Re: [unschoolingbasics] i need some advice......
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.......................we are minding our own bussiness,,raising our
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me ??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,and that """I
HOMESCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!"""...dang,,,im not doing anything illegal,,immoral,,or fattening,,,,,,cant they
leave me the f**^K,,alone,,,,my bro-in-law,,said he almost called child protective
services on us the last time he was over ....why??because there was dirty
clothes piles,,at the back door/laundry room,,,between the kids bed
rooms,,,etc,,,news flash,,,,our washing machine was BROKE,,,,
oh,,,and the frig needed cleaning out,,,,,
no i wasnt growing anything strange,,,nothing bubbling in there,,,it just
needed to be cleaned out!!!
my husband told him to do what he felt he had todo,,,,and his bro,,said..he
wasnt ,,,but,,,how the hell do i know,,,,they cant pick pluck at us anyother
way...........oh,,,and ofcourse i wasnt there when bro made that threat,,,,and
ofcourse it stressed out hubby,,,he couldnt wind down till very early in the
morning,,and when he is over stimulated/stressed,,it takes days for him to get
over it,,they been told that too,,,,,,not that they give a ripp...
why cant they leave us the heck alone????????
now,,,since i got that out of my system......
any suggestions???
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me ??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,and that """I
HOMESCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!"""...dang,,,im not doing anything illegal,,immoral,,or fattening,,,,,,cant they
leave me the f**^K,,alone,,,,my bro-in-law,,said he almost called child protective
services on us the last time he was over ....why??because there was dirty
clothes piles,,at the back door/laundry room,,,between the kids bed
rooms,,,etc,,,news flash,,,,our washing machine was BROKE,,,,
oh,,,and the frig needed cleaning out,,,,,
no i wasnt growing anything strange,,,nothing bubbling in there,,,it just
needed to be cleaned out!!!
my husband told him to do what he felt he had todo,,,,and his bro,,said..he
wasnt ,,,but,,,how the hell do i know,,,,they cant pick pluck at us anyother
way...........oh,,,and ofcourse i wasnt there when bro made that threat,,,,and
ofcourse it stressed out hubby,,,he couldnt wind down till very early in the
morning,,and when he is over stimulated/stressed,,it takes days for him to get
over it,,they been told that too,,,,,,not that they give a ripp...
why cant they leave us the heck alone????????
now,,,since i got that out of my system......
any suggestions???
>?<[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>June
Joan Labbe & Salvatore Genovese
June,
Wish I had some great solution for you, but wanted to pass along a big
*cyberhug* and say I do understand. My in-laws are happily half the country
away from us, but I have a SIL who was just about ready to file for
protective custody at the end of our last trip to visit them all (she is the
poster mom for "societally/culturally correct" parenting...she thinks there
will be a prize at the end of her life I think. And my MIL thinks my SIL
has it all figured out. In any event, you should have seen the look on
SIL's face when she left her kids at Nonna's and later found out her six
year old son and three year old daughter had participated in a dip with
their cousins - my kids - in Nonna's big jacuzzi bathtub NAKED (gasp) under
my "supervision" which basically consisted of "yeah, sure, good idea" and
running the water. But I think it was my daughter sticking stuffed animals
under her clothes and pulling the six yr old cousin off to the bathroom
yelling "Come on, let's do waterbirths!" and then giving him a complete
detailed description of how that happened exactly that pushed her over the
edge.
I'm very happy they do not live nearby as I am envisioning how difficult
that would all be. Any chance you could just find some chosen family to
replace them?
Warmly,
Joan
************************
"I would rather live in a world where my life is surrounded by mystery than
live in a world so small that my mind could comprehend it." ... Harry
Emerson Fosdick
-----Original Message-----
From: blessed54321@... [mailto:blessed54321@...]
Sent: Sunday, September 05, 2004 2:02 PM
To: [email protected]; shybaby626@...
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] i need some advice......
