Allison

I'm Allison, wife to Joe, mom to 4. Madeline 7, Michael 5, Marah 2,
and Naomi 4 months. We were at Life is Good if anyone was also there,
HI! We are unschooling academically already but the more I read the
more I like about radical unschooling. The whole life unschooling
really appeals to me in many ways. I am hoping to read more about it
because I just don't get how to implement it in. Its such a drastic
change and going all at once does not seem like it would work very
well. So I am here and will most likely be lurking and devouring any
thread that catches my eye (or posting tons of questions) LOL.

Debra Rossing

Hi there

As many have said over much time and many threads, go easy. Don't pull
the rug out from under everyone - it just gets messy. Instead, just say
Yes more; say Why not? Instead of No; think through that first reaction
- what is your reason for saying No to that, is it a real thing (based
in some real situation such as No hitting your sibling) or is it a
leftover tape of Mom has to be in control at all times and they have to
learn that they don't always get their own way. And, too, when a No
arises (as in I'm sorry but I can't make a banana smoothie because we're
out of bananas), find a Yes in it - (...but I can write bananas on the
grocery list right now so I don't forget and I'll be going shopping in
two days when it's pay day. Or, No, we can't get to the beach today, the
car is broken. How about we have a picnic lunch outside and then play in
the sprinkler in the back yard? And, if you don't have a sprinkler or a
backyard, a living room picnic and maybe getting in the shower with your
clothes on would be silly fun) Bottom line is look for ways to be a
helpful partner to your kids - you've got the car keys and the money,
you can facilitate their exploration of the world...or not, your choice
- rather than being their adversary enforcing your view on them rather
than helping them embrace their own view of the world.

Deb


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