Possible Solution to the Chores Dilemma :)
Tracee
I have been brainstorming and trying to figure out ways to keep sane
with my own personal chore dilemma. Sometime in the middle of the
night last night, I suddenly remembered that I had already figured
this out once before! When we lived in Columbia, my therapist
suggested I hire help to clean my house. As someone already
mentioned, paying someone to clean house for us can seem like quite a
chunk of money to some of us. I can easily spend the $40.00 that was
mentioned on fast food in a week and not blink twice. It's just how
we rationalize it. It's food, we have to eat, and I don't keep a
clean kitchen, nor do I cook often. Nor do I grocery shop often.
Ha! I also see the flip side of the coin though, where if I did keep
a clean kitchen, it'd be much easier to cook meals, pack food for
outings, etc. So, since that is the side of the coin I want to be on,
I need to get help cleaning! The solution: Cleaning Playdates. When
I lived in Columbia, a friend and I took turns helping the other clean
up. I'd bring my kids to her place and they'd hang out while we
cleaned up. She'd pick an area she wanted to work on before I got
there and we'd plow through it till it was done. Usually, since the
kids got along so well, we ended up getting much more done than we
planned for. Then the next week, she'd bring her kids to my place and
we'd do the same thing. When I told my Mother in Law all about this
bright idea of mine, she said that's nothing new! She and a good
friend used to live across the street from each other and they helped
each other daily! They'd get one house cleaned and dinner in the
crock pot, and then go to the other one and do the same. Anyway, I've
got a Cleaning Playdate request out on both the local Yahoo lists I'm
on and just wanted to share in case anyone else could benefit from this.
with my own personal chore dilemma. Sometime in the middle of the
night last night, I suddenly remembered that I had already figured
this out once before! When we lived in Columbia, my therapist
suggested I hire help to clean my house. As someone already
mentioned, paying someone to clean house for us can seem like quite a
chunk of money to some of us. I can easily spend the $40.00 that was
mentioned on fast food in a week and not blink twice. It's just how
we rationalize it. It's food, we have to eat, and I don't keep a
clean kitchen, nor do I cook often. Nor do I grocery shop often.
Ha! I also see the flip side of the coin though, where if I did keep
a clean kitchen, it'd be much easier to cook meals, pack food for
outings, etc. So, since that is the side of the coin I want to be on,
I need to get help cleaning! The solution: Cleaning Playdates. When
I lived in Columbia, a friend and I took turns helping the other clean
up. I'd bring my kids to her place and they'd hang out while we
cleaned up. She'd pick an area she wanted to work on before I got
there and we'd plow through it till it was done. Usually, since the
kids got along so well, we ended up getting much more done than we
planned for. Then the next week, she'd bring her kids to my place and
we'd do the same thing. When I told my Mother in Law all about this
bright idea of mine, she said that's nothing new! She and a good
friend used to live across the street from each other and they helped
each other daily! They'd get one house cleaned and dinner in the
crock pot, and then go to the other one and do the same. Anyway, I've
got a Cleaning Playdate request out on both the local Yahoo lists I'm
on and just wanted to share in case anyone else could benefit from this.
Faith Void
What a neat idea.
I am looking forward to trying to organize that next :-)
Faith
I am looking forward to trying to organize that next :-)
Faith
On Thu, Oct 30, 2008 at 2:15 PM, Tracee <HoneyBeeECPlus3@...> wrote:
> The solution: Cleaning Playdates.
>
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Tracee
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i've already had two responses for it!! i hope to start next week.
yippee!!
~tracee
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<littlemsvoid@...> wrote:
i've already had two responses for it!! i hope to start next week.
yippee!!
~tracee
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<littlemsvoid@...> wrote:
>
> What a neat idea.
> I am looking forward to trying to organize that next :-)
> Faith
>
> On Thu, Oct 30, 2008 at 2:15 PM, Tracee <HoneyBeeECPlus3@...> wrote:
>
> > The solution: Cleaning Playdates.
> >
>
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Nicole Willoughby
Im so glad one was found :) Its christmas in october !
Nicole
Don't worry that children never listen to you : worry that they are always watching you--Robert Fulghum
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Nicole
Don't worry that children never listen to you : worry that they are always watching you--Robert Fulghum
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Sherri
With being chronically ill and having a bad week, DH being away on business.
I asked Faith to help me clean up her food wrappers, plates, glasses and
cups. She and I also cleaned up a huge mess of toilet paper the dogs
chewed. She asked me this week why I thought she didn't remember to clean
up after herself. I said I wasn't sure. We talked a little while about it
and I asked her if she wanted me to remind her for awhile and she said yes.
I am pretty sure I didn't handle this right.
The crazy thing is that she keeps not flushing the toilet and loads it up
with toilet paper to the point that it won't go down. Twice this week I had
to reach in and grap the paper and pull it out and throw it away to unstuck
the toilet. Thank God there were no logs in there if you know what I mean.
