Maisha Khalfani

Here was the scenario last night:



Safiya and Dakari "have to" go to bed at a decent hour because they are
still in school. Khalid (4-soon to be 5) and Khidar (2-soon to be 3) stay
home with dad, so it's not the same for them. However...I work and then
when I come home Khalid and Khidar are so happy to see me, they get very
excited (hyper). The problem is I need to go to bed so that I can get up in
the morning. Khalid and Khidar end up taking naps around 5 or 6 pm just
because that's when they get tired. But of course this means they have
energy for days in the evening. Last night I went to bed at 11pm and they
came to lay down with me. But I had to ask them to leave because they were
playing and stuff, and I was just exhausted! I felt so bad about that - but
this morning I woke up late and now I'm fighting the urge to feel "rushed".



What can I do about this? Usually every night Khalid and Khidar are up
late. I've expressed to dh the need for them to go outside and play and
burn off some energy - maybe then they would take an earlier nap, or at
least be tired earlier (one night they were up until 4:45am.and neither of
them had taken a nap that day!). But he hasn't followed through on that
advice yet. I love my sons and I understand their need to be with me, and I
do my best, but there's only one of me and then they argue over who sits on
my lap and try to push each other off.classic sibling rivalry (more so on
Khalid's part than Khidar's - and understandably so).



Okay, I feel like I'm rambling here - I'm going to go get dressed now.





be at peace,

Maisha

Khalfani Family Adventures <http://khalfanifamilyadventures.blogspot.com/>

EarthSpirit Journeys <http://earthspiritjourneys.blogspot.com/>





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Mark V Fullerton

I hope that others here who have experienced this particular
difficulty and who are more familiar with your situation can offer
solutions that I can't; but in general terms I would say
that finding a solution that is really going to work for you and your
family is going to require some imagination on your part, in a way
that makes use of your existing family situation and resources. The
reason that I feel that this may be worth pointing out here is that
you have previously referred to yourself as "sadly non-creative". I am
quite sure that is not generally true; the problem is that people
usually only have access to their creativity when they are feeling
relatively calm,peaceful,relaxed,and detached, and not usually when
they are feeling stressed and exhausted. Catch-22, hmm? Maybe someone
else has a better solution, but personally I think you need to
consider doing something like giving yourself a 1-day vacation by
checking into a hotel for a night so that you can truly get some rest
and begin to meditate and process in a way that might make it possible
for you to find a more permanent solution.


-- In [email protected], "Maisha Khalfani"
<maitai373@...> wrote:
>
> Here was the scenario last night:
>
>
>
> Safiya and Dakari "have to" go to bed at a decent hour because they are
> still in school. Khalid (4-soon to be 5) and Khidar (2-soon to be
3) stay
> home with dad, so it's not the same for them. However...I work and then
> when I come home Khalid and Khidar are so happy to see me, they get very
> excited (hyper). The problem is I need to go to bed so that I can
get up in
> the morning. Khalid and Khidar end up taking naps around 5 or 6 pm just
> because that's when they get tired. But of course this means they have
> energy for days in the evening. Last night I went to bed at 11pm
and they
> came to lay down with me. But I had to ask them to leave because
they were
> playing and stuff, and I was just exhausted! I felt so bad about
that - but
> this morning I woke up late and now I'm fighting the urge to feel
"rushed".
>
>
>
> What can I do about this? Usually every night Khalid and Khidar are up
> late. I've expressed to dh the need for them to go outside and play and
> burn off some energy - maybe then they would take an earlier nap, or at
> least be tired earlier (one night they were up until 4:45am.and
neither of
> them had taken a nap that day!). But he hasn't followed through on that
> advice yet. I love my sons and I understand their need to be with
me, and I
> do my best, but there's only one of me and then they argue over who
sits on
> my lap and try to push each other off.classic sibling rivalry (more
so on
> Khalid's part than Khidar's - and understandably so).
>
>
>
> Okay, I feel like I'm rambling here - I'm going to go get dressed now.
>
>
>
>
>
> be at peace,
>
> Maisha
>
> Khalfani Family Adventures
<http://khalfanifamilyadventures.blogspot.com/>
>
> EarthSpirit Journeys <http://earthspiritjourneys.blogspot.com/>
>
>
>
>
>
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>

Karen Buxcel

Maisha,

Would you be able to fall asleep to a quiet video going? If Khalid and
Khidar would be willing to snuggle in with you while they watch some soft,
gentle movie, maybe you could all drift off to sleep together?

Karen

On Wed, Feb 20, 2008 at 5:37 AM, Maisha Khalfani <maitai373@...>
wrote:

> Here was the scenario last night:
>
> Safiya and Dakari "have to" go to bed at a decent hour because they are
> still in school. Khalid (4-soon to be 5) and Khidar (2-soon to be 3) stay
> home with dad, so it's not the same for them. However...I work and then
> when I come home Khalid and Khidar are so happy to see me, they get very
> excited (hyper). The problem is I need to go to bed so that I can get up
> in
> the morning. Khalid and Khidar end up taking naps around 5 or 6 pm just
> because that's when they get tired. But of course this means they have
> energy for days in the evening. Last night I went to bed at 11pm and they
> came to lay down with me. But I had to ask them to leave because they were
> playing and stuff, and I was just exhausted! I felt so bad about that -
> but
> this morning I woke up late and now I'm fighting the urge to feel
> "rushed".
>
> What can I do about this? Usually every night Khalid and Khidar are up
> late. I've expressed to dh the need for them to go outside and play and
> burn off some energy - maybe then they would take an earlier nap, or at
> least be tired earlier (one night they were up until 4:45am.and neither of
> them had taken a nap that day!). But he hasn't followed through on that
> advice yet. I love my sons and I understand their need to be with me, and
> I
> do my best, but there's only one of me and then they argue over who sits
> on
> my lap and try to push each other off.classic sibling rivalry (more so on
> Khalid's part than Khidar's - and understandably so).
>
> Okay, I feel like I'm rambling here - I'm going to go get dressed now.
>
> be at peace,
>
> Maisha
>
> Khalfani Family Adventures <http://khalfanifamilyadventures.blogspot.com/>
>
>
> EarthSpirit Journeys <http://earthspiritjourneys.blogspot.com/>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
>



--
"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know
peace."
Jimi Hendrix


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Maisha Khalfani

<<personally I think you need to
consider doing something like giving yourself a 1-day vacation by
checking into a hotel for a night so that you can truly get some rest
and begin to meditate and process in a way that might make it possible
for you to find a more permanent solution.>>



Yes, I could definitely use just one day away.





be at peace,

Maisha

<http://khalfanifamilyadventures.blogspot.com/> Khalfani Family Adventures

<http://earthspiritjourneys.blogspot.com/> EarthSpirit Journeys



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Maisha Khalfani

We could try that. Of course I'd wait until Safiya and Dakari were
sleeping. They feel like they are getting the shaft because they are still
in school. I would love to pull them out now, but I honestly don't think dh
could handle all four of them home. It would not be a peaceful situation.



be at peace,

Maisha

<http://khalfanifamilyadventures.blogspot.com/> Khalfani Family Adventures

<http://earthspiritjourneys.blogspot.com/> EarthSpirit Journeys



From: [email protected]
[mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Karen Buxcel
Sent: Thursday, February 21, 2008 11:43 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] what can I do?



Maisha,

Would you be able to fall asleep to a quiet video going? If Khalid and
Khidar would be willing to snuggle in with you while they watch some soft,
gentle movie, maybe you could all drift off to sleep together?

Karen





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