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In a message dated 9/8/2004 6:07:47 AM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
>I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most.<

Sandra just said something along these same lines in talking about how she
became more gentle with her dh, knowing that most men have a hurt little boy
inside who was not parented gently. I saved her post and know I'm not quoting
her exactly but....She mentioned she just started being motherly/nurturing
towards him and how that kindness & love, and that, in turn, helped him to become a
'softer' person.

I have to say that both of these posts really struck me (like, DUH!) as I've
been focusing all my 'unschooling' energy towards my dd, but not necessarily
to my dh... Our relationship had stayed the same, with me not carrying my
shift of thinking over to where it was affecting him (Hmm...no wonder he's having
a hard time understanding unschooling!) :(

I feel sad that I didn't get this before, it seems so obvious. But there it
is. Today's a new day...he won't know what the heck is going on - LOL! But
I'm positive he'll like it, and probably be able to finally *see what I've been
talking about :) LOL - Just when I think I'm really getting unschooling, my
eyes are opened to yet another instant where I see that I have a long way to go!

Thanks,
Denise


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