I went into her bathroom last night and she hadn't flushed it in so long it
stunk when I opened the door. I just don't have a clue what to do about
this. We have 3 bathrooms and her favorite ones to use are off the computer
room and mine. I don't think to check her bathroom often as she won't
shower in there. I have no clue why, so she uses the one off the computer
room.
On the other side of life, today Faith came up with the most beautiful poem.
It was in the style of Shakespeare, which she is into. My little math a
phobic, also came up with a little chart on her own about addition and
sixes. I don't have a clue why she did it, there's no reason for me to
know.
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I asked Faith to help me clean up her food wrappers, plates, glasses and
cups. She and I also cleaned up a huge mess of toilet paper the dogs
chewed. She asked me this week why I thought she didn't remember to clean
up after herself. I said I wasn't sure. We talked a little while about it
and I asked her if she wanted me to remind her for awhile and she said yes.
I am pretty sure I didn't handle this right.
The crazy thing is that she keeps not flushing the toilet and loads it up
with toilet paper to the point that it won't go down. Twice this week I had
to reach in and grap the paper and pull it out and throw it away to unstuck
the toilet. Thank God there were no logs in there if you know what I mean.
I went into her bathroom last night and she hadn't flushed it in so long it
stunk when I opened the door. I just don't have a clue what to do about
this. We have 3 bathrooms and her favorite ones to use are off the computer
room and mine. I don't think to check her bathroom often as she won't
shower in there. I have no clue why, so she uses the one off the computer
room.
On the other side of life, today Faith came up with the most beautiful poem.
It was in the style of Shakespeare, which she is into. My little math a
phobic, also came up with a little chart on her own about addition and
sixes. I don't have a clue why she did it, there's no reason for me to
know.
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Pamela Sorooshian
On Oct 31, 2008, at 10:54 PM, Sherri wrote:
going around flushing toilets in each bathroom - make it a habit to do
it a couple of times per day. It will take you about 10 seconds each,
probably.
About kids wanting reminders - I think that's fair and it didn't sound
to me like you'd handled that badly at all. A little hint that might
help you in helping her is to use notes rather than use your own
voice. Sometimes your own slight irritation at her for needing to be
reminded could come through in your voice, even if you think you're
hiding it.
Actually, that reminds me - I remember sticking post-it notes on the
toilet that had silly little rhyming lines to remind users to flush.
And a few months ago I stuck a post-it on the inside of the pantry
door that said, "Close me, please." (The dog had discovered the open
door and was dragging things out of the pantry, across the house,
through the doggy door, and the chewed up trash was all over the back
yard.)
-pam
>We went through various stages like this. For a while, maybe just keep
> The crazy thing is that she keeps not flushing the toilet and loads
> it up
> with toilet paper to the point that it won't go down.
going around flushing toilets in each bathroom - make it a habit to do
it a couple of times per day. It will take you about 10 seconds each,
probably.
About kids wanting reminders - I think that's fair and it didn't sound
to me like you'd handled that badly at all. A little hint that might
help you in helping her is to use notes rather than use your own
voice. Sometimes your own slight irritation at her for needing to be
reminded could come through in your voice, even if you think you're
hiding it.
Actually, that reminds me - I remember sticking post-it notes on the
toilet that had silly little rhyming lines to remind users to flush.
And a few months ago I stuck a post-it on the inside of the pantry
door that said, "Close me, please." (The dog had discovered the open
door and was dragging things out of the pantry, across the house,
through the doggy door, and the chewed up trash was all over the back
yard.)
-pam
Faith Void
I wasn't there but from what you wrote it sounds like you did fine. It
sounds respectful.
My dd went through this. As a family we usually "let it mellow" but she just
never flushed for a while. SO I did. I just made sure I checked the toilets
a couple times a day. I also had a little sign that said something (I don't
remember) but ti was about checking the bowl and ascertaining whether it
needed flushing or not. It worked pretty well. And a few times here and
there I would remind her. At 11 (soon to be 12) she seems to have "gotten
it"
best wishes,
Faith
sounds respectful.
My dd went through this. As a family we usually "let it mellow" but she just
never flushed for a while. SO I did. I just made sure I checked the toilets
a couple times a day. I also had a little sign that said something (I don't
remember) but ti was about checking the bowl and ascertaining whether it
needed flushing or not. It worked pretty well. And a few times here and
there I would remind her. At 11 (soon to be 12) she seems to have "gotten
it"
best wishes,
Faith
On Sat, Nov 1, 2008 at 1:54 AM, Sherri <sherrildr@...> wrote:
> With being chronically ill and having a bad week, DH being away on
> business.
