Deb Lewis

***So you would be more interested in other kids feelings
than your own kid feeling satisfied with the
situation? I can't know if the neighbor will be sad,
cry, jump up and down, or not really care if we don't
show up to play--but I don't think I should use that
as emotional blackmail on my kids to get them to stop
what they're doing. Can we say "co-dependent"? ***


I love you. <g>


Deb

pam sorooshian

On Dec 17, 2004, at 10:53 AM, Deb Lewis wrote:

> ***So you would be more interested in other kids feelings
> than your own kid feeling satisfied with the
> situation? I can't know if the neighbor will be sad,
> cry, jump up and down, or not really care if we don't
> show up to play--but I don't think I should use that
> as emotional blackmail on my kids to get them to stop
> what they're doing. Can we say "co-dependent"? ***
>
>
> I love you. <g>

MORE interested in other kids' feelings, no.
Wanting to help my child be empathetic and help her take into account
the impact her actions have on other people? Yes.

Is it an all-or-nothing situation? Either we're interested in our own
kid's feelings OR the other kids? But not both?

The person who called me controlling also said, "I care about MY kids;
you care about yours."

I cared about her kids, too, for years, and thought she cared about
mine, too. Are we really supposed to be so cold and uncaring to not
even care about other people's children at all?

-pam