Debra Rossing

I generally don't tie it down to one person but when I hit a wall about
something I mentally write a post and try to explain to y'all in general
what's going on. Trying to verbalize it then clarify it usually helps me
tease out where the knot of the situation is - if I have to go on long
mental tangents to explain something to y'all in my imaginary Greek
chorus, then that's something I need to think through more.

Deb


**********************************************************************
This email and any files transmitted with it are confidential and
intended solely for the use of the individual or entity to whom they
are addressed. If you have received this email in error please notify
the system manager.

This footnote also confirms that this email message has been swept by
MIMEsweeper for the presence of computer viruses.

CNC Software, Inc.
www.mastercam.com
**********************************************************************




[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

[email protected]

-----Original Message-----
From: Debra Rossing <debra.rossing@...>


I generally don't tie it down to one person but when I hit a wall about
something I mentally write a post and try to explain to y'all in general
what's going on. Trying to verbalize it then clarify it usually helps me
tease out where the knot of the situation is - if I have to go on long
mental tangents to explain something to y'all in my imaginary Greek
chorus, then that's something I need to think through more.

-=-=-=-=-

Yeah!

There are days when the lists just start getting to me. I usually take
a break then. <g>

Ben asks why I don't just stop. Close the list. Give it to someone
else. Just stop.

But *I* get so much out of the writing. I get to make sense out of it
in my own head. I get to work through how *I* could handle it better.
By reading AND writing.

If I can wrestle it down and pin-point how *I* can hog-tie it, then
maybe I'll do better myself next time. It solidifies my own thoughts
and beliefs. It helps me trust myself and my kids.

It's really handy! <G> Y'all help *ME* so much too!



~Kelly

Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
http://www.LiveandLearnConference.org


________________________________________________________________________
More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! -
http://webmail.aol.com

Alysia

"are there any unschooler single parents out there? i can't imagine
having my kids up until whenever they want to go to bed on their
own. mainly because i'm a single parent, live in a tiny 950sq foot 1
floor apt with 4 kids, i'm a light sleeper, there is so much else to
get done around the house and oh yay.....need some quiet time if
there is any time left in the day left after all that.
seriously... ?
i read these posts and can't figure out how you all do it. you make
it sound so peaceful and i'm frazzled juggling all the demands on me.
i live two hours from my family (who don't line up to take the kids
for the weekend anyway), have no contact with birth father and am
totally on my own out here."

I'm not a single parent now but I was one for about 9 years, with only one child, though. I also just spent a little over a year with my dp deployed. I have 3 kids now, one of which I had about halfway through my dp's deployment. So, I had to be a single parent temporarily.

My teenager had pretty much free reign. As long as he didn't disturb me while I was sleeping he could stay up as late as he wanted. My other 2 are younger, just turned 4 years and 7 months. We do have a bedtime with them but it's based on when everyone gets sleepy. Also, it's not written in stone. If someone falls asleep earlier, that's fine. Or, if our normal bedtime comes and someone's not sleepy, they are not forced to go to bed. I needed the bedtime just as much as the LOs because by the end of the day I was so tired that I had nothing left.

The only suggestion I have is to hire a mother's helper if you can. They are much cheaper than a housekeeper but can really take the load off of the daily chore grind. Even if you have someone come just a couple times a week, it can really help. They can also watch your kids if you'd like, so you can run a quick errand or just get a much needed 15 minute bath. My dp just got home yesterday. Last night I snuck off and took a really hot bath. It been since before he left (over a year) since I had been able to take a bath by myself.

Alysia



---------------------------------
Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]