Inertia
caradove
Don't really know how to word this, but have any of you had periods of
time where you feel like you really are not doing much of anything. I
don't mean that" not doing much educational" feeling. Just kind of a
stuck, sluggish blaaah kind of feeling.
We just got through about a year of medical testing for our second
son. He was not growing, not eating, getting depressed and having abd.
pain. I thought celiac, those tests came back negative, so we moved on
to Cystic fibrosis tests, SDS tests, Crohns disease, you name it, he
was tested.
To cut a long story short, after nearly a year, and finding that his
bone density is low, and a severely broken arm, we decided to start
gluten free. In two weeks his weight started to go up rapidly, his
mood improved. So his diagnosis is celiac.
So I don't know if I could be having some depression after such a
worrying year. Life is very different when it all gears around the
next set of medical tests.And I am having difficulty now getting into
a more normal kind of life.
Any ideas? How to get back to enjoying life, getting back a lighter
spirit and enjoying doing fun things with the children?
Cara
time where you feel like you really are not doing much of anything. I
don't mean that" not doing much educational" feeling. Just kind of a
stuck, sluggish blaaah kind of feeling.
We just got through about a year of medical testing for our second
son. He was not growing, not eating, getting depressed and having abd.
pain. I thought celiac, those tests came back negative, so we moved on
to Cystic fibrosis tests, SDS tests, Crohns disease, you name it, he
was tested.
To cut a long story short, after nearly a year, and finding that his
bone density is low, and a severely broken arm, we decided to start
gluten free. In two weeks his weight started to go up rapidly, his
mood improved. So his diagnosis is celiac.
So I don't know if I could be having some depression after such a
worrying year. Life is very different when it all gears around the
next set of medical tests.And I am having difficulty now getting into
a more normal kind of life.
Any ideas? How to get back to enjoying life, getting back a lighter
spirit and enjoying doing fun things with the children?
Cara
rebekah byson
Cara,
It sounds like you are having a normal reaction to a very stressful time in
your life. Whenever we (people in general) are very busy and "activated"
with things in our life...stressful scary things like your son's illness and
medical problems but also happy stress like having babies and moving and fun
big things then there is a period of let down...anti climax as you will.
Just continue to learn about your son's needs and go outside and
play...spring and summer are the best times of year in my opinion and give
your self time to relax and enjoy this moment.
Yes we all have those blah feelings where it seems like --(I do anyway)-
where it seems I can't rub two ideas together and accomplish anything.
Clean your house or a closet..get a sitter or leave the kids with daddy and
go do something for you...sometimes we (homeschoolers especially)
(attachment parents also) seem to focus so much on our children that we can
forget to have some "healthy selfishness".
I find that when I feel a little down that a good break away from kids and
house are all I need to find my center again. I am only just learning this.
I also like the freshness of a complete spring cleaning...as I am a person
who thinks clearer in clear uncluttered environments. :)
Hang in there momma :)
It sounds like you are having a normal reaction to a very stressful time in
your life. Whenever we (people in general) are very busy and "activated"
with things in our life...stressful scary things like your son's illness and
medical problems but also happy stress like having babies and moving and fun
big things then there is a period of let down...anti climax as you will.
Just continue to learn about your son's needs and go outside and
play...spring and summer are the best times of year in my opinion and give
your self time to relax and enjoy this moment.
Yes we all have those blah feelings where it seems like --(I do anyway)-
where it seems I can't rub two ideas together and accomplish anything.
Clean your house or a closet..get a sitter or leave the kids with daddy and
go do something for you...sometimes we (homeschoolers especially)
(attachment parents also) seem to focus so much on our children that we can
forget to have some "healthy selfishness".
I find that when I feel a little down that a good break away from kids and
house are all I need to find my center again. I am only just learning this.
I also like the freshness of a complete spring cleaning...as I am a person
who thinks clearer in clear uncluttered environments. :)
Hang in there momma :)
On Tue, May 6, 2008 at 10:13 AM, caradove <caradove@...> wrote:
> Don't really know how to word this, but have any of you had periods of
> time where you feel like you really are not doing much of anything. I
> don't mean that" not doing much educational" feeling. Just kind of a
> stuck, sluggish blaaah kind of feeling.
>
> We just got through about a year of medical testing for our second
> son. He was not growing, not eating, getting depressed and having abd.
> pain. I thought celiac, those tests came back negative, so we moved on
> to Cystic fibrosis tests, SDS tests, Crohns disease, you name it, he
> was tested.
>
> To cut a long story short, after nearly a year, and finding that his
> bone density is low, and a severely broken arm, we decided to start
> gluten free. In two weeks his weight started to go up rapidly, his
> mood improved. So his diagnosis is celiac.
