Re: pinching, hiting, etc
sharonmbliss
I agree with Meredith's comments here, I just wanted to add that sometimes it helps when you join them in the hitting. Not that I suggest you hit him back but if you try to match his level of emotion and hit a pillow and/or scream (if he's screaming) sometimes this really helps him feel connected and let out what's bothering him without hitting you and it could leave you both feeling more connected. Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen was a very fun read and had a lot of great ideas, especially when verbal responses are not enough.
Sharon
Sharon