to play. I just hold him until he wants to get down. My child is securely attached and I wouldn't have it any other way. I would NEVER "push him out away from me" in any way! Not to sound too defensive, but I don't want anyone to think I am wanting to put my son out like the dog! Jeez.
As far as the dog is concerned, she is outside now because apparently that is the best thing for her. William was giving her hell constantly, she wanted to bite him, and they had to be seperated. I tried a crate, which she hated, having not been raised with one (she cried and screamed the whole time she was in it), then we tried confining her to the laundry room when Will was awake and she tore up the door and several items in the laundry room. I had been resistant to putting her out, but my husband insisted and she seems to be happy outside.
Love, Millie
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It sounds like she's implying that her child needs to be pushed
further out away from her like her dog and go a separate way (maybe
not too much but something like that).
Well, yeah, that does sound offensive....
Hell, no, I am not implying that my child needs to be pushed further away from me like my dog! I was expressing what happened w my dog (shouldn't have, I guess) because it is an (irrational) fear I have that if we were to have another child that Will would somehow be less important.
I have never forced Will into anything, including social situations. He is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants. He has not had negative experiences with other children, just few experiences with other children, and I want him to be able to enjoy them. I do not put him down or encourage him to play. I just hold him until he wants to get down. My child is securely attached and I wouldn't have it any other way. I would NEVER "push him out away from me" in any way! Not to sound too defensive, but I don't want anyone to think I am wanting to put my son out like the dog! Jeez.
As far as the dog is concerned, she is outside now because apparently that is the best thing for her. William was giving her hell constantly, she wanted to bite him, and they had to be seperated. I tried a crate, which she hated, having not been raised with one (she cried and screamed the whole time she was in it), then we tried confining her to the laundry room when Will was awake and she tore up the door and several items in the laundry room. I had been resistant to putting her out, but my husband insisted and she seems to be happy outside.
Love, Millie
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dail
Millie, this reminded me of my days as a mom to a little kid. I used to call my dd, a "Kling-on"
Or I referred to her as my "Velcro kid"
Everything changes and oh so fast!
Dail
Will ... is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants.
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Or I referred to her as my "Velcro kid"
Everything changes and oh so fast!
Dail
Will ... is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants.
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Sherri-Lee Pressman
Hi Millie,
I am fairly new here too and not a seasoned unschooler like many here, but I wanted to say, I can totally relate to your concern about being able to love another child without it meaning you love the first less. In fact I know I waited on getting pregnant with number 2 partly because I was so unsure that I would be able to love the first as much even after the second came. Even now as I approach the 6 month of pregnancy, I often think about the way things are going to change for me and my dd with a second child in the mix and am saddened by the change and end of something. I know it will be good and wonderful with the second one, but it is hard to face the change of something that is now so wonderful.
Just thought I would pop in and say I totally understand what you are saying... oh and my cat? Who was my baby before my baby... hardly gets any of the attention she used to.... but we all adjust I guess,
Sherri-Lee
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I am fairly new here too and not a seasoned unschooler like many here, but I wanted to say, I can totally relate to your concern about being able to love another child without it meaning you love the first less. In fact I know I waited on getting pregnant with number 2 partly because I was so unsure that I would be able to love the first as much even after the second came. Even now as I approach the 6 month of pregnancy, I often think about the way things are going to change for me and my dd with a second child in the mix and am saddened by the change and end of something. I know it will be good and wonderful with the second one, but it is hard to face the change of something that is now so wonderful.
Just thought I would pop in and say I totally understand what you are saying... oh and my cat? Who was my baby before my baby... hardly gets any of the attention she used to.... but we all adjust I guess,
Sherri-Lee
Looking for safe and natural health products?
http://www.aloeessence.com
----- Original Message -----
From: Millie Rosa
To: [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, June 17, 2004 10:03 AM
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Digest Number 39
I hope this doesn't sound offensive.
It sounds like she's implying that her child needs to be pushed
further out away from her like her dog and go a separate way (maybe
not too much but something like that).
Well, yeah, that does sound offensive....
Hell, no, I am not implying that my child needs to be pushed further away from me like my dog! I was expressing what happened w my dog (shouldn't have, I guess) because it is an (irrational) fear I have that if we were to have another child that Will would somehow be less important.
I have never forced Will into anything, including social situations. He is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants. He has not had negative experiences with other children, just few experiences with other children, and I want him to be able to enjoy them. I do not put him down or encourage him to play. I just hold him until he wants to get down. My child is securely attached and I wouldn't have it any other way. I would NEVER "push him out away from me" in any way! Not to sound too defensive, but I don't want anyone to think I am wanting to put my son out like the dog! Jeez.
As far as the dog is concerned, she is outside now because apparently that is the best thing for her. William was giving her hell constantly, she wanted to bite him, and they had to be seperated. I tried a crate, which she hated, having not been raised with one (she cried and screamed the whole time she was in it), then we tried confining her to the laundry room when Will was awake and she tore up the door and several items in the laundry room. I had been resistant to putting her out, but my husband insisted and she seems to be happy outside.
Love, Millie
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Sherri-Lee & Millie,
I had a beautiful cat for 20 years before my first child was born and
he became second fiddle to her after she arrived. It's in our nature to
take care of our offspring and we shouldn't waste time feeling guilty about
taking some attention away from animals.