> I asked Faith to help me clean up her food wrappers, plates, glasses and
> cups. She and I also cleaned up a huge mess of toilet paper the dogs
> chewed. She asked me this week why I thought she didn't remember to clean
> up after herself. I said I wasn't sure. We talked a little while about it
> and I asked her if she wanted me to remind her for awhile and she said yes.
> I am pretty sure I didn't handle this right.
>
> The crazy thing is that she keeps not flushing the toilet and loads it up
> with toilet paper to the point that it won't go down. Twice this week I had
> to reach in and grap the paper and pull it out and throw it away to unstuck
> the toilet. Thank God there were no logs in there if you know what I mean.
> I went into her bathroom last night and she hadn't flushed it in so long it
> stunk when I opened the door. I just don't have a clue what to do about
> this. We have 3 bathrooms and her favorite ones to use are off the computer
> room and mine. I don't think to check her bathroom often as she won't
> shower in there. I have no clue why, so she uses the one off the computer
> room.
>
> On the other side of life, today Faith came up with the most beautiful
> poem.
> It was in the style of Shakespeare, which she is into. My little math a
> phobic, also came up with a little chart on her own about addition and
> sixes. I don't have a clue why she did it, there's no reason for me to
> know.
>
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>
>
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Joyce Fetteroll
On Nov 1, 2008, at 1:54 AM, Sherri wrote:
immediately important to her and doesn't notice.
My 17 yo daughter sheds clothes wherever she is. Not because she
expects me to pick them up but because she's thinking of something
else, probably about whatever she's changing for, and is oblivious.
We have a bright hallway downstairs and I always forget to turn off
the light in the bathroom when I'm done because there's no visual
clue that it's on to remind me. It's not that I don't want to save
electricity. It's just that I don't notice.
Joyce
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> She asked me this week why I thought she didn't remember to cleanI bet it's because she's just thinking of other things that are more
> up after herself. I said I wasn't sure.
immediately important to her and doesn't notice.
My 17 yo daughter sheds clothes wherever she is. Not because she
expects me to pick them up but because she's thinking of something
else, probably about whatever she's changing for, and is oblivious.
We have a bright hallway downstairs and I always forget to turn off
the light in the bathroom when I'm done because there's no visual
clue that it's on to remind me. It's not that I don't want to save
electricity. It's just that I don't notice.
Joyce
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Stacey Grimm
At Heathcote they have a sign above one of the public toilets which
reads, "If it's yellow, let it mellow - If it's brown, flush it down."
(Heathcote is an intentional community in Freeland, MD.) Just thought
I'd share that little tangent.
reads, "If it's yellow, let it mellow - If it's brown, flush it down."
(Heathcote is an intentional community in Freeland, MD.) Just thought
I'd share that little tangent.
On 11/1/08, Faith Void <littlemsvoid@...> wrote:
> I wasn't there but from what you wrote it sounds like you did fine. It
> sounds respectful.
>
> My dd went through this. As a family we usually "let it mellow" but she just
> never flushed for a while. SO I did. I just made sure I checked the toilets
> a couple times a day. I also had a little sign that said something (I don't
> remember) but ti was about checking the bowl and ascertaining whether it
> needed flushing or not. It worked pretty well. And a few times here and
> there I would remind her. At 11 (soon to be 12) she seems to have "gotten
> it"
> best wishes,
> Faith
>
> On Sat, Nov 1, 2008 at 1:54 AM, Sherri <sherrildr@...> wrote:
>
>> With being chronically ill and having a bad week, DH being away on
>> business.
>> I asked Faith to help me clean up her food wrappers, plates, glasses and
>> cups. She and I also cleaned up a huge mess of toilet paper the dogs
>> chewed. She asked me this week why I thought she didn't remember to clean
>> up after herself. I said I wasn't sure. We talked a little while about it
>> and I asked her if she wanted me to remind her for awhile and she said
>> yes.
>> I am pretty sure I didn't handle this right.
>>
>> The crazy thing is that she keeps not flushing the toilet and loads it up
>> with toilet paper to the point that it won't go down. Twice this week I
>> had
>> to reach in and grap the paper and pull it out and throw it away to
>> unstuck
>> the toilet. Thank God there were no logs in there if you know what I mean.
>> I went into her bathroom last night and she hadn't flushed it in so long
>> it
>> stunk when I opened the door. I just don't have a clue what to do about
>> this. We have 3 bathrooms and her favorite ones to use are off the
>> computer
>> room and mine. I don't think to check her bathroom often as she won't
>> shower in there. I have no clue why, so she uses the one off the computer
>> room.
>>
>> On the other side of life, today Faith came up with the most beautiful
>> poem.
>> It was in the style of Shakespeare, which she is into. My little math a
>> phobic, also came up with a little chart on her own about addition and
>> sixes. I don't have a clue why she did it, there's no reason for me to
>> know.
>>
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>>
>>
>>
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