Joanne

My five year old throws things around when he is angry. I am unable to
stop him. I can't seem to get him to help pick up. I am getting
tired and frustrated. We took him out of kindergarten three weeks
ago. He has specail needs so was in full-time for two years
previous. We thought we were doing the right things at the time. Is
he "deschooling"? Any ideas? Sorry for our ignorance. We are
newbies. Joanne

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>>My five year old throws things around when he is angry.>>

Could you surround him with lots of soft toys and objects for awhile so he can throw and not hurt anyone or anything? Maybe get him one of those punching clowns or a trampoline to release some of that energy. Set up a target to throw at?

>>I can't seem to get him to help pick up.>>

Pick up what? When? During or after a tantrum is probably not going to generate the best results.

>>I am getting
tired and frustrated.>>

Sounds like he is too. Take a breath and remember why he is the most special boy in the whole entire world. Give him a hug and smell his hair.

>>We took him out of kindergarten three weeks
ago. He has specail needs so was in full-time for two years
previous. We thought we were doing the right things at the time.>>

You did the best with the information you had at the time. We're here to give you some new ideas to work with. I'm thinking he'll need some time to recover from all that schooling. Expect some bumps in the road and just remember it's tough for him too.

>>Is
he "deschooling"? Any ideas? Sorry for our ignorance. We are
newbies. >>

We were all newbies once. And yes he is deschooling. He's reacting. He's probably confused and disoriented with the new schedule and expectations. What did you do on school breaks with him? Try to make this new time together like an extended break from school.

Life is good.
~Mary


"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."






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joanne

Thank you Mary. He is the most special boy in the whole world and I love to smell his hair! I lay down with him at night and I rad to him for a while. Then we talk a bit more. Finally I tell him I am tired and we need to go to sleep. He asked me tonight why I have less energy then he does. He said I am an energetic boy. I aid yes, you are (and actually felt proud of the fact even though tired). He asked me why I had less energy then he does and even though he knows I have MS I decided that we didn't need to talk about hat again right before nodding off. So I just said well honey, sometimes grown ups just get tired before kids do. He thought that was funny. I know many nights after he has fallen asleep before I crawl out of his bed I lay there for a while just basking in the joy of having such a sweet kid.

My husband and I are thinking about allowing him to stay up without having to go to sleep when we decide (so we can have an hour to talk alone in our bedroom).

On school breaks I tried to keep him busy but I can see how that is not working so well for him now as I have rad others postings. I think he needs less scheduled activities and some more "down" time :)

Joanne
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>>My five year old throws things around when he is angry.>>

Could you surround him with lots of soft toys and objects for awhile so he can throw and not hurt anyone or anything? Maybe get him one of those punching clowns or a trampoline to release some of that energy. Set up a target to throw at?

>>I can't seem to get him to help pick up.>>

Pick up what? When? During or after a tantrum is probably not going to generate the best results.

>>I am getting
tired and frustrated.>>

Sounds like he is too. Take a breath and remember why he is the most special boy in the whole entire world. Give him a hug and smell his hair.

>>We took him out of kindergarten three weeks
ago. He has specail needs so was in full-time for two years
previous. We thought we were doing the right things at the time.>>

You did the best with the information you had at the time. We're here to give you some new ideas to work with. I'm thinking he'll need some time to recover from all that schooling. Expect some bumps in the road and just remember it's tough for him too.

>>Is
he "deschooling"? Any ideas? Sorry for our ignorance. We are
newbies. >>

We were all newbies once. And yes he is deschooling. He's reacting. He's probably confused and disoriented with the new schedule and expectations. What did you do on school breaks with him? Try to make this new time together like an extended break from school.

Life is good.
~Mary


"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."






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>>I think he needs less scheduled activities and some more "down" time :)>>

Take it day to day. Follow his lead. Your days will find their own rhythym and so will your sweet little boy. It's all about balance.

Life is good.

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~Mary

"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."