Syndi

"I've only been deschooling for a few months ....."

Its taken me all of the past year and alittle more to stop the worry!
(and honestly, sometimes "schooling" still creeps back in!) So give
yourself more time to deschool. LOTS more time! It WILL happen!
What helped me, was the threat from the schools to keep records.
So I did. And in doing so, I watched my boys everyday in everything
they did, and found learning in all of it. Some things I still can't
get into the language of teachers, but I can find learning in most
everything! (still have to keep records so thats why I mention the
language of the teachers).
If you haven't done so already, look up educationese or eduspeak.
It can be very very enlightening!
syndi

Tina

We've been "deschooling" for 10 months now. I'm just getting to
where I'm comfortable with everything. And, even still, every so
often things will creep in. I just continue to remind myself that
it's all a normal part of the process.

I do have to add that it is wonderful to see my son becoming his
true self. He used to be so shut up and closed off. He is an
introvert by nature, but you just wouldn't believe how much he talks
now. It reminds me of how people say about little ones when they
finally learn to talk. He talks constantly about everything and
knows so much. He's become VERY opinionated. :) I'm still getting
used to the "new" him.

Sit back, relax, find something YOU like to do. Everything just
falls into place. It's a beautiful thing! :)

Tina

--- In [email protected], "Syndi"
<justlikemama@y...> wrote:
>
> "I've only been deschooling for a few months ....."
>
> Its taken me all of the past year and alittle more to stop the
worry!
> (and honestly, sometimes "schooling" still creeps back in!) So
give
> yourself more time to deschool. LOTS more time! It WILL happen!
> What helped me, was the threat from the schools to keep
records.
> So I did. And in doing so, I watched my boys everyday in
everything
> they did, and found learning in all of it. Some things I still
can't
> get into the language of teachers, but I can find learning in most
> everything! (still have to keep records so thats why I mention
the
> language of the teachers).
> If you haven't done so already, look up educationese or
eduspeak.
> It can be very very enlightening!
> syndi

TreeGoddess

On Oct 18, 2004, at 8:34 PM, Tina wrote:

> [I do have to add that it is wonderful to see my son becoming his
> true self. He used to be so shut up and closed off. He is an
> introvert by nature, but you just wouldn't believe how much he
> talks now.]

He sure wasn't shy about chatting when we got together last week! LOL
I'd never have known that it's not how he's always been if you hadn't
mentioned it. :)
-Tracy-

Tina

Thanks, Tracy! It still is very strange for me. He's gone from one
extreme to the other. It's fun, and uncomfortable at times, to
watch. Changes do take time to make and adjust to. :)

Tina

--- In [email protected], TreeGoddess
<treegoddess@c...> wrote:
>
> On Oct 18, 2004, at 8:34 PM, Tina wrote:
>
> > [I do have to add that it is wonderful to see my son becoming his
> > true self. He used to be so shut up and closed off. He is an
> > introvert by nature, but you just wouldn't believe how much he
> > talks now.]
>
> He sure wasn't shy about chatting when we got together last week!
LOL
> I'd never have known that it's not how he's always been if you
hadn't
> mentioned it. :)
> -Tracy-

Syndi

OH yes I would, I've seen the same exact thing in both my boys!
My oldest DH had all KINDS of things going on, but he's done a
complete turn around being home. My youngest DH never talked, he'd
only been to preschool, but I believe it had the same effect that
school does, he now talks and talks and talks! ABSOLUTLY refused to
do any type of "school" work, which is finally ok with me. Seeing
them so happy and outgoing and able to go out into the world with me
and actually speak to other people without lurking behind me wanting
ME to ask or talk to someone is amazing (something they never would
have done before).
syndi

mamaaj2000

Okay, Syndi, I'm guessing you meant 'dS' but it's amusing the way you
wrote it! Lucky girl...or maybe not...

--aj

--- In [email protected], "Syndi" <justlikemama@y...>
wrote:
>
> OH yes I would, I've seen the same exact thing in both my boys!
> My oldest DH had all KINDS of things going on, but he's done a
> complete turn around being home. My youngest DH never talked, he'd
> only been to preschool, but I believe it had the same effect that
> school does, he now talks and talks and talks!

Syndi

--- In [email protected], "mamaaj2000"
<mamaaj2000@y...> wrote:
>
> Okay, Syndi, I'm guessing you meant 'dS' but it's amusing the way
you
> wrote it! Lucky girl...or maybe not...
>
> --aj
>
> --- In [email protected], "Syndi"
<justlikemama@y...>
> wrote:
> >
> > I think i had too much going on in my mind that day, I ment dear
son!!!!
and i noticed i referred to one as dh.....oh my!
syndi

[email protected]

In a message dated 1/27/2005 11:21:43 AM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
But to there surprise we aren't gonig to pass out the books
we are however going to graphed out our floor plans for the house to
help dad make the repairs to our house after the hurricanes. And
when that is done we are going to work on hotbeds in the garden and
compare the bugs that we find with the bug cards that we have oh and
eat gummy worms at the same time. Oh and for math we did make a
special cookie dough that you can sculpture in shapes and bake and
then eat.
Wait! You graph out the floor plans, let them join you if they want. If not,
that's ok.
Try not to think, "for MATH..." just make the cookies for FUN! You compare
the bug cards, out loud with joy and interest. They'll hear you (If they are
outside with you, what if they want to stay inside and do something else?) But
don't make it schooly. let these things happen naturally. when something is
interesting to you, share that interest. Just like you would for a friend or
spouse, or family member. Avoid looking for "teachable moments" and just LIVE.
Elissa
Mystik Hill Farm
Kearneysville, WV


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Ren Allen

"florida,a stones throw from Ren...i was just curious as i know some
families
do the evaluation route,also,,,>>june"

That's why I recommend the umbrella school option...no worries about
any of that.
If a family really wants to do the evaluation, I say they aren't the
kind of families that are really trusting yet. If you trust your
children will learn, why do you need an evaluator to tell you
they're ok?
If the evaluation is simply the choice for that family because it
makes sense for them, I would tell them to document with photos and
make a memory book...then take it to an evaluator that understands
unschooling fairly well. Even during the "deschooling" phase, it's
pretty easy to find lots of cool things to take photos of.
If not, just tell the evaluator that you took it as your vacation.
No one can tell you which days are "education" days and which
are "vacation".

Ren

[email protected]

In a message dated 2/10/2005 4:38:02 PM US Mountain Standard Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:


>
> If a family really wants to do the evaluation, I say they aren't the
> kind of families that are really trusting yet. If you trust your
> children will learn, why do you need an evaluator to tell you
> they're ok?
> If the evaluation is simply the choice for that family because it
> makes sense for them, I would tell them to document with photos and
> make a memory book...then take it to an evaluator that understands
> unschooling fairly well. Even during the "deschooling" phase, it's
> pretty easy to find lots of cool things to take photos of.
> If not, just tell the evaluator that you took it as your vacation.
> No one can tell you which days are "education" days and which
> are "vacation".
>
> Ren
>
>
>
>
>
>

thanks Ren our faithful leader,,,you answered my question,,,
daniel and rachel do pretty much what they want to do,schooline wise and
elsewhere,,,not alot gets documented though,,,,pictures sound like an idea,,
thnaks again!!
JUNE


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