hmschleidt

Hi, I am new to this board, but I have homeschooled for 2+ years now
(my oldest of 4 children is almost 8) and we have tried Sonlight - that
lasted 3 days, ecclectic curriculum, co-ops, but most of last year we
did child-directed learning.

My question is this: My husband is REALLY very easy-going and LOVES
the idea of homeschooling, but he is not completely sold on the
unschooling idea. Are there any resources I should turn to first to
place in front of him? I do not want to commit to totally unschooling
until I have his 100% complete support because my other children are
younger and I want to do this all the way to college age and I don't
want the riff between us to be a sore in our daily sides.

He does NOT like to read, so if it is reading material it would need to
be short and concise. I LOVE to read and can summarize anything that
is suggested, but it would be in my words, not the author's.

Any advice is appreciated and I am looking forward to being part of
this group.

Zoa Conner

Take him to a conference or other unschooler gathering so he can see
unschooled kids in action and their parents interactions with them. Worked
for my reluctant hubby!
Zoa


On 9/22/08 12:11 AM, "hmschleidt" <hmschleidt@...> wrote:
> My question is this: My husband is REALLY very easy-going and LOVES
> the idea of homeschooling, but he is not completely sold on the
> unschooling idea. Are there any resources I should turn to first to
place in front of him?
----------------
Zoa Conner, PhD
Physicist and Organic Learning Mother
zoaconner@...



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carenkh

I would say - don't wait for 100%! Your kids' lives are NOW, they're
not going to wait! If I had waited until *I* was 100%, we wouldn't be
where we are today. The 'proof' was in the living and doing.

If he's a visual person, these videos might be helpful:

http://www.youtube.com/user/DaynaLeighMartin

And this DVD isn't about unschooling, but is about letting kids be who
they are - a big part of it!

http://www.alfiekohn.org/updvd.htm

peace,
Caren

Robin Bentley

I am going to suggest a couple of places to read, but they are easily
accessible and specific.

Rue Kream's book "Parenting a Free Child" is a great (and slim <g>)
book for husbands and other relatives. Rue's laid it out in question
answer form, and all the questions are listed in the contents page for
easy reference.
http://www.freechild.info/

Joyce Fetterol's site also has a question and answer-type format with
categories, so it's easy to skim down the columns on either side to
find what you want to address:

http://joyfullyrejoycing.com/

I would suggest that you inform yourself thoroughly before trying to
convince your husband, so read these yourself, too! In addition to
Joyce's site, read at Sandra Dodd's site, too, and immerse yourself in
learning. Be confident in your convictions about unschooling.

http://sandradodd.com/unschooling

I would also suggest that if you don't commit to unschooling 100%, you
may never do it if you are waiting for your husband. But, you can
bring him along gently, by showing him in your actions how unschooling
works. Many spouses have a hard time at first because the ideas behind
unschooling go against their own upbringing. So, trying to convince
them of the theory before seeing the results can be tricky. A bit of
both can help.

I also highly recommend unschooling conferences for a real-life
experience of unschoolers themselves and how unschooling can work.

Being sensitive to our spouse's objections or worries is a good thing.
They need understanding, too, as they grasp the concepts and the
realities. Unschooling isn't worth getting divorced over, but it
probably is worth looking at new ways to work together for the good of
your kids and family.

Robin B.



On Sep 21, 2008, at 9:11 PM, hmschleidt wrote:

> Hi, I am new to this board, but I have homeschooled for 2+ years now
> (my oldest of 4 children is almost 8) and we have tried Sonlight -
> that
> lasted 3 days, ecclectic curriculum, co-ops, but most of last year we
> did child-directed learning.
>
> My question is this: My husband is REALLY very easy-going and LOVES
> the idea of homeschooling, but he is not completely sold on the
> unschooling idea. Are there any resources I should turn to first to
> place in front of him? I do not want to commit to totally unschooling
> until I have his 100% complete support because my other children are
> younger and I want to do this all the way to college age and I don't
> want the riff between us to be a sore in our daily sides.
>
> He does NOT like to read, so if it is reading material it would need
> to
> be short and concise. I LOVE to read and can summarize anything that
> is suggested, but it would be in my words, not the author's.
>
> Any advice is appreciated and I am looking forward to being part of
> this group.
>
>
> ------------------------------------
>
> Yahoo! Groups Links
>
>
>



