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In a message dated 7/21/2005 10:28:40 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
linda@... writes:

But what about all of the children who SEEM to need structure to get through
their days and for whom doctors advise structure and rules?

Seeking opinions~
Linda



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Hi Linda, first of all, a plug for the Shine with Unschooling yahoo list.
We discuss these matters in depth.

With my non-typical child, I ask for what I need/want from him. He is
always free to say no. I say "would you like to help me bring in the groceries?"
We are now at a level when I can negotiate a "no" response if I need to
(where he is still free to say no).

Sometimes he helps alot, sometimes not so much. Also, my son is usually
more likely to follow his dad's lead than mine. A few years ago, my DH started
helping my son keep his room clean. Now my son does it almost daily without
much thought.

Routine and structure could also be softened into pattern and
predictability. What patterns and predictability in your lives does your child need to
feel safe? What routine and structure are imposed because you feel you *have*
to?

Leslie in SC


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