.......................we are minding our own bussiness,,raising our
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me
??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,
Wish I had some great solution for you, but wanted to pass along a big
*cyberhug* and say I do understand. My in-laws are happily half the country
away from us, but I have a SIL who was just about ready to file for
protective custody at the end of our last trip to visit them all (she is the
poster mom for "societally/culturally correct" parenting...she thinks there
will be a prize at the end of her life I think. And my MIL thinks my SIL
has it all figured out. In any event, you should have seen the look on
SIL's face when she left her kids at Nonna's and later found out her six
year old son and three year old daughter had participated in a dip with
their cousins - my kids - in Nonna's big jacuzzi bathtub NAKED (gasp) under
my "supervision" which basically consisted of "yeah, sure, good idea" and
running the water. But I think it was my daughter sticking stuffed animals
under her clothes and pulling the six yr old cousin off to the bathroom
yelling "Come on, let's do waterbirths!" and then giving him a complete
detailed description of how that happened exactly that pushed her over the
edge.
I'm very happy they do not live nearby as I am envisioning how difficult
that would all be. Any chance you could just find some chosen family to
replace them?
Warmly,
Joan
************************
"I would rather live in a world where my life is surrounded by mystery than
live in a world so small that my mind could comprehend it." ... Harry
Emerson Fosdick
-----Original Message-----
From: blessed54321@... [mailto:blessed54321@...]
Sent: Sunday, September 05, 2004 2:02 PM
To: [email protected]; shybaby626@...
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] i need some advice......
.......................we are minding our own bussiness,,raising our
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me
??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,
Sherri-Lee Pressman
Hi June,
Stop seeing them. Don't let them in if they come over unannounced and
uninvited.
Sherri-Lee
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From: blessed54321@... [mailto:blessed54321@...]
Sent: Sunday, September 05, 2004 11:02 AM
To: [email protected]; shybaby626@...
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] i need some advice......
.......................we are minding our own bussiness,,raising our
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me
??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,and that """I
HOMESCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!"""...dang,,,im not doing anything illegal,,immoral,,or
fattening,,,,,,cant they
leave me the f**^K,,alone,,,,my bro-in-law,,said he almost called child
protective
services on us the last time he was over ....why??because there was dirty
clothes piles,,at the back door/laundry room,,,between the kids bed
rooms,,,etc,,,news flash,,,,our washing machine was BROKE,,,,
oh,,,and the frig needed cleaning out,,,,,
no i wasnt growing anything strange,,,nothing bubbling in there,,,it just
needed to be cleaned out!!!
my husband told him to do what he felt he had todo,,,,and his bro,,said..he
wasnt ,,,but,,,how the hell do i know,,,,they cant pick pluck at us anyother
way...........oh,,,and ofcourse i wasnt there when bro made that
threat,,,,and
ofcourse it stressed out hubby,,,he couldnt wind down till very early in the
morning,,and when he is over stimulated/stressed,,it takes days for him to
get
over it,,they been told that too,,,,,,not that they give a ripp...
why cant they leave us the heck alone????????
now,,,since i got that out of my system......
any suggestions???
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Stop seeing them. Don't let them in if they come over unannounced and
uninvited.
Sherri-Lee
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From: blessed54321@... [mailto:blessed54321@...]
Sent: Sunday, September 05, 2004 11:02 AM
To: [email protected]; shybaby626@...
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] i need some advice......
.......................we are minding our own bussiness,,raising our
kids,,living our lives,,why the heck does my in-laws have to F*&%^$k with me
??
not directly oh no that would take some maturity,,,nooo,,they do it through
my hubby who has enough crap to deal with ,,with his mental disorder...
their concern??dang if when they come over,,unanounced/invited,,,,my house
looks like a typhoon has hit it ,,,a smalll typhoon,,mind you,,,,
but the lack of ''cleanliness,,,,and that """I
HOMESCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!"""...dang,,,im not doing anything illegal,,immoral,,or
fattening,,,,,,cant they
leave me the f**^K,,alone,,,,my bro-in-law,,said he almost called child
protective
services on us the last time he was over ....why??because there was dirty
clothes piles,,at the back door/laundry room,,,between the kids bed
rooms,,,etc,,,news flash,,,,our washing machine was BROKE,,,,
oh,,,and the frig needed cleaning out,,,,,
no i wasnt growing anything strange,,,nothing bubbling in there,,,it just
needed to be cleaned out!!!
my husband told him to do what he felt he had todo,,,,and his bro,,said..he
wasnt ,,,but,,,how the hell do i know,,,,they cant pick pluck at us anyother
way...........oh,,,and ofcourse i wasnt there when bro made that
threat,,,,and
ofcourse it stressed out hubby,,,he couldnt wind down till very early in the
morning,,and when he is over stimulated/stressed,,it takes days for him to
get
over it,,they been told that too,,,,,,not that they give a ripp...
why cant they leave us the heck alone????????
now,,,since i got that out of my system......
any suggestions???
