patrick morris

addiction to alcohol does not mean alcohol is the problem and if the
individual has none all is now unfortunately not well. the alcohol is
a self medication to not dealing with something very painful. so
painful that wanting to disengage from interaction is a preferable
choice. there are always very complex defensive structures set up to
avoid painful experiences. many of these experiences are endlessly
repeated through our lives, but the external actors are just filling
in the role for our internal scripts which we play again and again
trying to get some understanding of the experience we are experiencing
now, we recreate it now, it is our choice but often we don't realize
our choice of perception and conception and fall back on ineffective
painful models and strategies. we have a choice to evade experiencing
frustrating painful reality or to try to modify the experience by
choosing to suffer the experience and hence process experience which
we can only then learn from. alcohol or other " addictive" substances
/ activities are strategies to avoid examining our frustrations and
anxieties which are often an aspect of our lives and relationships. to
deny a child playing the game is to set up a painful relationship with
them one that frustrates them and creates a particular drama of
relationships that is internalized. it does not allow a way to
understand the experience nor the relationship; it denies the
possibility too learn from experience for both the child and oneself.
the conceptions of addiction you carry are internalized painful
anxieties. this dilemma is an oppurtunity for inquiry for self, it is
not some aspect of reality which one has insight and can share wisdom,
the frustration and danger / panic in the warning is indicative of
avoidance of being open to experience, of having the courage to be in
the nmoment of unknowing to allow what comes to be an experience to be
explored and played with and to be suffered if necessary in order to
learn from. this is my underlying unschooling principle, we can avoid
frustration or try to tolerate inquiry about it . patrick

Meredith

--- In [email protected], "patrick morris"
<katinandrea@...> wrote:
>> this dilemma is an oppurtunity for inquiry for self, it is
> not some aspect of reality which one has insight and can share wisdom,

> the frustration and danger / panic in the warning is indicative of
> avoidance of being open to experience, of having the courage to be in
> the nmoment of unknowing to allow what comes to be an experience to be
> explored and played with and to be suffered if necessary in order to
> learn from. this is my underlying unschooling principle

I always love patrick's posts! This is just wonderful.
---Meredith