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Faith Void

http://liveandlearnshop.com/catalog/
check out the Live and Learn store for mp3s of a huge variety of talks. they
are great to listen to in the car (or anywhere)

http://sandradodd.com/parentingpeacefully
scroll to the bottom of this for a listen

Faith


On Mon, Sep 22, 2008 at 3:41 PM, Robin Bentley <robin.bentley@...>wrote:

> I am going to suggest a couple of places to read, but they are easily
> accessible and specific.
>
> Rue Kream's book "Parenting a Free Child" is a great (and slim <g>)
> book for husbands and other relatives. Rue's laid it out in question
> answer form, and all the questions are listed in the contents page for
> easy reference.
> http://www.freechild.info/
>
> Joyce Fetterol's site also has a question and answer-type format with
> categories, so it's easy to skim down the columns on either side to
> find what you want to address:
>
> http://joyfullyrejoycing.com/
>
> I would suggest that you inform yourself thoroughly before trying to
> convince your husband, so read these yourself, too! In addition to
> Joyce's site, read at Sandra Dodd's site, too, and immerse yourself in
> learning. Be confident in your convictions about unschooling.
>
> http://sandradodd.com/unschooling
>
> I would also suggest that if you don't commit to unschooling 100%, you
> may never do it if you are waiting for your husband. But, you can
> bring him along gently, by showing him in your actions how unschooling
> works. Many spouses have a hard time at first because the ideas behind
> unschooling go against their own upbringing. So, trying to convince
> them of the theory before seeing the results can be tricky. A bit of
> both can help.
>
> I also highly recommend unschooling conferences for a real-life
> experience of unschoolers themselves and how unschooling can work.
>
> Being sensitive to our spouse's objections or worries is a good thing.
> They need understanding, too, as they grasp the concepts and the
> realities. Unschooling isn't worth getting divorced over, but it
> probably is worth looking at new ways to work together for the good of
> your kids and family.
>
> Robin B.
>
>
> On Sep 21, 2008, at 9:11 PM, hmschleidt wrote:
>
> > Hi, I am new to this board, but I have homeschooled for 2+ years now
> > (my oldest of 4 children is almost 8) and we have tried Sonlight -
> > that
> > lasted 3 days, ecclectic curriculum, co-ops, but most of last year we
> > did child-directed learning.
> >
> > My question is this: My husband is REALLY very easy-going and LOVES
> > the idea of homeschooling, but he is not completely sold on the
> > unschooling idea. Are there any resources I should turn to first to
> > place in front of him? I do not want to commit to totally unschooling
> > until I have his 100% complete support because my other children are
> > younger and I want to do this all the way to college age and I don't
> > want the riff between us to be a sore in our daily sides.
> >
> > He does NOT like to read, so if it is reading material it would need
> > to
> > be short and concise. I LOVE to read and can summarize anything that
> > is suggested, but it would be in my words, not the author's.
> >
> > Any advice is appreciated and I am looking forward to being part of
> > this group.
> >
> >
> > ------------------------------------
> >
> > Yahoo! Groups Links
> >
> >
> >
>
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>
>
>



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www.bearthmama.com


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Pamela Sorooshian

Get yourselves to an unschooling conference. That is by FAR the most
effective way for the parents who don't want to read about unschooling
to experience it. When they hang out with a bunch of other unschoolers
and get to observe and interact with the teenagers and young adults,
they seem to be quite impressed and convinced.

-pam

On Sep 21, 2008, at 9:11 PM, hmschleidt wrote:

> My question is this: My husband is REALLY very easy-going and LOVES
> the idea of homeschooling, but he is not completely sold on the
> unschooling idea. Are there any resources I should turn to first to
> place in front of him?