>?<[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>June
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Kelly Muzyczka
At 03:09 PM 9/5/2004, you wrote:
they are uninvited from it. Tell them you are more than happy to come
visit them when you can. Or to have them over for scheduled events, but
right now you are concentrating on keeping your family happy, entertained,
educated and HEALTHY and you don't have time for people to just drop in.
Kelly
I love mankind, it's people I can't stand. --Linus
>Hi June,I was thinking the same thing. If they don't like how you live your life,
>
>Stop seeing them. Don't let them in if they come over unannounced and
>uninvited.
>
>Sherri-Lee
they are uninvited from it. Tell them you are more than happy to come
visit them when you can. Or to have them over for scheduled events, but
right now you are concentrating on keeping your family happy, entertained,
educated and HEALTHY and you don't have time for people to just drop in.
Kelly
I love mankind, it's people I can't stand. --Linus
Penn Acres
Well, June.. this probably isn't too helpful but maybe it might make you smile :-).........
My husband and I married when I was 15 and he was 18 -6 years later we had 4 kids-no money-he had only part time work for 2$ an hour ( we are 65 and 68 now so that gives you an idea. )
We had moved to Winnipeg a few years previous looking for a better future-I was a mess-depressed-frustrated-the worst housekeeper-a crummy barely furnished rental house.My husband used to do the dishes, and clean up in the evening after supper and after the kids were in bed. He would take over for me and roll around on the floor and rough house with them which they loved.
One of my husbands older brothers came over one day-wandered into the kitchen where the dishes were literally piled up in the sink two feet high (no counters)-left-came back a few hours later when my husband got home-tired and hungry-he tied into him about what a crummy housekeeper I was and what a mess the house was- and that he should leave me.
My husband-who was and is the quietest non violent person you would ever meet took him by the back of his collar and a handfull of pants on his arse-frog marched him out the door, tossed him into a snowbank in the front yard-without a word the whole time mind you;came back in and sat down and had his supper and played with the kids and never said a word about it.
That bit of support has given me a laugh whenever I think about it. He hasn't given him the time of day since either. ;-)
Hang in there..
Grace
who got to go to the rodeo both days this weekend and the sun actually came out.
Stephanie decided she was tired and was sad because her rat died today and is asleep and Kara is playing Barbies and says she isnt at all tired.-but I am.
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My husband and I married when I was 15 and he was 18 -6 years later we had 4 kids-no money-he had only part time work for 2$ an hour ( we are 65 and 68 now so that gives you an idea. )
We had moved to Winnipeg a few years previous looking for a better future-I was a mess-depressed-frustrated-the worst housekeeper-a crummy barely furnished rental house.My husband used to do the dishes, and clean up in the evening after supper and after the kids were in bed. He would take over for me and roll around on the floor and rough house with them which they loved.
One of my husbands older brothers came over one day-wandered into the kitchen where the dishes were literally piled up in the sink two feet high (no counters)-left-came back a few hours later when my husband got home-tired and hungry-he tied into him about what a crummy housekeeper I was and what a mess the house was- and that he should leave me.
My husband-who was and is the quietest non violent person you would ever meet took him by the back of his collar and a handfull of pants on his arse-frog marched him out the door, tossed him into a snowbank in the front yard-without a word the whole time mind you;came back in and sat down and had his supper and played with the kids and never said a word about it.
That bit of support has given me a laugh whenever I think about it. He hasn't given him the time of day since either. ;-)
Hang in there..
Grace
who got to go to the rodeo both days this weekend and the sun actually came out.
Stephanie decided she was tired and was sad because her rat died today and is asleep and Kara is playing Barbies and says she isnt at all tired.-but I am.
