Adrean Clark

Oooh please post :) I miss having strawberry cake...

Adrean


On 3/18/08, Deb Lewis <d.lewis@...> wrote:
> *** Actually I think of it more as Self Coaching, a reminder that I've
> known this child their whole life, and am more in tune with *how they
> tick* than any one else.***
>
> I think I know Dylan better than anyone else does, except for Dylan.<g>
>
> Lot's of people coming from a more traditional background though who think
> they know what makes their kid tick, might think a melt down is because the
> kid is selfish or spoiled or being a brat. We read that here sometimes. I
> don't want to urge those folks to trust they're the perfect parents if
> they're inclined to spank a kid and send him to his room.
>
> ***In my frustrated times, it used to be easy to fall back into "I can't
> do this, it's too much, *he's* too much, I need to quit, I don't know
> what to do...." etc. ***
>
> This is a difference if folks I guess because I didn't think "I can't do
> this" I'd think, "Now why in the HELL did I do THAT?" <g>
>
> ***I'd say that makes you a perfect human being, flaws and all***
>
> Uh, no.<g> I don't think understanding I'll never be perfect, in my
> parenting or otherwise, is a negative thing. I don't have a *need* to be
> perfect. I need to be thoughtful of my kid and analytical of my mistakes
> and remember I *can* do better.
>
> ***testament to your commitment to a lack of crappiness ***
>
> Yes. It's good to have a big balance in our relationship account, and to
> continue to make a lot of regular deposits because when I make a little
> withdrawal for some stupid reason, the balance is still way high.<g>
>
> ***I love that our life is without the constant turmoil of a
> crappiness/insincere apology cycle in it (as in my childhood)***
>
> Yes, this is important. My dh at forty eight still struggles with some of
> the turmoil of his childhood and our son at fifteen has little of that.
> Dylan is already emotionally healthier and will be his whole life.
>
> ***This was running through my
> head as I baked tonight & I couldn't wait to come home and write :)***
>
> I enjoy your perspective even if you are more touchy/feely than I am.<g>
> (Cyborgs are more touchy/feely than I am.<g>)
>
> This is veering wildly off topic now but I have a couple recipes for dairy
> free cake if you want them. They might could stand some of your creative
> tweaking.<g>
>
> Deb Lewis
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>

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Check out "Vegan Cupcakes Take Over The World" I have tried some of
their recipes, mmmmmmmmm. And vegan lunchbox website has good recipes
even vegan Twinkies.

--- In [email protected], "Adrean Clark"
<adreanaline@...> wrote:
>
> Oooh please post :) I miss having strawberry cake...
>
> Adrean
>
>
> On 3/18/08, Deb Lewis <d.lewis@...> wrote:
> > *** Actually I think of it more as Self Coaching, a reminder that I've
> > known this child their whole life, and am more in tune with *how they
> > tick* than any one else.***
> >
> > I think I know Dylan better than anyone else does, except for
Dylan.<g>
> >
> > Lot's of people coming from a more traditional background though
who think
> > they know what makes their kid tick, might think a melt down is
because the
> > kid is selfish or spoiled or being a brat. We read that here
sometimes. I
> > don't want to urge those folks to trust they're the perfect parents if
> > they're inclined to spank a kid and send him to his room.
> >
> > ***In my frustrated times, it used to be easy to fall back into "I
can't
> > do this, it's too much, *he's* too much, I need to quit, I don't know
> > what to do...." etc. ***
> >
> > This is a difference if folks I guess because I didn't think "I
can't do
> > this" I'd think, "Now why in the HELL did I do THAT?" <g>
> >
> > ***I'd say that makes you a perfect human being, flaws and all***
> >
> > Uh, no.<g> I don't think understanding I'll never be perfect, in my
> > parenting or otherwise, is a negative thing. I don't have a
*need* to be
> > perfect. I need to be thoughtful of my kid and analytical of my
mistakes
> > and remember I *can* do better.
> >
> > ***testament to your commitment to a lack of crappiness ***
> >
> > Yes. It's good to have a big balance in our relationship account,
and to
> > continue to make a lot of regular deposits because when I make a
little
> > withdrawal for some stupid reason, the balance is still way high.<g>
> >
> > ***I love that our life is without the constant turmoil of a
> > crappiness/insincere apology cycle in it (as in my childhood)***
> >
> > Yes, this is important. My dh at forty eight still struggles with
some of
> > the turmoil of his childhood and our son at fifteen has little of
that.
> > Dylan is already emotionally healthier and will be his whole life.
> >
> > ***This was running through my
> > head as I baked tonight & I couldn't wait to come home and write :)***
> >
> > I enjoy your perspective even if you are more touchy/feely than I
am.<g>
> > (Cyborgs are more touchy/feely than I am.<g>)
> >
> > This is veering wildly off topic now but I have a couple recipes
for dairy
> > free cake if you want them. They might could stand some of your
creative
> > tweaking.<g>
> >
> > Deb Lewis
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> >
> >
>
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