talked to my husband
Amanda Soman
well, I talked to my husband and mentioned that I wanted to try
unschooling our whole life. I already am pretty relaxed, but I think
I could do a lot different. I expected him to tell me I'm crazy, but
he didn't. He thinks it'll be a disaster, but he's willing to let me
try. So, now I have a million questions. How do you handle bed
time? If there is no bed time, what do you do when you need a break.
By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed. The only
other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
go somewhere? Thanks for the help.
Amanda
unschooling our whole life. I already am pretty relaxed, but I think
I could do a lot different. I expected him to tell me I'm crazy, but
he didn't. He thinks it'll be a disaster, but he's willing to let me
try. So, now I have a million questions. How do you handle bed
time? If there is no bed time, what do you do when you need a break.
By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed. The only
other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
go somewhere? Thanks for the help.
Amanda
Heidi Here
If there is no bed time, what do you do when you need a break.
By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed.
We all usually are watching some sort of TV or movie together at night, if my kids don't want to hang out with us then ,
My kids have TV's in their rooms, they go in there and watch either TV or a VCR tape or read ,...whatever as long as they stay quite. My youngest (6.5) is always the first to bed, when she gets tired she says good nite and gives kisses, even if we are all watching a good movie!
I don't remember how old you said your son was but if he wants to go somewhere he will/should be ready. I guess I would get a clock and show him the hands as to where on the clock the hands will be that he HAS to be ready or you wont make it on time. Tell him you want to go but if he's not dressed then you will both miss out. I think I would try something like that.
Good Luck,
Heidi
By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed.
We all usually are watching some sort of TV or movie together at night, if my kids don't want to hang out with us then ,
My kids have TV's in their rooms, they go in there and watch either TV or a VCR tape or read ,...whatever as long as they stay quite. My youngest (6.5) is always the first to bed, when she gets tired she says good nite and gives kisses, even if we are all watching a good movie!
I don't remember how old you said your son was but if he wants to go somewhere he will/should be ready. I guess I would get a clock and show him the hands as to where on the clock the hands will be that he HAS to be ready or you wont make it on time. Tell him you want to go but if he's not dressed then you will both miss out. I think I would try something like that.
Good Luck,
Heidi
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From: Amanda Soman
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Sent: Friday, November 26, 2004 7:35 PM
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] talked to my husband
well, I talked to my husband and mentioned that I wanted to try
unschooling our whole life. I already am pretty relaxed, but I think
I could do a lot different. I expected him to tell me I'm crazy, but
he didn't. He thinks it'll be a disaster, but he's willing to let me
try. So, now I have a million questions. How do you handle bed
time? If there is no bed time, what do you do when you need a break.
By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed. The only
other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
go somewhere? Thanks for the help.
Amanda
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<<<<The only
other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
go somewhere? >>>>
Jayn rarely sleeps in pyjamas so is usually already in (wrinkled) clothes
the next morning, and sometimes goes out in pyjamas on those occasions that
she has actually slept in them. I end up bringing her other clothes to the
car fairly often, but it is still evidently different enough to be fun. One
thing that gets her moving on those dawdling times is simply reminding her
she need not go if she doesn't want to, but if she does want to be on time
we will have to go now.
The only regularly scheduled event we have is Jayn's dance class. Nothing
else has a time attached, other than the rare dentist appointment or
similar.
Robyn L. Coburn
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other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
go somewhere? >>>>
Jayn rarely sleeps in pyjamas so is usually already in (wrinkled) clothes
the next morning, and sometimes goes out in pyjamas on those occasions that
she has actually slept in them. I end up bringing her other clothes to the
car fairly often, but it is still evidently different enough to be fun. One
thing that gets her moving on those dawdling times is simply reminding her
she need not go if she doesn't want to, but if she does want to be on time
we will have to go now.
The only regularly scheduled event we have is Jayn's dance class. Nothing
else has a time attached, other than the rare dentist appointment or
similar.
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on 11/26/04 7:35 PM, Amanda Soman at amandasoman@... wrote:
contribute to your exhaustion. You'll be holding it all together to the
exhaustion point because you know you have a release point at bedtime.
Find other ways to relax. Hire a teen or preteen to come in and play with
them so you can have an afternoon off once a week. Ask your husband to spend
an evening once a week with them so you can have an evening off.
And I think a better way of expressing no bedtimes is no *set* bedtimes.
Bedtime comes when kids are tired rather than by the clock. Your goal is to
help them learn to recognize when they're tired so they'll decide to sleep
by their bodies. So when you notice signs of tiredness (which might be
getting wound up!) start winding down and doing relaxing bed ritual things.
Bath. Reading. Music in their room. TV in their room. SInging to them.
Massage oil. Whatever helps them.
ridiculous so she just slept in her clothes.
Yes, getting kids ready is a hard task because there are *so* many things
that are way more interesting for them! And keep in mind that you wanting
him dressed is for *you* (and maybe society if he prefers au naturel ;-).
It's something you want. It's like wanting to take the time to make the
frosting on the cake beautiful when everyone else would be just as happy
with quick and messy and now :-) If you want something for you, do it for
you not because you expect anyone else to appreciate it.
Joyce
> How do you handle bedI think if you focus on them being in bed so you can relax that it will
> time? If there is no bed time, what do you do when you need a break.
> By the end of the day, I'm ready for my kids to go to bed.
contribute to your exhaustion. You'll be holding it all together to the
exhaustion point because you know you have a release point at bedtime.
Find other ways to relax. Hire a teen or preteen to come in and play with
them so you can have an afternoon off once a week. Ask your husband to spend
an evening once a week with them so you can have an evening off.
And I think a better way of expressing no bedtimes is no *set* bedtimes.
Bedtime comes when kids are tired rather than by the clock. Your goal is to
help them learn to recognize when they're tired so they'll decide to sleep
by their bodies. So when you notice signs of tiredness (which might be
getting wound up!) start winding down and doing relaxing bed ritual things.
Bath. Reading. Music in their room. TV in their room. SInging to them.
Massage oil. Whatever helps them.
> The onlyMy daughter always thought the idea of changing clothes was pretty
> other real problem I see is getting ready to go somewhere. Even if
> it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll take me all day to
> get him to get dressed. How does that work out for you if you need to
> go somewhere? Thanks for the help.
ridiculous so she just slept in her clothes.
Yes, getting kids ready is a hard task because there are *so* many things
that are way more interesting for them! And keep in mind that you wanting
him dressed is for *you* (and maybe society if he prefers au naturel ;-).
It's something you want. It's like wanting to take the time to make the
frosting on the cake beautiful when everyone else would be just as happy
with quick and messy and now :-) If you want something for you, do it for
you not because you expect anyone else to appreciate it.
Joyce
Dana Matt
> > The onlyIf it's somewhere "early-ish" (my kids both get up
> > other real problem I see is getting ready to go
> somewhere. Even if
> > it's somewhere my ds wants to go, sometimes it'll
> take me all day to
> > get him to get dressed. How does that work out
> for you if you need to
> > go somewhere? Thanks for the help.
between ten and noon), they will go to bed dressed in
what they're planning on wearing, and I will carry my
little one out to the car, and "walk" my big one out.
That way they get the maximum sleep AND still get to
go on outings that they are really looking forward to.
Of course, bring a thermos of juice and a zone bar or
something for breakfast, and you're set! And, NO
running around in the morning! Magic!
Dana
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