Adrean Clark

At home I have notes taped up on the side wall of my refrigerator -
"cheat sheets" so to type. One glance reminds me of different
techniques to help us get along better. One example is "Ways to Engage
Child's Cooperation: Describe what you see..." Another is
"Alternatives to Punishment: Point out a way to be helpful..." And so
on. The notes are from pre-unschooling days so I'd like to replace
them with unschooly ideas.

It's hard to distill entire conversations here and websites to a few
sentences. But I want to give it a try. One thing I thought of was
there tends to be a common thread to our conflicts when starting out -
"Top Ten Triggers" Family, Kids Fighting, Food--all with short
reminders under them. "How to Relax in Chaos" even. Do you all have
ideas on that?

I may even put my graphic design skills back into use finally and make
PDFs for you all to keep! But for sure I'll post compilations to the
list.

Adrean


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swissarmy_wife

I know someone who was having trouble with using more positive
descriptions of her children. So she made a little list of all the
negative words she had been using and wrote the new word next to it.
I really enjoy reading it when I go over there.

For example...

picky could become particular
hyper could become energetic or active

I've been sitting in the sun at a soccer game so these aren't really
popping out at me right now, but i think you get the point. :-)

--- In [email protected], "Adrean Clark"
<adreanaline@...> wrote:
>
> At home I have notes taped up on the side wall of my refrigerator -
> "cheat sheets" so to type. One glance reminds me of different
> techniques to help us get along better. One example is "Ways to Engage
> Child's Cooperation: Describe what you see..." Another is
> "Alternatives to Punishment: Point out a way to be helpful..." And so
> on. The notes are from pre-unschooling days so I'd like to replace
> them with unschooly ideas.
>
> It's hard to distill entire conversations here and websites to a few
> sentences. But I want to give it a try. One thing I thought of was
> there tends to be a common thread to our conflicts when starting out -
> "Top Ten Triggers" Family, Kids Fighting, Food--all with short
> reminders under them. "How to Relax in Chaos" even. Do you all have
> ideas on that?
>
> I may even put my graphic design skills back into use finally and make
> PDFs for you all to keep! But for sure I'll post compilations to the
> list.
>
> Adrean
>
>
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>

Joyce Fetteroll

On May 17, 2008, at 1:58 PM, Adrean Clark wrote:

> It's hard to distill entire conversations here and websites to a few
> sentences. But I want to give it a try. One thing I thought of was
> there tends to be a common thread to our conflicts when starting out -
> "Top Ten Triggers" Family, Kids Fighting, Food--all with short
> reminders under them. "How to Relax in Chaos" even. Do you all have
> ideas on that?

I think I know what you mean but not totally sure. Anyway, nothing's
coming to mind. You might try Sandra Dodd's quote page as a place to
begin. They're short and a few might be good summaries:

http://sandradodd.com/quotes/

It might get you started anyway.

Joyce

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Faith Void

My dh and I have just made a list of principles we live by. We haven't
shown our kids yet but I look at it as kind of a "vision statement"
for our family. Just doing it really brought some clarity for us, we
are more on the same page now. I plan to hang it somewhere I can see
it for those moments when I am lacking clarity in my own head.
I would think that some of the stuff (but not all) from How to
Talk/How to Listen would be helpful. I think you mentioned
alternatives to punishments. I also have so stuff I got out of Raising
Our Children, Raising Ourselves written in my day planner as a kind of
cheat sheet. And a quote from Joyce and one from Diana.
Faith

On Sun, May 18, 2008 at 4:15 AM, Joyce Fetteroll <jfetteroll@...> wrote:
>
> On May 17, 2008, at 1:58 PM, Adrean Clark wrote:
>
>> It's hard to distill entire conversations here and websites to a few
>> sentences. But I want to give it a try. One thing I thought of was
>> there tends to be a common thread to our conflicts when starting out -
>> "Top Ten Triggers" Family, Kids Fighting, Food--all with short
>> reminders under them. "How to Relax in Chaos" even. Do you all have
>> ideas on that?
>
> I think I know what you mean but not totally sure. Anyway, nothing's
> coming to mind. You might try Sandra Dodd's quote page as a place to
> begin. They're short and a few might be good summaries:
>
> http://sandradodd.com/quotes/
>
> It might get you started anyway.
>
> Joyce
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>



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