helping a child learn self conrol
barefootmamax4
I have one child who is very explosive in temperment and although we
have been working on avoiding situations that trigger the problem as
well as finding solutions to problems,we still have the issue of losing
control of all rational thought when a new conflict apprears.
We have worked long and hard on getting him to express his emotions, so
I want it to be clear that I am not trying to get him to supress or
ignore his feelings, but to not be impulsive,to express his feelings in
a non damaging way,to have some self control over his angry feelings.
Any suggestions?
-Kelly
have been working on avoiding situations that trigger the problem as
well as finding solutions to problems,we still have the issue of losing
control of all rational thought when a new conflict apprears.
We have worked long and hard on getting him to express his emotions, so
I want it to be clear that I am not trying to get him to supress or
ignore his feelings, but to not be impulsive,to express his feelings in
a non damaging way,to have some self control over his angry feelings.
Any suggestions?
-Kelly
Kelli Johnston
I tend to do a lot of modeling....when I am angry, make a point to say that I am walking away or taking a break to cool down ( or stomping my feet...hitting a pillow).. Sometimes after a meltdown, we discuss alternatives that he can try next time he feels that way and how to remind him that it is an option. Then when he seems upset, I suggest some actions he could take to calm himself. Hope that helps!Kelli______________________
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To: [email protected]: barefootmamax4@...: Wed, 25 Jun 2008 16:12:04 +0000Subject: [unschoolingbasics] helping a child learn self conrol
I have one child who is very explosive in temperment and although we have been working on avoiding situations that trigger the problem as well as finding solutions to problems,we still have the issue of losing control of all rational thought when a new conflict apprears. We have worked long and hard on getting him to express his emotions, so I want it to be clear that I am not trying to get him to supress or ignore his feelings, but to not be impulsive,to express his feelings in a non damaging way,to have some self control over his angry feelings. Any suggestions?-Kelly
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To: [email protected]: barefootmamax4@...: Wed, 25 Jun 2008 16:12:04 +0000Subject: [unschoolingbasics] helping a child learn self conrol
I have one child who is very explosive in temperment and although we have been working on avoiding situations that trigger the problem as well as finding solutions to problems,we still have the issue of losing control of all rational thought when a new conflict apprears. We have worked long and hard on getting him to express his emotions, so I want it to be clear that I am not trying to get him to supress or ignore his feelings, but to not be impulsive,to express his feelings in a non damaging way,to have some self control over his angry feelings. Any suggestions?-Kelly
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