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[email protected]
In a message dated 9/6/2004 12:37:44 AM Central Daylight Time,
pennacres@... writes:
brother,,,,she's fat,,,she'slazy,,no good,, you shouldnt have to live that
way,,,,oh,,yeah,,,omg,,and she home schools,,the younger two,,,omg,,,what a cardinal sin,,,its
not like my house should be condemned,,geezz,,,
come to visit the house and you have a better chance of it being
clean,,,,anyway,,,im going to do what someone else told me on this list i think ,,if they
come unanounced,,they can stay outside on the porch,,,pardon the spelling,,,i
have migraines and they screw with thinking sometimes,,,,
thanks,,a million,,dang why cant we all just get along.,.,.,??
pennacres@... writes:
> That bit of support has given me a laugh whenever I think about it. Hethanks grace,,yeah,,my hubby has heard the samething from his
> hasn't given him the time of day since either. ;-)
> Hang in there..
> Grace
>
brother,,,,she's fat,,,she'slazy,,no good,, you shouldnt have to live that
way,,,,oh,,yeah,,,omg,,and she home schools,,the younger two,,,omg,,,what a cardinal sin,,,its
not like my house should be condemned,,geezz,,,
come to visit the house and you have a better chance of it being
clean,,,,anyway,,,im going to do what someone else told me on this list i think ,,if they
come unanounced,,they can stay outside on the porch,,,pardon the spelling,,,i
have migraines and they screw with thinking sometimes,,,,
thanks,,a million,,dang why cant we all just get along.,.,.,??
>>June[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Penn Acres
June wrote>>>
anyway,,,im going to do what someone else told me on this list i think ,,if they
come unanounced,,they can stay outside on the porch
...................................................................
Actually, I have very often just stood and talked to my inlaws in the yard , sometimes even while they are sitting in their car.
They don't come around anymore, I feel no obligation to invite people in that I hardly know -doesn,t matter who-when they drive in the yard unanounced i meet them in the yard.We have a long driveway and we park out front and have a gated yard because people arrive in front of our Boarding Kennel when they drive in.Before our Kennels were expanded we had a huge herd of Registered Dairy goats and before and during that we had lots of livestock and horses and were hardly ever in the house.
Most of the relatives etc. come from cities or town and have no idea what living on a piece of land with livestock etc. and a bunch of kids and their interests is like and no way did they ever "get it".
For me it was way more upsetting to hear later what some one said about our place than it was for me to know they thought I was weird for not inviting them in. Always had an out by saying "well I have to start feeding, or milking, or bring the sheep in or whatever."
The bare bum babies used to get to them too ;-)...that I never bothered explaining....
grace
wayyyy...late in the mountains of bc
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anyway,,,im going to do what someone else told me on this list i think ,,if they
come unanounced,,they can stay outside on the porch
...................................................................
Actually, I have very often just stood and talked to my inlaws in the yard , sometimes even while they are sitting in their car.
They don't come around anymore, I feel no obligation to invite people in that I hardly know -doesn,t matter who-when they drive in the yard unanounced i meet them in the yard.We have a long driveway and we park out front and have a gated yard because people arrive in front of our Boarding Kennel when they drive in.Before our Kennels were expanded we had a huge herd of Registered Dairy goats and before and during that we had lots of livestock and horses and were hardly ever in the house.
Most of the relatives etc. come from cities or town and have no idea what living on a piece of land with livestock etc. and a bunch of kids and their interests is like and no way did they ever "get it".
For me it was way more upsetting to hear later what some one said about our place than it was for me to know they thought I was weird for not inviting them in. Always had an out by saying "well I have to start feeding, or milking, or bring the sheep in or whatever."
The bare bum babies used to get to them too ;-)...that I never bothered explaining....
grace
wayyyy...late in the mountains of bc
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[email protected]
grace,,,you are a riot!!i dont have any extended familyon my side ,,,i would
like for us to all get along,,,but if we cant ,,im not driving myself crazy
their crap,,,stay in your county and i will stay in mine.....and lord forbid if
i let the kids run around without clothes,,,they'd had a fit!!!>>June
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like for us to all get along,,,but if we cant ,,im not driving myself crazy
their crap,,,stay in your county and i will stay in mine.....and lord forbid if
i let the kids run around without clothes,,,they'd had a fit!!!>>June
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