Now I am a mom of 4 and I can tell you without a doubt that I love
every single one of my children with more passion than I could have ever
mustered for my beloved cat. When the second child is born you realize how
much your heart can open up and love more than you ever thought possible.
For me it just happened over and over again.
I guess my point is: Animals are animals(sorry to all you pet lovers
out there) and they are not and never will be offspring. You can't and
shouldn't compare the loss of love you felt for your pet to what it might
feel like to have a second child. I'm not saying I didn't love my cat, I'm
just saying that something instinctual takes over and doesn't allow you to
love anything more than your children.
If your exhausted or stressed out or barely hanging on to your sanity;
those are all good reasons not to have another, but this whole can't love
them equally thing is not even an issue in my book, and it shouldn't worry
you so much either
Good luck,
AnnMarie
-----Original Message-----
From: Sherri-Lee Pressman [mailto:s-lp@...]
Sent: Friday, June 18, 2004 12:41 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Digest Number 39
Hi Millie,
I am fairly new here too and not a seasoned unschooler like many here, but
I wanted to say, I can totally relate to your concern about being able to
love another child without it meaning you love the first less. In fact I
know I waited on getting pregnant with number 2 partly because I was so
unsure that I would be able to love the first as much even after the second
came. Even now as I approach the 6 month of pregnancy, I often think about
the way things are going to change for me and my dd with a second child in
the mix and am saddened by the change and end of something. I know it will
be good and wonderful with the second one, but it is hard to face the change
of something that is now so wonderful.
Just thought I would pop in and say I totally understand what you are
saying... oh and my cat? Who was my baby before my baby... hardly gets any
of the attention she used to.... but we all adjust I guess,
Sherri-Lee
Looking for safe and natural health products?
http://www.aloeessence.com
I had a beautiful cat for 20 years before my first child was born and
he became second fiddle to her after she arrived. It's in our nature to
take care of our offspring and we shouldn't waste time feeling guilty about
taking some attention away from animals.
Now I am a mom of 4 and I can tell you without a doubt that I love
every single one of my children with more passion than I could have ever
mustered for my beloved cat. When the second child is born you realize how
much your heart can open up and love more than you ever thought possible.
For me it just happened over and over again.
I guess my point is: Animals are animals(sorry to all you pet lovers
out there) and they are not and never will be offspring. You can't and
shouldn't compare the loss of love you felt for your pet to what it might
feel like to have a second child. I'm not saying I didn't love my cat, I'm
just saying that something instinctual takes over and doesn't allow you to
love anything more than your children.
If your exhausted or stressed out or barely hanging on to your sanity;
those are all good reasons not to have another, but this whole can't love
them equally thing is not even an issue in my book, and it shouldn't worry
you so much either
Good luck,
AnnMarie
-----Original Message-----
From: Sherri-Lee Pressman [mailto:s-lp@...]
Sent: Friday, June 18, 2004 12:41 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Digest Number 39
Hi Millie,
I am fairly new here too and not a seasoned unschooler like many here, but
I wanted to say, I can totally relate to your concern about being able to
love another child without it meaning you love the first less. In fact I
know I waited on getting pregnant with number 2 partly because I was so
unsure that I would be able to love the first as much even after the second
came. Even now as I approach the 6 month of pregnancy, I often think about
the way things are going to change for me and my dd with a second child in
the mix and am saddened by the change and end of something. I know it will
be good and wonderful with the second one, but it is hard to face the change
of something that is now so wonderful.
Just thought I would pop in and say I totally understand what you are
saying... oh and my cat? Who was my baby before my baby... hardly gets any
of the attention she used to.... but we all adjust I guess,
Sherri-Lee
Looking for safe and natural health products?
http://www.aloeessence.com
----- Original Message -----
From: Millie Rosa
To: [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, June 17, 2004 10:03 AM
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Digest Number 39
I hope this doesn't sound offensive.
It sounds like she's implying that her child needs to be pushed
further out away from her like her dog and go a separate way (maybe
not too much but something like that).
Well, yeah, that does sound offensive....
Hell, no, I am not implying that my child needs to be pushed further
away from me like my dog! I was expressing what happened w my dog
(shouldn't have, I guess) because it is an (irrational) fear I have that if
we were to have another child that Will would somehow be less important.
I have never forced Will into anything, including social situations.
He is welcome to hang onto me whenever he wants. He has not had negative
experiences with other children, just few experiences with other children,
and I want him to be able to enjoy them. I do not put him down or encourage
him to play. I just hold him until he wants to get down. My child is
securely attached and I wouldn't have it any other way. I would NEVER "push
him out away from me" in any way! Not to sound too defensive, but I don't
want anyone to think I am wanting to put my son out like the dog! Jeez.
As far as the dog is concerned, she is outside now because apparently
that is the best thing for her. William was giving her hell constantly, she
wanted to bite him, and they had to be seperated. I tried a crate, which
she hated, having not been raised with one (she cried and screamed the whole
time she was in it), then we tried confining her to the laundry room when
Will was awake and she tore up the door and several items in the laundry
room. I had been resistant to putting her out, but my husband insisted and
she seems to be happy outside.
Love, Millie
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