>
> So I don't know if I could be having some depression after such a
> worrying year. Life is very different when it all gears around the
> next set of medical tests.And I am having difficulty now getting into
> a more normal kind of life.
>
> Any ideas? How to get back to enjoying life, getting back a lighter
> spirit and enjoying doing fun things with the children?
>
> Cara
>
>
>
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diana jenner
>I've had big chunks of time like you describe. In fact, I'm just at the time
> Any ideas? How to get back to enjoying life, getting back a lighter
> spirit and enjoying doing fun things with the children?
where I'm feeling the nigglings of needing to get up and *move* and do
*something* -- Spring Fever? I'll use it to my advantage :D
There's a sign I pass daily, lately it says, "Action is the antidote to
despair" So I've been carrying that around with me lately. When I get that
"Grey Cloud" feeling, I move; even just across the room or outside into the
fresh air for a moment. It's helped immensely!
Another biggie: Look around you, find Gratitude in your *right now* - how
blessed you are to have a moment to do nothing but soak in the gift of this
very moment. That tends to connect me back to where/who I want to be.
sometimes we (homeschoolers especially)
> (attachment parents also) seem to focus so much on our children that weI have to disagree on the *separation* advocated here. It's perfectly
> can
> forget to have some "healthy selfishness".
> I find that when I feel a little down that a good break away from kids and
> house are all I need to find my center again. I am only just learning
> this.
>
possible for you to reconnect right in the middle of the chaos (a lovely
visual I carry "every hurricane has a calm center"). Though I truly believe
"When mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" I truly believe, equally, that
every mama can find her happy right where she is, right in that moment and
create *connection* instead of separation... Breathe deep (in someone's
hair) and often, feel the sun on your face, inspire laughter, dance, sing,
create, plant, walk, run, paint; all of those can be done with company :)
with happy company, even.
My blog has pictures of my recent planting projects and our battle with
inertia, last weekend :)
--
~diana :)
xoxoxoxo
hannahbearski.blogspot.com
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keetry
--- In [email protected], "diana jenner"
<hahamommy@...> wrote:
time. I saw numerous therapists who all focused on my problems and
relationships and I got nowhere. Finally, I lucked on a LCSW who
taught me how to change my negative thoughts to positive ones. It
wasn't about denying my feelings or lying to myself. It was about
acknowledging all the good things in my life. I started out very
basic. I had food and shelter. I had clothing. I had a job. I had a
family. As I got better at it I started to see all the other good
things I had/have. Now I do it automatically and it really does
work. All I have to do to change my mood is change my thinking.
to do this than to get away. What happens if it's just impossible to
get away even for a short time? Do you then have to stay stuck in
the negativity until you can get away? I prefer to find a way out of
the negativity here and now in the moment rather than waiting for
some magical alone time.
My husband was deployed for a year. I was pregnant and had a 3yo who
would not stay with anyone else to care for. I also had a teenager
who kept very different hours from the 3yo. I had my baby halfway
through my dh's deployment so then I had a breastfeeding newborn to
take care of as well. There was no way I was going to get away. I
had to find that place in my mind in the middle of the chaos. That
was my only option.
Alysia
<hahamommy@...> wrote:
>lighter
> >
> > Any ideas? How to get back to enjoying life, getting back a
> > spirit and enjoying doing fun things with the children?now* - how
>
>
> Another biggie: Look around you, find Gratitude in your *right
> blessed you are to have a moment to do nothing but soak in thegift of this
> very moment.This is a big one for me. I battled extreme depression for a long
time. I saw numerous therapists who all focused on my problems and
relationships and I got nowhere. Finally, I lucked on a LCSW who
taught me how to change my negative thoughts to positive ones. It
wasn't about denying my feelings or lying to myself. It was about
acknowledging all the good things in my life. I started out very
basic. I had food and shelter. I had clothing. I had a job. I had a
family. As I got better at it I started to see all the other good
things I had/have. Now I do it automatically and it really does
work. All I have to do to change my mood is change my thinking.
> I have to disagree on the *separation* advocated here. It'sperfectly
> possible for you to reconnect right in the middle of the chaosI agree with this, too. I think it's even more important to be able
to do this than to get away. What happens if it's just impossible to
get away even for a short time? Do you then have to stay stuck in
the negativity until you can get away? I prefer to find a way out of
the negativity here and now in the moment rather than waiting for
some magical alone time.
My husband was deployed for a year. I was pregnant and had a 3yo who
would not stay with anyone else to care for. I also had a teenager
who kept very different hours from the 3yo. I had my baby halfway
through my dh's deployment so then I had a breastfeeding newborn to
take care of as well. There was no way I was going to get away. I
had to find that place in my mind in the middle of the chaos. That
was my only option.
Alysia