jenjon1964

What would you do? Your neighboor and her kid come into your property,
lets the dog poop right in front of the door to go into your back yard
and she leaves it there. It just happend to me. My mom says to put the
poop in a bag with a note telling her she forgot something in our yard
and carefully place it on her front steps for her to find. This is
really bothering me, What would you do?
Barb

Michelle Thedaker

Barb,

Personally, I would scoop it up, toss it, and forget it. Life is waaay too
short to stress about such things, IMO. Certainly if this happened
repeatedly, I would politely discuss it with her. But, IMO, being rude to
her by leaving poop on her doorstep isn't going to take you into a happy
resolution.

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What would you do? Your neighboor and her kid come into your property,
lets the dog poop right in front of the door to go into your back yard
and she leaves it there. It just happend to me. My mom says to put the
poop in a bag with a note telling her she forgot something in our yard
and carefully place it on her front steps for her to find. This is
really bothering me, What would you do?
Barb






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Janet

Oh man would I be in trouble if we went with the library limits...
it's 100 books plus ten DVDs or CDs.... There are 5 of us with
library cards!! (the really nice thing is that I sub there and don't
have to pay any fines!) But we use just one card so I can keep track
and never have reached the limit.

Janet in MN

Ren Allen

~~Personally, I would scoop it up, toss it, and forget it. Life is
waaay too short to stress about such things, IMO. Certainly if this
happened
repeatedly, I would politely discuss it with her. But, IMO, being rude
to her by leaving poop on her doorstep isn't going to take you into a
happy resolution.~~

I agree.
It's a very aggressive way to deal with the problem without giving the
other person the benefit of the doubt! I would mention it...she may
not have noticed. If it continued, I would have no problem tossing it
over onto her lawn!

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

keetry

--- In [email protected], "jenjon1964"
<amparo0914@...> wrote:
>
> What would you do? Your neighboor and her kid come into your
property,
> lets the dog poop right in front of the door to go into your back
yard
> and she leaves it there. It just happend to me. My mom says to put
the
> poop in a bag with a note telling her she forgot something in our
yard
> and carefully place it on her front steps for her to find. This is
> really bothering me, What would you do?
> Barb
>

I would clean it up myself. I would also go to the neighbor and
explain nicely what had happened and that I'd appreciate if she
either cleaned up after her dog or didn't come on my property
anymore, whichever you prefer. I wouldn't make it a confrontation.
Just a nice friendly, Hey, this happened and I'd appreciate it if it
were handled differently next time. No big deal.

Once when I was growing up our dog apparently did that at a
neighbor's house and the neighbor did just what your mom suggested.
We found a bag of dog poop on our front stoop with a note about
picking up after her. We thought it was the funniest thing and that
the neighbor was a big jerk. We were much less inclined to honor his
request after that. If he had knocked on the door and said, "Hey,
your dog just pooped in my yard." We would've apologized and gone
over immediately to clean it up.

Your neighbor may not have realized her dog pooped there. Or she may
have not had anything to clean it up with at the time and planned to
come back with something but forgot or had something else come up.
That has happened to me before while walking my dog.

My nieghbor who lives behind me (or maybe one of her boys) lets her
dog loose out the back door. We don't have fences in between our
yards so the dog comes into mine and poops. I found many, many poop
piles a few weeks ago. I wasn't that upset, maybe because I've had a
dog and know what a pain all of that is. I just clean it up.
Whatever. If it gets to be too much of a hassle for me I'll ask her
to clean it up.

Alysia

[email protected]

I don't like to start trouble with her, that's why I haven't done anything,
yet. I saw her through my upstairs window. She just went into my property
with her dog and the dog pooped right in front of the door where my little
kids usually use. She then walked away with her dog and son. She lives right
across the street from us. I waited to see if she would come back to pick it
up, she never came back. I have found really strange thing around my
property and weird stares from the neighbors after one of my neighbors asked me why
my kids were not in school. The lady that left the doggy present in front of
my lawn has a lot of connections with the school, which is just two houses
away from where I live, she has a lot of family members that work for the
school. Maybe that has something to do with it. Don't know.
Barb



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carenkh

Stating your needs isn't starting trouble - it's just stating your
needs. (I'd like to keep poop off my lawn, my kids play there. Here
are some extra plastic bags I had!) You can't be responsible for how
she takes it.

I would probably just scoop it, and not say anything unless it
happened again.

I've found it really helpful to assign positive intent to people -
just believe they mean no harm by what they're doing. This is helpful
even if they *do* mean harm! lol

This can work, too, with the perceived stares - they're probably curious.

peace,
Caren



--- In [email protected], amparo0914@... wrote:
>
> I don't like to start trouble with her, that's why I haven't done
anything,
> yet.

keetry

--- In [email protected], amparo0914@... wrote:
>
> I don't like to start trouble with her, that's why I haven't done
anything,
> yet. I saw her through my upstairs window. She just went into
my property
> with her dog and the dog pooped right in front of the door where
my little
> kids usually use. She then walked away with her dog and son. She
lives right
> across the street from us. I waited to see if she would come
back to pick it
> up, she never came back. I have found really strange thing
around my
> property and weird stares from the neighbors after one of my
neighbors asked me why
> my kids were not in school. The lady that left the doggy present
in front of
> my lawn has a lot of connections with the school, which is just
two houses
> away from where I live, she has a lot of family members that
work for the
> school. Maybe that has something to do with it. Don't know.
> Barb


Are you afraid she could and would start trouble for you because you
homeschool?

Alysia