how do you handle this?
jecaam28
Hi all,
I need some help here. We went to a neighborhood christmas party
tonight where they had presents to give the kids. Well, somehow we
weren't included in the drawing of the names when it went around
prior to the party but were told to bring 2 gifts, so we did. My
kids were the only ones not with gifts at the end and the gifts we
brought were the only ones left. I know they felt left out. The
hostess eventually made changes so everyone had a gift that was not
the one they brought. My daughter, during this, said she didn't want
a particular gift because she had already seen what was in it. She
ended up getting another, then when she opened this one she was not
happy because it " wasn't a big one". It was a music CD. A little
while later, following some sulking in mommy's lap, she asked the
hostesses daughter if she could have the one she originally was
offered and she was given it. She was all happy for a while. Then we
got home and she asked for the CD and when we told her that she got
the other gift instead she began to cry and plead to switch the gifts
back saying she did not know she could only have one gift. How would
you handle this situation? In retrospect I know I should have
informed her that she only got one (I had this fleeting thought at
the time but didn't act on it), but I didn't. So what do you do when
something like this happens?
Thanks,
Jennifer
I need some help here. We went to a neighborhood christmas party
tonight where they had presents to give the kids. Well, somehow we
weren't included in the drawing of the names when it went around
prior to the party but were told to bring 2 gifts, so we did. My
kids were the only ones not with gifts at the end and the gifts we
brought were the only ones left. I know they felt left out. The
hostess eventually made changes so everyone had a gift that was not
the one they brought. My daughter, during this, said she didn't want
a particular gift because she had already seen what was in it. She
ended up getting another, then when she opened this one she was not
happy because it " wasn't a big one". It was a music CD. A little
while later, following some sulking in mommy's lap, she asked the
hostesses daughter if she could have the one she originally was
offered and she was given it. She was all happy for a while. Then we
got home and she asked for the CD and when we told her that she got
the other gift instead she began to cry and plead to switch the gifts
back saying she did not know she could only have one gift. How would
you handle this situation? In retrospect I know I should have
informed her that she only got one (I had this fleeting thought at
the time but didn't act on it), but I didn't. So what do you do when
something like this happens?
Thanks,
Jennifer
Fetteroll
on 12/18/04 12:32 AM, jecaam28 at jecaam28@... wrote:
I suspect she was overwhelmed by the whole situation and logic after the
fact wouldn't have made it better. It would have just been more information
in an information overloaded situation.
Joyce
> Then weHugs. And distraction with something better. And rest to start a new day.
> got home and she asked for the CD and when we told her that she got
> the other gift instead she began to cry and plead to switch the gifts
> back saying she did not know she could only have one gift. How would
> you handle this situation?
I suspect she was overwhelmed by the whole situation and logic after the
fact wouldn't have made it better. It would have just been more information
in an information overloaded situation.
Joyce
J. Stauffer
<<<<So what do you do when
something like this happens? >>>>
I think you spend a lot of time giving hugs and talking about how sometimes it feels sad when things don't go exactly how we had hoped. How it can feel like being left out when you don't really understand what is going on.
Julie S.
something like this happens? >>>>
I think you spend a lot of time giving hugs and talking about how sometimes it feels sad when things don't go exactly how we had hoped. How it can feel like being left out when you don't really understand what is going on.
Julie S.
----- Original Message -----
From: jecaam28
To: [email protected]
Sent: Friday, December 17, 2004 11:32 PM
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] how do you handle this?
Hi all,
I need some help here. We went to a neighborhood christmas party
tonight where they had presents to give the kids. Well, somehow we
weren't included in the drawing of the names when it went around
prior to the party but were told to bring 2 gifts, so we did. My
kids were the only ones not with gifts at the end and the gifts we
brought were the only ones left. I know they felt left out. The
hostess eventually made changes so everyone had a gift that was not
the one they brought. My daughter, during this, said she didn't want
a particular gift because she had already seen what was in it. She
ended up getting another, then when she opened this one she was not
happy because it " wasn't a big one". It was a music CD. A little
while later, following some sulking in mommy's lap, she asked the
hostesses daughter if she could have the one she originally was
offered and she was given it. She was all happy for a while. Then we
got home and she asked for the CD and when we told her that she got
the other gift instead she began to cry and plead to switch the gifts
back saying she did not know she could only have one gift. How would
you handle this situation? In retrospect I know I should have
informed her that she only got one (I had this fleeting thought at
the time but didn't act on it), but I didn't. So what do you do when
something like this happens?
Thanks,
Jennifer
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